2. Who are the Millennials? Tech-Savvy Pampered/ Trophies Helicopter parents Caring Optimistic Volunteer Poor work ethic? Entitled Flip-flops

3. Who are the Millennials? Ask Why? Desire Authenticity Only have known homosexuality and abortion Grew up with Iraq war and 9/11 Horizontal/ Teamwork not Up-Down Leadership Not worried too much about money but passion Diverse

4. I. See Them Needs-based You cant treat what you dont see Do you see the need? IF YOU CANT SEE THEM YOU WILL NEVER SHOW THEM HIM Busy and preoccupied, many miss them

5. III. Stabilize the Situation How do you respond to teens who approach you in times of need/ crisis? Jobs friends… Acknowledge event and reactions Dont get caught in the panic One mistake you can make…

6. III. Create Safety You have to earn the right to listen People who need you will test you… Get over self Authority from knowledge The power of your presence! Love them… Be there--physically and emotionally present

7. iV. Normalize Thoughts and Feelings Never assume the meaning of someone elses pain Sympathy is feeling bad for someone; empathy is feeling bad with someone...Psalm 23 Though I walk…thou art with me. Dont minimize or judge feelings Dont Christianize Use reflective listening and validate feelings even if you dont agree Reframe meaning of story

8. iV. Normalize Thoughts and Feelings 1. Listen instead of offering opinions 2. Dont judge 3. Seek information 4. Dont assume their pain 5. Reflective listening 6. Open-ended questions 7. Validate feelings even if you dont agree

9. V. develop Structure Tell them what they need to do…they need direction and will listen to you if you are safe. Get good things going for them Short term success breeds success Baby steps

10. VI. Support Help them stay with whats working Mentoring Get all going in same direction…

11. VIi. Refer when necessary Know your limitations Dont over commit yourself

12. VIII. Conclusion The most important tool you have… Acts 4:13 You may be the only Jesus they ever see Psalm 44…He knows the secrets of our heart Psalm 139…Search my heart OLord Psalm 19:14 1 Corinthians 13 John 3:30 John 5:15 Are you loving well? John 15:17