1. Building the Heart of Successful Schools December 5, 2013 Improving Child/Student Relationships Through the Use of Love and Logic

2. Logic Logic allows kids to live with the consequences of their choices. Love Love allows kids to grow through their mistakes.

3. Love and Logic’s Big Messages Children: Learn to take responsibility for their actions and own their problems Learn to solve problems they create Become excellent problem solvers Use mistakes as learning opportunities

4. Sample Budget Program was paid for through AODA grant about $1,500 per program 15 hours each for 2 staff members $400 for meals/food/snack 14 hours of associate pay for childcare NOTE: Program could be run for less

5. Held for five or six consecutive weeks Offered to families and staff at six schools in our district throughout the year Programs are free to parents (Could charge $10 for the cost of the book) Some meals and childcare are provided Programs range from 8 to 25 families Becoming a Love and Logic Parent ©

6. Module 1 Raising Responsible Kids Four Steps to Responsibility 1.Give the child a task he/she can handle 2. Hope that the child “blows” it 3.Let equal parts of empathy and consequences do the teaching 4.Give the same task again Your Kids Don’t make Enough Mistakes (5.50)

7. Step 1: Give the child a task he/she can handle *Builds responsibility *Prepares them for the world *Develops self-concept Step 2: Hope that the child “blows” it *…so the child has a learning experience when the price is small Four Steps to Responsibility

8. Step 4: Give the same task again *Sends implied message: “You’re smart and I know you can learn from your mistakes” Step 3: Let equal parts of empathy and consequence do the teaching *Empathy allows learning to occur, builds relationships, stimulates thinking *Consequences allow children to own the problem Four Steps to Responsibility

9. Module 2 The Love and Logic Formula Control That’s Shared Ownership of the Problem Opportunity for Thinking/Decision Making Let Empathy and Consequences Do the Teaching

10. Module 3 Control That’s Shared The Science of Control The Art of Control Choices I Can Live With DEPOSITS INTO THE ACCOUNT (6.35)

11. Module 4 Ownership of the Problem Parenting Styles: Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants Guiding Children to Own and Solve Their Problems

12. Module 5 Opportunity for Thinking Setting Limits Thinking Words vs Fighting Words Turning Your Words From Garbage to Gold

13. Module 6 Let Empathy and Consequences Do the Teaching Consequences vs Punishments Empathy and Consequences vs Anger Constructing Logical Consequences I’LL BE READING IN MY ROOM (2.28)

14. Module 7 Wrap It Up and Take It Home Value of chores Applying the COOL formula A “D” IN SPELLING (5.35)

15. Parenting The Love & Logic Way 1.Putting an end to arguing, back talk, and begging 2. Teaching responsibility without losing their love 3. Setting limits without waging war

16. Parenting The Love & Logic Way 4. Avoiding power struggles 5. Guiding kids to own and solve their problems 6. Teaching kids to complete chores, without reminders and without pay

17. Early Childhood-Parenting Made Fun © Class is for ages: birth to 6 5 week program  How to Handle Misbehavior Without Breaking a Sweat  Teaching Kids to Listen the First Time  Avoiding Power Struggles  Limits Create Happier Parents, Happier Kids, and Happier Families  What to Do When Your Kids Leave You Speechless

18. Creative Alternatives “Thinking Outside the Box” One-Day “Awareness Blast” Parents of Teens - prolonged frustration - entrenched behaviors - additional children in family

19. Benefits of Offering the Parenting Program Great home/school connection Common language between home and school Staff who attend experience success at a personal level and are eager to use it professionally

21. 9 Essential Skills Educate yourself Gain administrative support Recruit key people Introduce the Essential Skills Step 1 Where do I begin?

22. Staff Development Options Book Study: Teaching With Love and Logic A Salamander Is Not a Fish (administrator focus) Creating Classrooms Where Teachers Love to Teach and Students Love to Learn DVD or CD: Use a DVD or CD to guides discussions and meeting focus Follows the 9 Essential Skills format

23. Important Points to Remember Begin by modeling the most important skills (let your colleagues see how well it works!) Relationship building is the key to buy-in; as well as to the successfulness of the program Be a consultant to the process!

24. For more information about Love and Logic www.loveandlogic.com Pam GresserDave Juliot pgresser@dce.k12.wi.usdjuliot@dce.k12.wi.us Melissa MeyerPete Tabor mmeyer@dce.k12.wi.usmmeyer@dce.k12.wi.us ptabor@dce.k12.wi.usptabor@dce.k12.wi.us