1. Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

2.  The journey or conversion from a rather external and vague level of faith, typical of many young people, to a discovery of the "Christian mystery" is both essential and decisive: a faith that involves the communion of Grace and love with the Risen Christ. (Preparation for the Sacrament of Marriage, 25) Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

4.  the “fundamental cell of society and the Church” (Vatican II)  the sanctuary of life (John Paul II)  the domestic church (Vatican II, John Paul II)  “the first and indispensable teacher of peace.” (Benedict XVI, Message for World Day of Peace, 2008) Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

5. Society = Relationships

6. 60 50 40 30 20 10 0 Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

7. 60 50 40 30 20 10 0 Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

9. IDEAL OF FAMILY PRESENCE IN SOCIETY/CHURCH

10. REALITY OF FAMILY

11. (**2.11 children born per woman necessary to sustain a population)  France—1.9  Germany—1.3  Japan—1.2  Italy—1.2  Spain—1.2  U.S.—2.11 Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

12. ’07 U.S. Births Break Baby Boom Record New York Times By ERIK ECKHOLMERIK ECKHOLM Published: March 18, 2009 More babies were born in the United States in 2007 than in any other year in American history, according to preliminary data reported Wednesday by the National Center for Health Statistics. …The 4,317,000 births in 2007 just edged out the figure for 1957, at the height of the baby boom. The increase reflected a slight rise in childbearing by women of all ages, including those in their 30s and 40s, and a record share of births to unmarried women. …The new report also found that the share of births to unmarried women of all ages reached a record high of 40 percent of all births in 2007, the most recent data available. This continued a marked trend upward in unwed births since 2002. The growth has mainly been fueled by increases among adult women, Ms. Ventura said. Racial and ethnic differences remain large: 28 percent of white babies were born to unmarried mothers in 2007, compared with 51 percent of Hispanic babies and 72 percent of black babies. The shares of births to unwed mothers among whites and Hispanics have climbed faster than the share among blacks, but from lower starting points. Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

13. Idealistic Noble Hopes Sense that “Love Conquers All” Strong sense of equality in relationship Concern for providing for each other/children

14. Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan Fear Woundedness Unrealistic Expectations Weak Catechesis Cohabitation Multiple Sexual Encounters “Dark Rooms”— areas not communicated

15. The “Familial Matrix” in the local culture obscures increasingly the meaning and importance of marriage:  Often few positive, stable examples in couple’s lives/subsequently, fear of commitment  Decrease in marriages of all types [example: Diocese of Phoenix marriages1993 (1,542 total marriages) -2007 (1,389 total marriages)]  Example 2: Since 1993, in the four counties that make up the Diocese of Phoenix, despite an increase of approx. 1 million people, marriages have remained steady in number (about 15,000 per year). Divorces have increased (17,000-23,000) during this period.  Meteoric rise in cohabitation, with far less expectation of marital success  Fundamental disconnect between marriage and children (loss of “child-centeredness,” Popenoe, 2006) ◦ Popular examples reinforce trend Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

16. The Church has the “map” to a successful marriage, even a joy-filled marriage. Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

17.  Couples who live marriage according to the teachings of the Church—in particular, Natural Family Planning ◦ Have a <4% Divorce Rate ◦ Report greater marital satisfaction ◦ Tend to live more joyous, fruitful marriages ◦ Tend to see difficulty/suffering as a part of marriage, even see it can have positive effects on their character and marriage Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

18. 1. John Paul II: “a serious preparation of young people for marriage, one which clearly presents Catholic teaching on this sacrament at the theological, anthropological, and spiritual levels.” (CA 46) 2. Instruction in prayer, as couple 3. Confirmation of their true desires, clear warnings about counterfeit love 4. Heroes: Mentor Couples where possible 5. A personal encounter with Jesus Christ 6. Follow-Up: What Sustains after Wedding? 7. Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

19. During the 20 th Century, the Magisterium of the Church has explicitly taught with greater and greater urgency the need for more thorough preparation for marriage:  Casti Connubii, Pope Pius XI, 1930, Sections 112-115  Gaudium et Spes, Vatican II, 1965, Section 49  Familiaris Consortio, Pope John Paul II, 1981, Section 51  Letter to Families, Pope John Paul II, 1994, Section 16  Preparation for the Sacrament of Marriage, Pontifical Council for the Family, 1996 The US Conference of Catholic Bishops:  2004-2011, National Pastoral Initiative on Marriage— “Our Highest Priority”  For Your Marriage Website For Your Marriage Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

