1. 6-1 Module Seven: Nonverbal Messages

2. In pairs turn your back to your mate. Recount your most embarrassing moment without looking at your partner – use words only Now tell the person you are looking at the same story In Pairs 6-2

3. 7 6-3

4. Communication without words The message sent must be received in some way by at least one other person 6-4 Nonverbal Messages

5. Accenting – emphasize I love you. Contradicting – ie winking to show lies Complementing – add nuances: smile, frown Regulating – control flow of verbals: um, pauses Repeating – restate verbal messages: eyebrows raised Substituting – take place of verbals: thumbs up, nod 6-5 Verbal-Nonverbal Interaction

6. Top of page 141 Under “Examples?” answer these questions on Angel 6-6 Read “Thinking Critically About”

7. Forming and managing impressions Forming and defining relationships Structuring conversation and social interaction Influencing and deceiving Expressing emotions Read pages 142-3 6-7 Nonverbal Communication Functions

8. