1. Respect in the Workplace
Culture of Respect
What is Respect
Diversity
Harassment/Discrimination
What to do about it?

2. ASC Culture of Respect
We agree to show respect for all with our words and actions that reflect that we recognize other people as human beings
Is there anyone who wants to be treated with disrespect?
PAUSE after last question

3. The Golden Rule
Treat human beings as you want to be treated as a human being

4. We are all the same Human Beings Feelings/emotions
We all feel pain, we all bleed in we are cut
Work to provide for ourselves and our families
We expect to be treated with respect
At work
In a restaurant
At the bank
At the doctor’s office
We all feel hurt by name calling

5. Types of Disrespect Discrimination Stereotyping Harassment Bullying
FOUR TYPES OF DISRESCEPT

6. Discrimination
Discrimination – with our words or actions we treat certain individuals or groups differently
ASC Services
ASC Workplace
Discrimination – refusing to serve food or sell books to Asian students
Treating them differently from other students; can be as simple as asking everyone if you want pickles with their sandwich. If you asked threes students ahead me if the wanted pickles and I am a black student I wonder why what is different? Good Customer service at all times helps to avoid different treatment which is the basis for discrimination.
Offer to assist only female coworkers and not male coworker is discrimination.
If ASC only gave leave of absence for men with broken legs or ruptured appendixes but not to women who have a baby. Treating men and women with medical emergencies differently.
A foreign exchange student from U.K. who order “ chips” with her hamburger while pointing at French fries. The employee told the student “learn to speak English.” She was speaking English. Here is a strange country that took a lot of bravery. Treating this way was disrespectful.
Pop vs. Soda
Bars vs. Cookies

7. Stereotypes *We give everyone in a certain group the same attributes
The attributes do not have to be negative
*We are all different, even within groups
* We put others in boxes
ANOTHER TYPE OF DISRESPECT THAT CONTRIBUTES TO DISCRIMINATION
What are some stereotypes? All __________blank_______are
All muslems are terrorists.
All homosexual men are effeminate.
All homosexual women are tough.
Anyone who likes country music is a redneck.
All college students like greasy, fried, fast food.
All vegetarians are weird.
Anyone who graduated from college is stuck up.
All older people are hard of hearing
EVEN WITHIN GROUPS WE ARE DIFFERENT
Just look at this group a lot of us may see a group of people like us but even in the group we are different. Age, gender, sexual orientation, abilities, educations, our families are all different.
Each of us has something to offer the this workplace and this campus. What ideas will not be heard because of stereotypes????

8. Harassment
Harassment – with our words or actions we make the workplace uncomfortable and hostile for individuals or groups

9. Sexual Harrassment Hostile behavior based on someone’s gender
Quid Pro Quo – This for that
Hostile behavior because someone is a woman or a man – this can include men harassing men and women harassing women
Sundowner case
Charm school lawyer
Sexual favors for workplace benefits like a promotion or to keep your job
Menitor savings bank

10. Harassment -Hostile Environment
Unwanted
Physical
Verbal
Visual
Hostile means “of the enemy”
Hostile fire in war is gunshots from the enemy
TYPES
Touching, Barricading
Jokes, slurs, slang, nicknames, name calling
Posters, defacing someone picture, , screen savers

11. Harassment
Some harassment is simply not understanding what is disrespectful to others who are different
And some harassment is willful
From the video, we need to understand what is offending to others.

12. Bullying
A form of harassment - the willful, conscious desire to hurt another and put him/her under stress
Social alienation - Jokes
Gossiping - Name calling
Embarrassing others - Physical violence
Rumors
Threats
Taking personal items 20
Rein of terror
Truly of the enemy – hostile on purpose
School yard bully who takes your lunch money – does he know this will hurt you – yes
Gossiping about others because they do not have anything constructive or positive in their own lives
Alienate new employees because they are afraid of sharing what few friends they have; they have trouble making friends

13. Bullying Victims are often weaker or in a position of subordination
Acts out only when others are not around
Hiding their own inadequacies
Research has shown are often abusers of family members
Biggest kid on the playground
Older, more senior, been around longer; Full time employee to student employee
Supervisor, professor or police – positions of power
The school yard bully acts when the teacher is not around; when the supervisor is not around; because they cannot deal with the consequences; because they know what they are doing is wrong
Hiding inadequacies
SHOW STRIP CLUB VIDEO

14. What is unacceptable at ASC?
Illegal
Unwelcomed
Change work conditions
Based on protected criteria
Severe/multiple occasions
ASC
Disrespectful
Unacceptable to ASC does not require it to be illegal
Illegal what you hear about on the news regarding court cases.

