1. CHILD TRAINING SUMMARY
PROVERBS 22:6
HEBREWS 12:5-11
DEUTERONOMY 6

2. The Goal Determines the Right Method
God’s goal as our Father Heb. 12:5-11
independent godliness (spiritual maturity)
Self-control vs. Self-indulgence
Wisdom vs. Foolishness
Responsibility vs. Irresponsibility
If the goal is to choose to godliness, with self-control, voluntary submission to God’s authority, trusting faith in God’s wisdom…

3. Godly Goal Requires the Godly Method
God’s goal as our Father Heb. 12:5-11
independent godliness (spiritual maturity)
Self-control vs. Self-indulgence
Wisdom vs. Foolishness
Responsibility vs. Irresponsibility
If the goal is to choose to godliness, with self-control, voluntary submission to God’s authority, trusting faith in God’s wisdom… What is the method to achieve goal?

4. Train The Will of the Child
Strong-willed vs. self-willed Heb.5:12-14
Control especially younger children who can’t control themselves yet
Convince be convinced & teach the child
ConsTRAIN give opportunity to practice what he is taught; make sure he obeys
Confirm reinforce right decisions & develop more opportunities for growth; use wrong decisions to teach value of principles

5. Godly Control Parental Control  Self-control
Physical coercion, bribery, etc. may work short-term on behavior
Emphasis is not on the external
God gave authority to parents Eph. 6:1-4
God gave control to the parents
Tyrannical parenting  angers, discourages
Negligent parenting  same result

6. Godly Control The child must obey. Period.
The child acts immediately upon calm instruction, the first time.
Aim for child’s respect, not affection
Authority must be taken back – not back and forth – make it permanently
Do not allow the child to argue
Do not misuse authority (i.e. bully them)
Do not try to be a “friend” in a way that lacks authority

7. Godly Instruction Instruction  Insight Deut. 6:6-9 Time Consistency
Within teaching
With other parent
With parental behavior
With reality
Coherent Reasons Deut. 6:20-25
God’s reasons to do what is right

8. Godly Constraining Discipline  Self-discipline
Child to tutor Gal. 3:23-4:7 lower than a slave
Disciple to master John 13:12-17
Example v.4-5
Instruction v.6-11,12-13,16
Command v.14-15
Promise v.17

9. Godly Constraining Let your words be few Eccl. 5:2 (rules be few)
Let your words be true Matt. 5:37 (enforced)
No rules - no training Pr 22:15
Too many rules – more chances for inconsistency

10. Godly Enforcement Rebuke only vs. restraint 1 Sam. 2:22-23; 3:13
Spanking Pr 22:15
promptly Eccl. 8:11
with instruction Prov. 29:15
with love for his soul Pr 23:13-14; 13:24
Build up deposits in emotional bank account (EMB) before making withdrawal heart exchange Prov. 23:26

11. Godly Enforcement Reward for exceptional behavior
Punishment for rebellion against God’s rules, parents’ rules, any authority
Consequences for accidents or ignorance
If correction, give explanatory rebuke
If consequences, explain cause & effect
If punishment, give meaning to discipline

12. Godly Confirmation If reward, give meaning to accomplishment
If praise, build esteem & deposits in EMB
Outcome reinforces words
Consistency & confirmation build trust
Consistency & confirmation pave way for success next time