2. Pre-Class Discussion Questions
What was your most significant single take-away from the lesson last week on Expectations and Family/In-Laws?
Why is Sexual Intimacy a big deal to God?

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4. Business Time

5. Sexual Intimacy

6. Sexual Intimacy

7. On Average, Couples Have Sex:
6 Times per Month
45 Minutes per Session

8. Which means sex makes up
0.625%
Of your married life

9. 1. We Tend to view sex as either:
Sex is god
Sex is gross
Sex is a gift

10. The Body is Good
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them… And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning, the sixth day. Genesis 1:27, 31
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:13-14a

11. Sex is Good
And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:28
Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love! Song of Solomon 5:1b

12. Sex is an Opportunity to Glorify God
So, whether you eat or drink, whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31

13. Sex is designed for marriage.
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband… But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Corinthians 7:2, 9
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexual immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4

14. Purity & Cohabitation
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Ephesians 5:3

15. Purity & Cohabitation
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh Genesis 2:24

16. II. Starting Right Wedding Night & Honeymoon
Talk about your wedding night and honeymoon expectations

17. II. Starting Right Wedding Night & Honeymoon
Take the long term view and seek to serve your spouse.

18. III. What is Permissible?
Sex cannot:
Involve others (Matthew 5:27)
Can’t hurt the other (Philippians 2:3- 4)
Can’t violate someone’s conscience (Romans 14)

19. Stripper Pole

20. What’s in Bounds Biblically?

21. What’s in Bounds Biblically?

22. What’s in Bounds Biblically?

23. What’s in Bounds Biblically?

24. IV. Growing in Intimacy Communicate your desires to your spouse
The best sex is in the best marriages
Focus on more than the climax

25. From When Two Become One, by Christopher McCluskey

26. IV. Growing in Intimacy Have eyes only for your spouse.
Focus more on your spouse’s desires than your own
Work through your past.
Make sure you talk through your sexual history with your significant other

27. What Women Wish Their Husbands Understood About Sex
Be tender, patient and slow
Everything is connected for a woman
Touch & compliments are great when they don’t always lead to sex
Women like to have fun too... Be Creative!

28. What Women Wish Their Husbands Understood About Sex
Remember sex is sacred - be careful of slang, crudeness, etc…
Take care of your body and work to look good for her
Don’t EVER compare her body to someone else’s or sex with her to sex with someone else
Pornography is completely out of bounds

29. What Men Wish Their Wives Understood About Sex
Men love it when their wives initiate sexually
There is no greater ego boost for a man than for him to satisfy his wife sexually, so help him understand how
Know your body and what feels good
Be present & engaged; don’t just simply show up and do your duty.
Most guys love oral sex (if you are comfortable with it)

30. What Men Wish Their Wives Understood About Sex
Don’t ever use sex as a bargaining chip
Lack of availability is hurtful to a man
Men are visual. Partner with him in his purity. Help him but don’t freak out
Dealing with past hurts or negative attitudes is a great gift to give to a husband
You can still have sex when you are pregnant.