1. Response Abilities Pathways
An Outline of
Response Abilities Pathways

2. Some Key Concepts
Young people depend on adults for emotional security.

3. Pain and the Brain
Experiences that trigger stress and trauma cause pain to register in the anterior cingulate cortex in the brain
(Anglia; Dowman)

4. Fighting Pain With Pain
Most traditional approaches to discipline centre around the use of punishment.

5. With PAIN-BASED BEHAVIOUR
Tit for Tat Emotional Reaction (ER) Cycles
2005 Circle of Courage
emotion
emotion
reaction
reaction
Young person reacts
With PAIN-BASED BEHAVIOUR
Adult reacts
With PAIN-BASED
DISCIPLINE

6. ‘…….look beyond my faults to find my needs’
We Need an Alternative Approach
‘…….look beyond my faults to find my needs’
Lyric by Joyce Reba Rambo

7. The Circle of Courage
Generosity
Independence
Belonging
Mastery

8. Circle of Courage - Research Foundations
Resilience Research
Self-Worth Research
Belonging
Opportunities to establish trusting connections
Mastery
Opportunities to solve problems and meet goals
Independence
Opportunities to develop self-control and responsibility
Generosity
Opportunities to show respect and concern
Attachment
Motivation to affiliate and form social bonds
Achievement
Motivation to work hard and attain excellence
Autonomy
Motivation to manage self and exert influence
Altruism
Motivation to help and be of service to others
Significance
The individual believes, “I am important”
Competence
The individual believes, “I can solve problems”
Power
The individual believes, “I set my life pathway”
Virtue
The individual believes, “My life has purpose”

9. Disconnected Kids
High Risk Behaviours of Young People With Weak Bonds to Adults

10. The First Stage of RAP - Connecting
The human brain has programs that motivate us to connect to others.
Young people connect to adults and peers who meet their needs.
Respect
Trust
Empowerment
Understanding

11. The Private Logic of Adult Wary Kids – Barriers to Connection
FIGHT – HURT OR BE HURT
Threat display: I am dangerous
Power display: I am the boss
Pay back: I’ll make them suffer
FLIGHT: HIDE OR BE HURT
Isolate: Shut out people
Retreat: Shut out the pain
Escape: I can’t take any more
FOOL: OUTSMART THEM
Deceiving: Charm and disarm
Diversion: Act dumb and crazy
Mind games: Insult and provoke
FOLLOW: BAND TOGETHER
Peer power: Follow friends
Alpha Power: Follow the leader
Contagion: Follow the crowd

12. Bidding To Connect
We need to recognise when kids make bids to connect with us.

13. The Second Stage of RAP - Clear Thinking From Risk to Resilience
Challenge Logic Emotions Actions Results
Challenge What event triggered the stress?
Logic What thoughts came to mind?
Emotions What feelings triggered action?
Actions What coping strategy was used?
Results What consequences followed?

14. Minimising and Mislabeling
BAMMS Thinking Errors
Blaming
Others always try to start fights with me.
I’m worthless and don’t deserve to live.
Assuming the Worst
You can’t trust anybody – they always lie to you.
No matter how hard I try, I always fail.
Minimising and Mislabeling
Everyone does it so what’s the big deal?
So I slapped her around – she’s just a ho!
Self-centred
If I see something I like, it’s mine.
Why should I care? I take care of myself.

15. Rescripting is a Key
Scripts are terms or phrases designed to influence thinking. Done well, they have the power to alter private logic.
A Sample Belonging Script
It’s great to have you here.
A Sample Mastery Script
A great kid like you – I know you’re going to be able to handle it.
A Sample Independence Script
Seems to me you’re a person who likes to think for themselves.
A Sample Generosity Script
Thank you for helping out.

16. The Third Stage of RAP - Restoring With the Circle of Courage
STRENGTHS PROBLEMS RESTORATIVE GOALS
Belonging
trust
friendly
Warm
gregarious
accepting
Alienation
guarded
withdrawn
unattached
lonely
rejected
Belonging/Attachment a. b.
Mastery
achievement
focused
creative
persistent
organised
Incompetence
inadequacy
unmotivated
confused
defeatist
cheat
Mastery/Achievement
Independence
responsible
confident
self-disciplined
leader
assertive
Irresponsibility
unreliable
helplessness
undisciplined
easily misled
rebellious
Independence/Autonomy
Generosity
respectful
sharing
kind
empathic
supportive
Selfishness
selfish
vengeful
exploitative
self-centred
indifferent
Generosity/Altruism

17. Making Caring Fashionable