1.  One-on-one  One-on-team  One-on-audience 1

2.  You can choose to lead at three levels, behavior, thinking, and values, if you’re aware of them.  Level Three Leadership is the most powerful.  Understand your own VABE’s.  Choose which VABEs you will perpetuate in the world; transcend those you choose not to.  You can choose to lead at three levels, behavior, thinking, and values, if you’re aware of them.  Level Three Leadership is the most powerful.  Understand your own VABE’s.  Choose which VABEs you will perpetuate in the world; transcend those you choose not to. 2

3. Life’s Story  Mine and Refine your Life’s Story  Significant Emotional Events (SEEs) have lessons; turn happenings into experiences.  Use  Use your life’s lessons to influence others. 3

4.  Learn to listen carefully and reflectively to content (VABEs) and emotion.  Reflect your understanding to Other to confirm.  Know when to play this tool and when not to. 4

5.  Pay attention to how you want to feel every day.  Polar bear or penguin?  Find your resonance and live it. er sucker  Be an energiz er not an energy sucker. Mood is infectious. 5

6.  Create a Personal Charter  CONFIDENCE  What’s your purpose?  What’s your vision?  What are your core VABEs?  What’s your strategy?  What are your short-term goals?  WHO’s going to decide these things? MissionMissionVisionVision Values and Intended Feel Values and Intended Feel ST Goals LEADERSHIP Strategy 6

7. PRINCIPLESTACTICS  Clear  Memorable  Authentic  Respectful  Lose your “buts”  Speak in 1 st person  Don’t disguise opinions as questions  Use E-Prime language  Re-direct, don’t kill  Recognize and address VABEs 7

8.  Find  Find your “voice”  Listen  Listen to the Other’s voice heard  Let your voice be heard, in the “right” way. 8