1. Raising Resilient Children
Conducted by
[Practitioner Name]

2. Today’s Agenda Overview of Triple P Highlights from Seminars 1 & 2
Emotional resilience in children
Building blocks for success
Take home messages
Question time

3. Overview of Triple P Triple P = Positive Parenting Program
Developed in Australia
30 years of research
Used in 22 countries
Local program sponsored by First 5 Santa Cruz County
Background:
Origins-Australia; 30 years ago
Research based- shows effectiveness
First 5 SCC Sponsored
Positive Parenting Program (Triple P) is a parent education program that originated in Australia over 30 years ago. Triple P provides an array of services for the different needs parents have. Over 30 years of research shows that it is effective and it helps parents. First 5 Santa Cruz County is sponsoring Triple P services through-out the county.

4. Triple P Services Seminars: General parenting information
The Power of Positive Parenting
Raising Confident, Competent Children
Raising Resilient Children
Workshops: Brief help with specific and common parenting issues
Groups: Brief (4 sessions) or In-depth (8 sessions)
One on One Consultations : Brief (1-4 sessions) or In-depth (10 sessions)
Additional Triple P Support
Different types of service
Seminars-general information and an introduction to Triple P concepts
-The Power of Positive Parenting- provides an introduction to the Triple P program
-Raising Confident, Competent Children- covers social and emotional skills that children need in order to thrive at home, in school and throughout life
-Raising Resilient Children- offers strategies to teach children healthy ways to deal with their emotions
Workshops-provide tips for handling everyday parenting situations such as encouraging sharing, establishing bedtime routines and handling tantrums. 
Groups- Learn strategies for handling specific parenting situations through a brief group with other families or Get in-depth information and support on parenting concerns in a group setting with other families.
One on One consultations- brief-Learn strategies for handling specific parenting situations through individual consultations (1-4 sessions) or In-depth-Work one-on-one with a practitioner to get in-depth information and support that is tailored to your family’s needs (10 sessions)
Additional Support-Parents who have completed Individual or Group Triple P can receive additional parenting support from a practitioner if they would like help with: Managing their own emotions, Improving communication and teamwork with a parenting partner
What to expect in Seminar 1
Framework and principals of Triple P
A little bit on encouraging desirable behavior & discouraging misbehavior
At the end can discuss how to get more in-depth info on strategies

5. Seminar 1: 5 Principles Creating a safe, interesting environment
Having a positive learning environment
Using assertive discipline
Having realistic expectations
Taking care of yourself
Before we begin covering the content for today’s Seminar, I want to do a quick recap of what we covered in Seminar 1 (The Power of Positive Parenting) and Seminar 2 (Raising Confident, Competent Children). If any of you missed those seminars, you can sign up to attend one that is offered in the future.
In Seminar 1, we talked about the 5 principles of positive parenting (read/summarize the 5 principles).

6. Seminar 2: Building blocks
Raising confident, competent children
In Seminar 2, we talked about “building blocks” that are needed to raise children who are confident and competent (meaning they are able to get along with others, able to problem-solve, they feel good about themselves, etc)
Read/summarize building blocks.
This brings us to today’s Seminar on Raising Resilient Children.

7. Emotional resilience Emotional resilience is the ability to:
recognize and accept feelings
express feelings in appropriate ways
face and resolve difficult situations
cope with stressful or upsetting situations
These abilities are related to children’s development

8. Importance of resilience
Children need to learn to cope with everyday feelings and difficult situations
Some children experience very stressful life events
Ability to cope with feelings is related to
social skills and relationships
tolerance and compassion
coping with life experiences
prevention of emotional problems

9. Benefits for children Emotionally resilient children are:
caring and socially skilled
empathic and sensitive
able to manage their feelings
able to cope with stress or unpleasant experiences
less likely to resort to unhelpful ways of coping

10. Building blocks

11. Building block 1
Recognizing and accepting
feelings

12. Developmental changes
Children gradually:
learn to recognize and understand their emotions and those of others
become aware of different feelings
learn the words to describe their feelings
develop more complex feelings
These changes are related to their language, thinking and experiences

13. What parents can do Accept that ups and downs are normal
Talk about feelings
Be emotionally expressive
Share feelings appropriately
Help your child recognize and name emotions
Encourage your child to be emotionally expressive

14. Building block 2
Expressing feelings appropriately

15. Expressing emotions What emotional expression is OK
words
expressions
actions
When to express feelings
to whom
how often
how much
What emotional expression is not OK
Family and cultural expectations

16. Traps for parents Talking too much about own feelings
Dwelling on upsets
Showing too much interest in feelings
Being overly sympathetic or encouraging avoidance
Over-reacting to minor upsetting events
Not giving enough attention to other behavior

17. Talking about feelings
Ask how your child feels
Listen to what they say
Summarize what they say
Avoid telling your child how they should feel
Read stories and talk about the characters’ feelings
Help your child recognize feelings in others

18. Encouraging children
Give your child positive attention for expressing feelings in appropriate ways
positive feelings
negative feelings
Congratulate your child for managing difficult situations

19. Dealing with problems Use consistent discipline
tell your child to stop
acknowledge their feelings
give a brief explanation
tell your child what to do instead
use back up consequences if needed
Model better ways of expressing feelings

20. Building block 3
Building a positive outlook

21. A positive outlook Having a positive outlook can involve:
optimistic thinking
curiosity and exploration
contentment

22. Encouraging optimism Model being optimistic Encourage goals
Encourage initiative and creativity
Encourage activities where your child will experience success
Show how your child has control over events
Point out what your child does well
Talk about the ‘good side’

23. Encouraging curiosity
Encourage your child to decide what to do
Let your child explore and show your interest
Be available when your child wants to show you something
Ask questions and make comments
Help your child learn how to find more information

