2. Help the Care Giver discover blockages Emotions Attitudes That may be inhibiting their effectiveness Help the Care Giver recognize conduits New or different approaches Toolsincluding Faith and uniquely Christian methods That may dissolve blockages and allow the care giving process to continue to a conclusion

3. A. The Caring Relationship B. Spiritual Nature of the Caring Relationship C. Direction of the Caring Relationship D. Care Givers Feelings about the process E. Care Givers Skills F. Care Givers Personal Growth G. Care Receivers Situation H. Possible Mental Health referral

4. Listen to the answers Dont listen for the answers (there are no right answers) The responses contain clues that suggest the next question(s) Check your own attitude as you question/listen Loving support is the best attitude No judgment No witch hunts No need to make a point

5. What is my attitude? Be aware at all times What is my reason for asking this question? You dont need to volunteer this but you must be aware of it Imagine that it is Jesus who you are questioning What emotion(s) am I feeling as I ask? Why? What is the source of that emotion? Ownership I sense, I feel, I need, I am Avoid you Avoid why

6. I can be more effective These people are trying to help me in that I focused responses I am I feel I sense I will Look inside yourself at all times What am I feeling? Why?

7. There is no magic in the Focus Questions They are a good place to start The Sets provide a good way to organize and direct efforts Any question that you would ask Jesus is appropriate The Care Giver should never doubt that we are completely focused on his/her best interests as well as those of their care receiver.

8. Our goal is to become more like Christ every day Secondarily, we want to help others become more like Christ every day What are the qualities of Christ that we want for ourselves? Loving Assertive Courageous in Faith …

9. I want to grow I want you to grow Well grow together when we Commit Trust Love Believe Give