1. Make an Investment In Your Greatest Resource! By Jim Scott PhD.

2. Hopes and goals Share stories/concepts. Provoke thought. Learn skills. Examine challenges. Have fun.

3. Overview Warm up Assets, Liabilities and Realities My Approach to Our Best Life PARS Plus

4. P riorities-Purpose -Passion A ttitudes R ituals S kills

5. PARS Challenge List Priorities Attitude Rituals Skills Setting Boundaries Reducing Anxiety Worry Reduction Future Focus – Desired Life Time management Thought Restructuring Letting Go of the Past

6. Ground rules: If you have questions ask them. Discussion Have Fun

7. IDENTIFY THREE ASSETS

8. Think of Three

9. How did you spend your day yesterday?

10. IDENTIFY SOMETHING YOU DO TO RECOVER FROM THE DAY.

11. So what gets the way of living your best life?

12. “Stuff Happens Forrest Gump Which of these has affected your life?

13. ELEMENTS OF CHANGE Loss Foundational Changes Values shift Relationship issues Instability Increasing media influence Rate of change Polarizing

15. SYMPTOMS OF A LIFESTYLE OUT OF BALANCE - SHORT TERM Anxiety Muscle Tension Problems Sleep Disorders Intestinal Problems Depression Immune System Circulatory Issues Compulsive Behaviors

16. Long Term Effects Heart Disease Cancer Immune system Diabetes Circulatory Issues Gastrointestinal Diseases Compromises Recovery Addictive Behaviors

17. THE REAL ISSUE IS NOT CHANGE BUT HOW YOU CHOOSE TO RESPOND!

18. Liabilities Denial Ignorance Lack of Clear Personal Priorities

19. Greatest Assets Health Ability to Change, Work and Play

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21. “LIFE IS LIKE A TWO MINUTE WARNING ” “FORREST GUMP” TIME TO MAKE CHOICES

22. Anxiety Reduction CHALLENGE 1

23. FACTORS TO REDUCE ANXIETY 1. Thoughtful Nutrition 2. Tension Release and Diversion Physical Activity Hobbies Physical Work 3. Quick relaxation technique

24. Challenge 1 CLEAR Priorities Passion & Purpose

25. Simplicity Order Energy Power

26. Focus on Your Desired Future Challenge 2 Where is your focus? What you focus on grows.

27. Time Management is based on one’s priorities In relationships to one’s goals and dreams. Time is one asset that will never appreciate in principle.

28. PITFALLS OF MANAGING TIME How many of these behaviors do you maintain?

29. DISORGANIZATION Is this you?

30. LACK OF DIRECTION How do you know where you are going?

31. TOO MANY PRIORITES If everything is important, then nothing is Important.

32. LOST TIME How do you lose time?

33. PROCRASTINATION

34. THE INABILITY TO MAINTAIN PERSONAL BOUNDARIES Do you say yes too often?

35. If you always do, what you have always done, you will always get, WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT!

36. Setting Boundaries “Good fences make good neighbors” Challenge 3 Set Boundaries “Good Fences Make Good Neighbors”

38. Saying “ No” is a skill

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40. ELEMENTS OF SAYING “NO ” Positive feeling message Negative content message Positive feeling message.

41. Positive Feeling Response: Thank you for asking. I can hear this is important to you! I appreciate you thinking of me. I can’t imagine the task that you have in front of you.

42. NEGATIVE CONTENT I would be glad to help you if you will…. I would be glad to take you to the mall when… I am not available but feel free to ask me next week.

43. Positive Feeling Conclusion: Thank you again for considering me. I appreciate your thinking of me. Feel free to call me next year. If you can give me a weeks notice I would be glad to help you out.

44. REFUSAL SKILLS Focus on what you will do, not on what they have to do. You are welcome to … but I am going to stay. Thank you for offering but I am not hungry.

45. Challenge 4 Own your feelings

47. “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I choose to do about it! All I can do is play on the one string I have and that is my attitude !” Charles Swindoll Charles Swindoll

49. CREATE AN AttitudeOfGratitude

50. GIVE BACK Get out of yourself!

51. Compliments to Attitude Thoughtful Nutrition Physical Activity Redirect Negative thoughts Get out of yourself Get out of yourself Reduce the amount of power you give to someone or something Reduce the amount of power you give to someone or something Strengthen Beliefs

52. Live each day as if it were your last.

53. “STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES!” FORREST GUMP

54. WORRY WORRY Challenge 5

55. THE NATURE OF WORRY

56. Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere. Erma Bombeck, God's Little Erma Bombeck, God's Little Erma Bombeck Erma Bombeck Devotional Book for mothers US author & humorist (1927 - 1996) Devotional Book for mothers US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)

57. If you always think What you always thought, You will always feel What you always felt!

58. CONDITIONAL THINKING INCREASES POTENTIAL ANXIETY.

59. So what can you do? Seek Action Action

60. HOLDING ON CAN BE A PROBLEM!

61. Negative Stuck in the past Fatigued Full of Resentment Sarcastic Angry HOLDING-ON BEHAVIORS

62. LETTING GO IS A SOURCE OF POWER Challenge 6 Challenge 6

63. Forgiveness

64. OPTIONS Seek help Seek help Talk to a friend or spouse Talk to a friend or spouse Talk to a clergy Talk to a clergy Seek counseling Seek counseling Get on line and look for support groups Get on line and look for support groups Prayer Prayer Journaling Journaling

65. CHALLENGE 7 CREATE RITUALS

66. Do daily activities that rejuvenate and restore you physically, mentally and spiritually. physically, mentally and spiritually.

67. Reflect Daily How is it going? What can I improve? What next?

69. Muscular Strength and Muscular Endurance Cardio Flexibility SEEK TO BE PHYSICAL

70. Take time to meditate – pray- Decompress daily

71. HUMOR “Laughter is the best medicine”

73. Eat to live… Eat consciously

74. Less is More:

75. SEEK HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

77. BE EXPRESSIVE

78. GROW YOURSELF NEW EACH DAY.

79. Don’t die with the music still in side.

80. Seek Skills Challenge 8

81. Life is measured not by the number of breaths we take but by the number of experiences that take our breath away!

82. JIM SCOTT PHD. If you have questions or concerns please feel free to contact me. Website: http://drjimscott.weebley.comhttp://drjimscott.weebley.com E-mail: scottjamesj@comcast.netscottjamesj@comcast.net