24. Encouraging contentment
Model being appreciative and grateful
Ask about the day’s highlights
Have shared family experiences
Discuss other people’s point of view
Discuss accepting things that can’t be changed
Foster involvement in meaningful activities
Encourage your child to slow down and take in their world

25. Building block 4
Developing coping skills

26. Coping skills Problem solving Positive self-talk
Talking back to unhelpful thoughts
Relaxing mentally and physically
Asking for help and support

27. Helping problem solving
Set a good example
Play games that promote thinking
Encourage your child to find answers
Prompt your child to work at solving problems
Congratulate your child when they solve a problem on their own
Involve your child in family problem solving

28. Problem solving steps Define the problem Come up with solutions
Evaluate the options
Decide on the best solution
Put the plan into action
Review how it worked and revise the plan if necessary

29. Building positive self-talk
Ask your child to evaluate their own achievements
Explain how thinking different ways affects how you feel
Prompt your child to think about what others might think or feel
Point out helpful and unhelpful thinking
Model using positive self-talk to cope with stress

30. Helping children relax
Provide a good model of how to manage stress
Help children find ways to relax that work for them
Relaxation strategies include:
taking slow, deep breaths
relaxing their muscles
listening to a relaxation tape or calming music

31. Looking for support Discuss how everyone needs to talk
Talk about how you get support from others
Help children find someone to talk to:
a close family member
a trusted friend
a school teacher
a counsellor

32. Building block 5
Dealing with negative feelings

33. Negative emotions All children have negative emotions
Parents cannot completely protect children from these feelings
Many emotions pass quickly
Parents can calmly assist and prompt problem solving
Parents can help children learn to resolve negative feelings on their own

34. Managing emotions Notice when your child is upset
Ask what is wrong and listen
Summarize what you have heard
Acknowledge their feelings
Ask what they want to do
Ask how you can help
Prompt problem solving
If upset continues, suggest ‘cooling off’
Stay calm yourself
Make a time to talk later

35. Preparing for emotions
Help your child learn to cope on their own, for example, with anxiety
Set a good example
Talk about anxious feelings
Teach your child coping strategies
Encourage facing fears gradually
Stay calm
Prompt coping strategies
Praise your child’s efforts
Talk about dangerous situations

36. Building block 6
Dealing with stressful events

37. Stressful life events Change Problems with peers Major disappointment
Unpleasant experiences
Loss
Marital separation or divorce
Joining a new family
Trauma or serious illness
Natural disasters
Terrifying experiences

38. Coping with life events
Allow your child to be upset
Ask what happened
Say something positive
Reassure your child where appropriate
Don’t feel you have to solve the problem
Suggest something to cheer your child up
Check later
Encourage use of coping skills
Seek advice if the problem continues

39. Example: moving house Explain why the move is necessary
Familiarize your child with the new situation
Talk about the advantages
Get your child involved
Maintain routines as much as possible
Help your child keep in touch with friends

40. Example: dealing with loss
Consider your child’s developmental level
Reassure your child where appropriate
Encourage appropriate expression of feelings
Provide information
Maintain routines as much as possible
Arrange a child carer if the loss affects you
Talk about feelings, coping, memories

41. Take home messages

42. Take home messages
The foundations for emotional resilience are laid in early childhood
Emotional skills are important for happiness, wellbeing and success in life
Children learn a lot about managing their emotions from parents

43. Take home messages Parents can help children learn to:
recognize and accept feelings
express feelings in appropriate ways
develop a positive outlook and coping skills
deal with negative feelings and stressful life events

44. Tip Sheet Review it with your partner or by yourself.
Review it this week!
Choose one strategy you learned today to try at home.
The tip sheet provided for this seminar gives you an overview of what was discussed in today’. I encourage you to not just set in on your counter and forget about it, but to pick it back up and look at it again with your partner or by yourself tonight or just sometime this week while it’s still fresh in your minds. You can use this as a tool for starting some new positive parenting strategies at home right away.

45. Next Steps Attend the next seminar [insert date]
Contact [insert name] for more services [insert info]
Contact First 5 Santa Cruz County for more services (831) or or visit
Review what to expect at the next 2 seminars
Inform parents on how to get more in-depth services
Provide your information
Describe type of services you provide (i.e. workshops, one on one)
Provide info on First 5 (website calendar & warmline- & (831)
Give out the Triple P cards
Form a workshop right then
Have them select from workshop topics- which topics they would like a workshop for (“It sounds like there is a group of you who are interested in learning more about Triple P strategies. Here is a list of Triple P workshop topics. We can select which 2-3 topics are of interest to this group and set up a workshop.”)
Identify a topic based on seminar discussions and let them know you will give them more details about date/time the next week (“It sounds like there is a group of you who are interested in learning more about Triple P strategies, specifically, how to handle tantrums. I can set up a workshop on this topic if there are enough of you interested. Please let me know if you would attend something like this if I set it up”)

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Review what to expect at the next 2 seminars
Inform parents on how to get more in-depth services
Provide your information
Describe type of services you provide (i.e. workshops, one on one)
Provide info on First 5 (website calendar & warmline- & (831)
Give out the Triple P cards
Form a workshop right then
Have them select from workshop topics- which topics they would like a workshop for (“It sounds like there is a group of you who are interested in learning more about Triple P strategies. Here is a list of Triple P workshop topics. We can select which 2-3 topics are of interest to this group and set up a workshop.”)
Identify a topic based on seminar discussions and let them know you will give them more details about date/time the next week (“It sounds like there is a group of you who are interested in learning more about Triple P strategies, specifically, how to handle tantrums. I can set up a workshop on this topic if there are enough of you interested. Please let me know if you would attend something like this if I set it up”)

47. Question time

48. Positive Parenting…
Small changes,
Big differences