15. We are diverse, respect may mean different things to different people
Understand that differences exist
Talking with your coworkers and watch the body language
Being flexible to new ideas and ways of doing things
Read articles or watch television programs that highlight other cultures
Really listen watch body language – overweight man – did he laugh, wince, hesitate.

16. How to prevent disrespecting others
Think before you speak – “Will this offend someone?” “Am I SURE?”
G-rated workplace
Not everyone shares your attitudes and comfort levels
Avoid negative comments about others
She is really stupid
He is strange 30
Discuss movie ratings some things belong or don’t belong in the workplace

17. How to prevent disrespecting others
Avoid spreading rumors and gossip
Jokes – fun or play is never at the expense of someone else
Nicknames should not be given
Nicknames – calling anyone by anything but their first name or Mr. Smith or Mrs. Brown or Ms. Johnson or a name they have told you to call them.
Calling people by their last name only is disrespectful, calling everyone by some silly name like Herb or Joe
Do not use Honey, Sweetie,
Do we do some of these thing unconsciously – I call everyone that.
Sue pointed out once that when I describe someone as a kid it was male and when I called them a student they were always female.

18. How to prevent disrespecting others
Socialization in the workplace is normal
Some behaviors are not professional
Asking someone out
Discussing private matters at work
Displays of affection are not appropriate in the workplace.
Asking someone out once is fine; repeatedly asking someone becomes disrespectful and perhaps harassing. Asking someone out should take place outside of work – after work, call them on the phone.

19. How to prevent disrespecting others
Respect personal space
Never assume touching is welcome
Beware of offensive gestures
Remember other cultures interpret them differently
Thumb’s up in Greece or Iraq means “up yours”
All fingers extended ,palm down and thrust at the person in Greece is an extreme offense
Japan – four fingers extended, thumb in, palm down thrust at a person is very offensive

20. How to prevent disrespecting others
Pictures
Defiling someone’s photo
Suggestive cartoons, calendars and other
Threats
Anyone think a picture that would be a treat? Noose, knife, torn
Show video “In this together”
This video clip is part of a video that asks and answers several questions – the ones we will view are
#4 If what I say offends you …
I will wait until you are not around
I’m just being real
I’ll stop
#5 What is the rule about sexual attraction at work?
Look don’t touch
Look if they want you to
Don’t look don’t touch

21. What to do with disrespect?
Disrespect based on the protect factors: race, gender, religion, national origin, age, sexual orientation, disability, genetic predisposition, carrier status, veteran status, or martial status should be reported immediately to a manager, the Human Resources Manager or the Executive Director according the Non Discrimination Non Harassment Policy
Remember we talked about some disrespect is more horrible than others. ASC has two ways to deal with each of the types of disrespect.

22. Other Disrespect
Address the person who is committing the disrespect because of non-protected factors
Pick a good time
Eliminate emotions
Be specific
Ask them to stop
Listen to the harasser’s response
“ When you tease me in front of others it embarrasses me. I would like you to stop.”

23. Other disrespect
If the behavior continues or retaliation occurs when you confront non-protected disrespect please notify your manager, the Human Resources Manager and the Executive Director.

24. I did not mean to disrespect you
Accept their feelings
Apologize for not understanding their point of view
Agree not to do it again
Do not repeat that behavior in the workplace
You do not have to agree or disagree. This isn’t about right and wrong it is about do unto others.

25. Responsibility
We are all responsible for the reasonable perceptions of our own behavior
Perception is reality
Victim’s perspective rules
Doug Gillogly bull whip incident

26. Culture of Respect
We agree to show respect for all with our words and actions that reflect that we recognize other people as human beings