1. Ayahs 234 – 242

2. And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, [the wives, shall] wait four months and ten [days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully] Acquainted with what you do. Ayah 234

4. “It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day, that she should mourn a dead person for more than three days except in the case of her husband whom she should mourn for four months and ten days.” [Muslim]

6. No Make Up – No Perfume No Jewellery No Bright Clothing Stay at Husbands Home Hospital, Court, For grocery & drop offs to school, How abt living in some other country?

7. There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing. Ayah 235

8. How is dhikr done? - With the heart - so the man thinks about marrying the woman. - With the tongue - he sends indirect messages to show his desire to marry her. With the Heart With the Tongue

11. Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions.

12. After Talaq Al Baa’in it is permissible to propose to her. woman is in the one month Iddah after Khul’a - it is permissible to propose to her as well. In the Iddah of Third Divorce Talaq al Baa-in. In the Iddah of Third Divorce Talaq al Baa-in. In the Iddah of Khul’a

13. Reflection Nowadays no one even thinks of sending the widowed/divorced woman a proposal because she’s seen as “used” or “baggage”

14. There is no blame upon you if you divorce women you have not touched nor specified for them an obligation. But give them [a gift of] compensation - the wealthy according to his capability and the poor according to his capability - a provision according to what is acceptable, a duty upon the doers of good. Ayah 236

17. And if you divorce them before you have touched them and you have already specified for them an obligation, then [give] half of what you specified - unless they forego the right or the one in whose hand is the marriage contract foregoes it. And to forego it is nearer to righteousness. And do not forget graciousness between you. Indeed Allah, of whatever you do, is Seeing. Ayah 237

20. Maintain with care the [obligatory] prayers and [in particular] the middle prayer and stand before Allah, devoutly obedient. Ayah 238

21. Salah

22. Damaged Best Damaged Rejected Check the Quality of Your Salah!

23. Properly Fulfilling all of the pillars, conditions, correct manner Performing the prayer on time Constantly حَافِظُ واْ Properly Fulfilling All Pillars Fulfilling All Conditions Sunnah Way On Time Regular

24. Salah TongueHeart Limbs

25. Especially Middle Salah Asr

26. Why do we forget or delay Asr Salah?

27. Show Humility Or Stand Still – Stillness of Body & Tongue See Allah Clearly = Fajr and Asr HeartHumilityBody Stand Still

28. How Humble & Still I am in my Salah?

29. And if you fear [an enemy, then pray] on foot or riding. But when you are secure, then remember Allah [in prayer], as He has taught you that which you did not [previously] know. Ayah 239

30. Salah (In state of fear) WalkingRiding Can’t Delay the Salah!

31. I know I have to pray, but I am too tired & lazy. Allah is al- Ghafoor ar- Raheem. He will forgive me. I am SO busy at work, I don't have time to pray When Allaah guides me, i will I pray; I just delay it until it is convenient for me or I pray it Qadaa I pray the 4 prayers. I only miss Fajr because I have to do Ghusl

32. If I pray, I will be fired from my job! I want to pray but my children are so young I can't leave them and pray If I pray, I will be fired from my job! I can't pray at my job/school/public place. I am too embarrassed /they will think I am a TERRORIST! I have made so many mistakes in my life, it is no use for me to pray. Allah will never forgive me. If I pray, people will think that I show off. So I don't pray I don't pray, but I have a good heart

35. Prophet (s.a.w) mentioned prayer one day and said: "Whoever observes it regularly, it will be light and a proof and salvation on the Day of Resurrection, and whoever does not observe it regularly, it will not be a light or a proof or salvation for him, and on the Day of Resurrection he will be with Qaroon, Fir'aun, Hamaan and Ubayy ibn Khalaf." (Ahmad).

36. These four people are mentioned because they are the leaders of kufr. This makes an important point about the one who does not observe regular prayer, whether that is because he is distracted by his wealth, his power, his position of leadership or his business. The one who is distracted from it by his wealth will be with Qaroon; the one who is distracted by his power will be with Fir'aun; the one who is distracted by his position of leadership will be with Hamaan and the one who is distracted by his business will be with Ubayy ibn Khalaf."

37. Remember Allah! But How? The Way He Taught You!

38. So what should man do? 1. Acknowledge that this is a great blessing of Allah. 2. Ask for more knowledge with humility. Knowledge Acknowledge! It is a blessing Ask Allah for more Knowledge

39. And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - for their wives is a bequest: maintenance for one year without turning [them] out. But if they leave [of their own accord], then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable way. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise. Ayah 240

40. If wife has Children – 1/8th Share If no children – 1/4th Share Inheritance Iddah was reduced from one yr to 4 months & 10 days Will: Maintenance for One YearOwn Share in Inheritance

41. And for divorced women is a provision according to what is acceptable - a duty upon the righteous. Ayah 241

42. Cases Case OneCase TwoCase ThreeCase Four Nikah Yes Consummation No Yes Mahr Fixed? NoYes No Mataa’ Give What You Can Give Half of Fixed Mahr Give Full Mahr Give What is Conventional Muta’ Talaq

43. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you might use reason. Ayah 242

44. Before these ayahs, perhaps we had no idea about the importance of ihsaan and gift giving even during times of divorce

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46. REFLECTIONS To respond to the ayahs What did you get out of it? To make an assessment of the universe which you experience Your response to experiences, opinions, events Your thoughts & feelings

47. WHY REFLECT? A way of thinking to explore your learning An opportunity to gain self-knowledge A way to achieve clarity and better understanding of what you are learning A chance to develop and reinforce writing skills A way of making meaning out of what you study It’s a command of the Qu’ran!

48. EXAMPLES I learned that widowed women have to stay waiting for 4 months and 10 days IS THIS A FACT OR LESSON? How to turn this into a lesson… I learned that Allah SWT is so merciful to women that He allows them to have time on their own after their husband passes away so that they are not bothered by advances of other people