1. DEALING WITH DELINQUENT CHILDREN WAYNE THURMAN

2. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY The legal term for any child whose behavior is such that if he was an adult the behavior would be judged criminal. One offence often displayed by juvenile delinquents, however, would not be considered criminal among adults. That is running away.

3. 1991 The average age was 16 93% were male 54% were white, 40% black More than 70% came from one parent homes. Half had family members who had been locked up; 20% two or more close incarcerated relatives; almost 25% had fathers incarcerated in the past year.

4. Only 42% completed 8 th grade compared with 76% of other youth Almost half had been taking drugs or drinking when they committed the crime for which they were arrested; almost 20% admit to taking drugs for the first time before age ten; two out of five used drugs regularly About 40% were locked up for violent crimes such as murder and rape; 40% of this group used a deadly weapon

5. CHILDRENS NEEDS ATTACHMENT TRUST EMPATHY FOR OTHERS SHARE WITH OTHERS ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY SELF-ESTEEM

6. DISRUPTIONS In attachments: divorce, separation, desertion, nonsupport, single parenting, foster care By adults: physical, sexual, emotional abuse, substance abuse, gambling, severe debt, prolonged unemployment, social isolation of family Outside home with peers, school, etc.

7. Is family to blame? No father figure Living in single parent home doubled from 1970 to 2003 32%+ live in single parent or nontraditional marriage homes. Most single parents are women Single men parents about 17%

8. Society? Programs to occupy children; crimes committed between 3:00 and 6:00 pm Role models, caring adults Church – intentions of parents Responsible media Schools

9. Easy Button No manual No quick fix Be proactive Be engaged Be vigilant Be consistent Know your child Spend time with child Know where child is Know peers

10. RESILIENCE Some kids make it in spite of the disruptions, in spite of education, in spite of the family they were born into.

11. CHRISTIAN HOME OPPORTUNITIES FOR RESILIENCE Able to master their world-self- esteem Trust and obey fair authority figures Feel secure, safe, and loved Protect from disruptions Teach responsibility, sharing, empathy Good adult role models

12. What God Expects One man and one woman to enter into marriage A cohesive family unit Subject to one another Husband- head of the house Not provoking children to anger Bring up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

13. Single parent No partner to plan with Less time, energy and resources Work longer hours Less time to supervise children Sometimes feels guilt

14. Attachments With a good adult figure the child can: Receive positive attention Trust to be there Confide – Listen Advise Love

15. TRUST Authority figure that is fair Not dictatorial, mean or spiteful Concerned for their well being Takes time to explain the rules, why rules exist, and how rules relate to the child Consistently enforce the rules with love and consideration for the child

16. EMPATHY Talk about feelings of others Help child learn empathy by example and by doing Include child in acts of kindness Encourage to be kind and feel pain of others Use teaching opportunities: death, accidents, etc.

17. ABILITY TO SHARE Begin early and catch the child doing something right Be an example of sharing Emphasize being a good winner or loser Explain why sharing is important and how feelings are involved Reassure of your love, not with things, but with self

18. Accept Responsibility Begin early Appropriate consequence for action Have rules Explain rules Enforce rules Teach responsibility, don’t just give, give, give

19. “Admitting that there is a problem and that your child is at fault is not admitting failure as a parent.” Stanton Samenow

20. SELF-ESTEEM All children need parents who discipline and instruct God instructs us to discipline and instruct Make mistakes and learn in a positive way Put criticism into perspective Setting and reaching goals Enables and empowers

21. BE HONEST BE THERE LISTEN BE SLOW TO SPEAK BE SLOW TO JUDGE SHOW LOVE, CARE, AND CONCERN BE CONSISTENT PRAY