1. Monday

2.  Brain storm 5 characteristics of a healthful family, a family that relates in healthful and supportive ways

3. Today’s Agenda: 1.Warm-up 2.Go over Unit 3 Pre-test 3.Pass out homework assignment 4.Healthful /dysfunctional family notes Mon August 18, 2014 Assignments Due: What are the characteristics of healthful and dysfunctional relationships? Objective: I will differentiate between healthful and dysfunctional relationships in families. Essential Question: 1.Marriage Interview DUE FRIDAY – 20 points

4.  4 = 10  3 = 8-9  2 = 6-7  1 = 5  0 = 4 or less

5.  The basic unit of society is FAMILY  Can include parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, nephews, nieces, step- parents, step-brothers, or step-sisters

6.  A HEALTHFUL FAMILY is a family that practices skills that promote loving, responsible relationships  Have a positive effect on physical and emotional health

7.  Skills such as: ◦ Self-respect ◦ Effective communication ◦ Values ◦ Coping skills ◦ Healthful attitudes ◦ Decision making skills ◦ Work ethic

8.  A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY is a family that does NOT promote loving, responsible relationships  Dysfunction can be caused by many different problems, such as…

9.  1 – Chemical dependence (drug addiction) ◦ Causes changes in behavior ◦ Increased risk for violence

10.  2 – Other addictions in the family ◦ Eating disorders, gambling addiction, workaholism, etc. ◦ Family life is neglected ◦ May lead to codependence

11.  3 – Perfectionism in the family ◦ Goes beyond having high standards ◦ Parents are overly critical ◦ Children feel inadequate and insecure ◦ Can lead to self-destructive behavior

12.  4 – Violence in the family ◦ The use of force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property ◦ Domestic abuse – Physicial, sexual, or emotional abuse used by one person in a relationship to control the other ◦ Victims often blame themselves

13.  5 – Physical Abuse in the family (also #1 type of abuse) ◦ Violent Treatment that results in physical injury to the victim ◦ Abuser is usually controlling and moody ◦ Abuser usually feels guilty and apologizes after the abuse

14.  6 – Emotional Abuse in the family (also #2 type of abuse) ◦ Belittling or verbally “putting down” another person ◦ Making a person feel worthless ◦ Withholding love and affection in order to cause pain

15.  7 – Neglect (also #3 type of abuse) ◦ The inability or unwillingness of a parent, guardian or custodian of a child to provide that child with supervision, food, clothing, shelter or medical care if that inability or unwillingness causes unreasonable risk of harm to the child's health or welfare

16.  8 – Sexual Abuse (also #4 type of abuse) ◦ Any sexual contact that is forced on another person, either through physical force, manipulation, or threats of harm ◦ Can include:  Inflicting or allowing sexual abuse Sexual conduct with a minor Sexual assault Molestation of a child Commercial sexual exploitation of a minor Sexual exploitation of a minor Incest Child prostitution

17.  9 – Abandonment in the family ◦ When a person chooses to give up or refuses responsibility for those in his or her care ◦ Can be physical abandonment – parent leaves the home ◦ Can be emotional abandonment – parent is not available and is emotionally absent ◦ Causes children to feel hurt and confused

18.  10 – Mental Disorders in the family ◦ A Family member with a mental disorder can cause additional stress for the family ◦ Family members may not be understanding and may not respond to the disorder in a supportive, helpful way

19.  Codependent Relationships ◦ A problem when one person in a relationship neglect themselves to try to care for, control, or “fix” someone else ◦ Codependence is DYSFUNCTIONAL ◦ People who are codependent have trouble with intimacy ◦ INTAMACY – a deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two people

20.  Codependents avoid intimacy  They may choose relationships that offer little or no chance for closeness Codependence Scale Enmeshment 100% Interdependence 0%

21.  Enmeshment – a condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and can no longer recognize their own needs  Interdependence – a condition in which two people depend on each other, yet each maintains their own separate identity

22. Tuesday

23.  Write down 2 questions you have for our school resource officer, Officer Keipert.

24. Today’s Agenda: 1.No warm-up 2.Guest Speaker – Officer Keipert Tue August 19, 2014 Assignments Due: What can I learn from the guest speaker? Objective: I will be an active listener and participant during Officer Keipert’s presentation. Essential Question: 1.Marriage Interview DUE FRIDAY – 20 points

25. Wednesday/ Thursday

26. 1. Neglect 2. Sexual Abuse 3. Physical Abuse 4. Interdependence 5. Healthful Family 6. Codependence 7. Emotional Abuse 8. Dysfunctional family 9. Enmeshment 10. Intimacy A.A condition in which two people depend on each other, yet each has a separate identity B.Violent treatment that results in physical injury to the victim C.Failure to provide proper care and guidance D.Verbally “putting down” another person E.A problem in which people neglect themselves to try to care for, control, or “fix” someone else F.A condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and can no longer recognize their own needs G.Sexual contact that is forced on another person H.A family that does NOT promote loving, responsible relationships I.A family that promotes loving, responsible relationships J.A deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two people

