1. Grieving

2. LOSS Death of a loved one Death of a pet Loss of a job Loss of a role
Loss of a home
Loss of friends
Loss of being needed
Loss of health
Loss of independence

3. Inappropriate responses
It’s not that important
I just need to move on straightaway
I’ll get over it if I keep myself busy
I need to lose myself in a good book/film
I don’t want to burden others
In other words, SUPPRESS

4. Inappropriate responses
People aren’t interested in my sadness
If I show my emotions I will be rejected
It is safer for me to withdraw
In other words, REPRESS

5. Inappropriate responses
My sister feels it more than me, she’s depressed
One of my colleagues is really angry
The old lady is devastated
The children miss their friends
It’s more work for my husband/wife
In other words attributing your emotions to others, PROJECTION

6. Inappropriate responses
My job is gone, it’s not worth getting up
My friends are lost, I won’t bother to go out
Life has hurt me it doesn’t matter what I do
I’m miserable, Iife isn’t worth living
In other words, EXPRESSING negatively

7. Appropriate responses
Express positively
Have a memorial service
Make a ceremony for pet death
Have memory swap of good times
Make a scrapbook of memories

8. Appropriate or right responses
Confess our feelings to God and to others
Talk about what has happened
Explore our feelings and try to understand causes
Meditate on God’s faithfulness

9. Use the Bible to help
Psalms:
Psalm 142
Psalm 43
Psalm13