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2. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-2 ABC(DE)’s of Romantic Relationships Social-exchange theory Development of a relationship reflects the unfolding of social exchanges

3. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-3 ABC(DE)’s of Romantic Relationships ABC(DE) model Attraction Building Continuation Deterioration Ending

4. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-4 The A’s – Attraction

5. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-5 The B’s – Building Not so small talk Superficial conversation Stresses breadth of topic coverage rather than in-depth discussion

6. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-6 The B’s – Building The “opening line” Verbal salutes Personal inquiries Compliments References to your mutual surroundings (continued)

7. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-7 The B’s – Building The “opening line” (continued) References to people or events outside the immediate setting References to the other person’s behaviour References to your own behaviour, or to yourself

8. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-8 The B’s – Building Exchanging “name, rank, and serial number” Self-disclosure Revelation of person—perhaps intimate— information Gender differences in self-disclosure Women are only slightly more revealing than men (continued)

9. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-9 The B’s – Building (continued) Sexual initiation Male’s role Female’s role Nonverbal behaviours Consent Communication

10. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-10 The C’s – Continuation Factors that encourage continuation Jealousy Jealousy and evolutionary theory Cognitive perspective Internal causes External causes

11. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-11 The D’s – Deterioration Factors that deter deterioration Factors that foster deterioration

12. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-12 The E’s – Ending Reasons for ending relationships When partners find little satisfaction in the affiliation When barriers to leaving the relationship are low When alternative partners are available

13. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-13 Intimacy Feelings of closeness and connectedness Sharing inmost thoughts and feelings Knowing and liking yourself Trusting and caring

14. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-14 Intimacy Mutual cyclical growth The need for one’s partner promotes commitment commitment encourages acts that enhance the relationship These acts build trust (continued)

15. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-15 Intimacy Mutual cyclical growth (continued) One’s partner’s commitment to the relationship increases

16. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-16 Intimacy Being honest Communicating Nonverbal communication Includes tone of voice, gestures, body posture, and facial expressions

17. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-17 Communication Skills for Enhancing Relationships and Sexual Relations Common difficulties in sexual communication Is sex talk vulgar? Irrational beliefs

18. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-18 Communication Skills for Enhancing Relationships and Sexual Relations Getting started Talking about talking Requesting permission to bring up a topic Giving your partner permission to say something that might be upsetting to you

19. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-19 Communication Skills Listening to the other side Listening actively Paraphrasing Reinforcing the other person’s willingness to communicate (continued)

20. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-20 Communication Skills Listening to the other side (continued) Showing that you value your partner, even when the two of you disagree

21. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-21 Communication Skills Making sexual requests

22. Copyright © 2007 Pearson Education Canada7-22 End of Chapter 7