1. Rachel Cipriano, MHS E3+Fire Speaker/ Author/ Coach www.rachelcipriano.com rachelcipriano@ameritech.net 630-701-4827 Blog: http://www.rachelcipriano.com under ‘Musings’http://www.rachelcipriano.com

2. SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM SELF ACCEPTANCE------Embracing all facets of ourselves; strengths, weaknesses. Acceptance of our humanity. SELF-ESTEEM-------How valuable/ worthwhile we see ourselves.

4. SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM

5. PERFECTIONISM A disposition to regard anything short of perfection unacceptable.

7. DAVID BURNS, MD “Remember that fear always lurks lurks behind behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing allowing you yourself the right to be human can be human ca paradoxically, make you a happier, make you a f more productive person.”

9. SYMPTOMS OF PERFECTIONISM 1) Judgmental 2) Chronic dissatisfaction 3) Controlling 4) Negativity 5) Anxiety 6) Depression

11. PERFECTIONISM AND ITS SPECIFIC FEARS Rejection Failure Success Inadequacy

12. MASK FEAR WITH PRIDE

14. TOOLS FOR SELF-ACCEPTANCE Accept yourself like you would accept a good friend See your “bad” traits in a positive light Stop judging yourself Allow yourself the luxury of failure

15. PARADOX OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND SELF-ACTUALIZATION THEY REQUIRE-------- HUMILITY: “The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance; lowliness of mind; a modest estimate of one's own worth.”

17. “ Humility does not mean a person is low in self-acceptance, is self- sacrificing or self-critical. It is self- assurance that is without self- centeredness and which has the courage to value other people.”

18. SELF-ACTUALIZATION Self-acceptance Humility Leadership/ Service to others Cooperation Joy Humor Passion Energy

21. Rachel Cipriano, MHS E3+Fire Speaker/ Author/ Coach www.rachelcipriano.com rachelcipriano@ameritech.net 630-701-4827