20. Initial Policy—1978 2 nd Policy—1998 Covenant of Love— Promulgation—July 26, 2009 Implementation—January 1, 2010 Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

21. 1. Church teaching and signs of the times; (What?) 2. Laity’s right to marriage in balance with duty to prepare. (What?) 3. Quality, effective approaches from other dioceses throughout the country which address these core points without overwhelming available resources; (How?) 4. Input from diocesan leaders: (Honing the What? How?)  Priests  Deacons  Lay Leaders 5. Programs offering more thorough catechesis/evangelization regarding sacramentality and sexuality, while still being user-friendly, trainable; (How?) 6. NFP readiness; (When?) 7. “Marketing” aids to parishes (How best to assist?) Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

22. 1. 2005—Research begins; 2. 2007—Drafting team formed:  Clergy  Lay Leaders in parish MP, Spanish MP 3. April 2008—First Draft produced; 4. Summer 2008 —Official Readers give input; 5. September 2008 —Pres. Council; 6. Sept-Nov 2008—Clergy review, give feedback, Presented for vote to Pres. Council; 7. Dec. 2008—April 2009 Policy Committee review; 8. April-July 2009—Final Draft reviewed and approved by Bishop Olmsted, Promulgation Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

23.  Three stages of Marriage Preparation: ◦ Remote ◦ Proximate ◦ Immediate Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

24.  Describes the Process of Marriage Preparation.  Gives 5 Policy Points for 2010-forward Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

25. 1998-2009: What is the difference? Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan 1998 Policy 1. Some analysis of current issues, explanation of God’s plan and Pastoral response to crisis 2. Parish/Diocesan programs encouraged 3. Basic trainings for MPM’s and MPL’s 4. Two courses required (approx. 14 hrs.) 5. Introduction to Natural Family Planning 6. Cost of Preparation: $275 (Dioc. schol. available with MPM request) 7. Six-month prep period 2009-10 Policy 1. Analysis, diagnosis, theological understanding, pastoral response deepened 2. Parish/Diocesan/Online programs encouraged 3. More thorough training 4. Three courses required (approx. 26 hrs) 5. Full course in an approved method of NFP 6. Cost of Preparation: $315 (Dioc. schol. available with MPM request) 7. Nine month prep period 8. Appendix updating pastoral approach to cohabitation/sexually active couples

26. 1. Jan 1: A couple meets with Pastor or his delegate, parish starts couple’s Nuptial File. 2. Jan : Pre-nuptial inquiry (no “date” until completed) and FOCCUS inventory 3. Jan-Mar: Married Life Skills Course (weekend or 6-7 evenings)-ex: Love for Life, Engaged Encounter, Unitas or other approved program. 4. Mar-June: God’s Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage -this will include the NFP Introduction 5. April- July: Full NFP Course (4 meetings) 6. Aug 15—Sept 15: Reconciliation 7. Aug 1-Sept 1: Final meeting with Pastor or his delegate October 1 st Wedding Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

27.  Profile of Couples Seeking Marriage !!!!!!!!!  Theology of Marriage Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

28.  Marriage Preparation Ministers (Clergy) and Lay Leaders (p. 25)  Special Circumstances (with Couples, p. 26)  Pastoral Care after Marriage (p.35) Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

29.  Appendix I: Pastoral Care of Sexually Active/Cohabitating Couples ◦ Assessment of the Situation ◦ Goals Working with Couples ◦ Determining Final Course of Action  Appendix II: Pastoral Consideration of Prenuptial Agreements Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

31. Purpose: Deeper, more Evangelistic and Catechetical course in Sacramentality of Marriage and the Implications for a Couple’s sexual relationship. Format—single day or two-session, DVD/booklet and well-trained instructor couples, clergy (ideally a team of two couples and a priest or deacon) Six Segments: 1. Salvation History: Old Testament 2. Salvation History: New Testament 3. Canon Law: Defining Marriage 4. Sexual Honesty Before Marriage 5. Sexual Honesty Within Marriage 6. Intro to NFP Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan

32.  Brochure of “Steps” for couples;  Videos: ◦ For couples: 26-28 min in length ◦ For Mass use: 8-9 min in length  Website: ourcovenantoflovephx.org (purpose: explanation, catechesis; posting of trainings and registration for any Diocesan courses for your couples)  More thorough MP certification course;  Trainings for parish personnel in Covenant of Love and related programs (see insert for current schedule in fall) Orientation Sept 11 '09 Mike Phelan