1. An Invitation to Health Chapter 7 Communication and Relationships Dr. Lana Zinger ©2004 Wadsworth Publishing Co.

2. Personal Communication Communicating Feelings Communicating Feelings Responsibility in our dealings with anyone or anything we value. Responsibility in our dealings with anyone or anything we value. Emotional investment. Emotional investment. Communication of all types of emotions. Communication of all types of emotions. Listening. Listening. Nonverbal Communication Nonverbal Communication More than 90% of all communication is nonverbal. Understanding body language and it’s cultural influences.

3. Forming Relationships Self-Esteem Self-Esteem How one perceives himself or herself affects how we reach out and relate to others. How one perceives himself or herself affects how we reach out and relate to others. Friendship Friendship “the most holy bond of society.” Qualities of a good friend Qualities of a good friend: Honesty, acceptance, dependability, empathy, and loyalty.

4. The Science of Romantic Love Anthropological View Intense attraction between individuals seems to be a human universal, or at least, near universal. Intense attraction between individuals seems to be a human universal, or at least, near universal. Biochemical View Heart vs. Brain Neurotransmitters Dopamine, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine (PEA) Endorphins (chemicals) Oxytocin (hormone)

5. Living Arrangement Options Living with parents. Staying single. Living with one or more friends. Living in a long term relationship with a lover of the same or opposite sex. Getting married.

6. To Wed Or Not To Wed?

7. Percent Of All Households Occupied By One Person

8. A Look At Some Divorce Statistics Half of all marriages end in divorce. Half of all marriages end in divorce. The older the bride, the better the chance the marriage will last. The older the bride, the better the chance the marriage will last. ~60% of brides <18 years vs. 36% of those age 20+ years eventually separate or divorce. ~60% of brides <18 years vs. 36% of those age 20+ years eventually separate or divorce. African American couples are more likely to break up than White couples. African American couples are more likely to break up than White couples. 80% of divorced men and women remarry. 80% of divorced men and women remarry.

9. Types of Marriages TraditionalMarriages RomanticMarriages Companion-OrientedMarriagesRescueMarriages

10. Toxic Relationships A relationship in which either person is made to feel worthless or incompetent. A relationship in which either person is made to feel worthless or incompetent. Physical Symptoms: Physical Symptoms: Headaches, digestive troubles, tics, and inability to sleep well. Headaches, digestive troubles, tics, and inability to sleep well. The responsibility for changing the unhealthy dynamics belongs to both. The responsibility for changing the unhealthy dynamics belongs to both.

11. Common Predictors of Marital Discord A high level of arousal during a discussion. Defensive behaviors such as making excuses and denying responsibility for disagreements. A wife’s expression of contempt. A husband’s stonewalling.

12. Issues Couples Confront Sex ExtramaritalAffairs Two-CareerCouples BreadwinnerWives Money UnrealisticExpectations SettlingDifferences

13. Codependence Definition: Definition: The tendency of the spouses, partners, parents, and friends of individuals with addictive behaviors to allow or enable their loved ones to continue their self-destructive behaviors. The tendency of the spouses, partners, parents, and friends of individuals with addictive behaviors to allow or enable their loved ones to continue their self-destructive behaviors. Characteristics of Codependent Individuals: Characteristics of Codependent Individuals: Individuals that focus on their loved ones, even to the extent of giving up their own lives. Individuals that change who they are and what they feel in order to please others, feel responsible for meeting others’ needs, have low self-esteem, and frequently have compulsions of their own.

14. Dysfunctional Relationships Codependence The tendency of the spouses, partners, parents, and friends of individuals with addictive behaviors to allow or enable their loved ones to continue their self- destructive behaviors. Enabling Shielding Controlling Taking over responsibilities Rationalizing Cooperating Rescuing

15. Is Breaking Up Hard to Do?

16. Crucial Ingredients for Commitment Shared values. Shared values. A willingness to change in response to each other. A willingness to change in response to each other. A willingness to tolerate flaws. A willingness to tolerate flaws. A match in religious beliefs. A match in religious beliefs. The ability to communicate effectively. The ability to communicate effectively.

17. Characteristics Of A Good Relationship TrustExpressivenessStayingPower SecurityLaughter Support PhysicalAffection Togetherness PersonalGrowthRespect