27. Today’s Agenda: 1.Warm-up 2.Pass back graded papers 3. Update notebook order 4.Complete Unit 2 tracking sheet and turn it in 5.Conversation skills notes 6.Healthful friendship, dating notes 7.Relationship article presentations in groups Wed/Thu August 20/21, 2014 Assignments Due: What are the characteristics of healthful and dysfunctional relationships? Objective: I will differentiate between healthful and dysfunctional characteristics in friendships and dating relationships. Essential Question: 1.Marriage Interview DUE FRIDAY – 20 points

28.  C. Lesson 10 Vocab ◦ 4 = 11-12 ◦ 3 = 10 ◦ 2 = 9 ◦ 1 = 8 ◦ 0 = 7 or less

29.  D. Unit 2 Crossword Puzzle ◦ 4 = 17-18 ◦ 3 = 14-16 ◦ 2 = 12-13 ◦ 1 = 11 ◦ 0 = 10 or less

30.  E. Unit 2 Test ◦ 4 = 27-30 ◦ 3 = 24-26 ◦ 2 = 21-23 ◦ 1 = 18 – 20 ◦ 0 = 17 or less

31.  One person get textbooks for your group  Get out your Lesson 13/15 Vocab sheet  Get out your Unit 3 notes  Turn to page 159

32. Friday

33.  Write down 3 things you learned from your marriage interview  Turn in your Marriage Interview into the basket

34. Today’s Agenda: 1.Warm-up 2.Finish Article Presentations 3.Collect marriage Interview Assignment 4.Harmful profile notes 5.Successful Marriage profile Notes Fri August 18, 2014 Assignments Due: What are the characteristics of healthful and dysfunctional relationships? Objective: I will recognize and describe behaviors typical of people who relate in harmful ways. Essential Question: 1.Marriage Interview DUE TODAY – 20 points

35.  A brief description of something or someone  The following 10 profiles are brief descriptions of how people may relate to others in harmful ways  These profiles help you understand ways harmful behaviors can sabotage your chance to have a healthful relationship

36.  A person who constantly seeks the approval of others ◦ Do anything to be liked ◦ May engage in harmful behavior to fit in or be accepted ◦ Described as a doormat ◦ Lacks self-confidence ◦ Do not demand respect

37.  A person who supports the harmful behavior of others ◦ Deny another person’s harmful behavior ◦ Over look someone’s addiction ◦ May make up excuses for that person ◦ May contribute to their harmful behavior

38.  A person who is needy and dependent ◦ Feel empty inside ◦ Constantly turns to another person to feel better ◦ No amount of attention or affection keeps them feeling fulfilled ◦ Very demanding of others ◦ The other person usually starts to feel suffocated because they are not given any space

39.  A person who tries to fix other people’s problems ◦ Takes on problems that are not their responsibility ◦ Quick to give advice ◦ They avoid their own problems by fixating on other people’s problems

40.  A person who is emotionally unavailable to others ◦ May have been hurt in the past ◦ Keeps people from getting too close ◦ They don’t want to risk emotional involvement

41.  A person who is possessive, jealous, and domineering ◦ Seeks power ◦ Tell the other person what to do and say and wear ◦ Does not like to share the object of their affection ◦ May lead to violent behavior ◦ Act like they own the other person in the relationship

42.  A person who is self-centered ◦ Me, me, me ◦ They do most of the talking ◦ Does not show much interest in others ◦ Wants to do what they want, when they want ◦ They are not interested in other’s opinions

43.  A person who is abusive ◦ Cause others harm ◦ May threaten, start fights, or act in violent ways ◦ Follows abuse with periods of gentleness ◦ Abuse behavior returns

44.  A person who does not tell the truth ◦ Not honest ◦ They lie about themselves to make themselves look good ◦ Relationships are based on lies ◦ Lack real connection ◦ They manipulate others into the responses they want

45.  A person who is not reliable ◦ Make plans with someone, then be a “no show” ◦ Makes plans, then breaks them if something better comes along. ◦ They may agree to change their behavior, but they don’t follow through ◦ Never keep their word ◦ Lacks sincerity and commitment

46. What percentage of teen marriages end in divorce?

47. 70%

48.  What factors help predict if a marriage will be successful?

49. 1. Age  couples that marry in their 20’s or older are more likely to have success  Marriage partners that are similar in age also have greater success in marriage 2. Reasons for marriage  Couples who marry to love and nurture each other and to share intimacy are more successful than those who marry to escape a difficult situation or to escape lonliness

50. 3. Length of the relationship and engagement  Longer relationships provide more opportunity to couples to examine their relationship and develop intimacy 4. Similar attitudes about children and child- raising  Couples should discuss this before marriage  If and when they want children, how many children do they wanthow they will raise and discipline their children

51. 5. Similar Interests  Opposites attract may not apply  Differences may provide extra stressors that must be worked out 6. Commitment to sexual fidelity  Physical intimacy provides closeness and security  Fidelity establishes trust

52. 7. Good character  Make responsible decisions  Be aware that their decisions affect your marriage 8. Parents’ success at marriage  People whose parents are divorced are more likely to get divorced themselves  They did not live in a family in which parents resolved conflicts

53. 9. Parental attitudes toward the potential marriage partner  A marriage is more likely to succeed if a person’s parents approve of the future husband or wife 10. Careful selection of the marriage partner  A marriage is more likely to succeed when people are cautious when selecting their spouse

54. Turn into the basket on your way out!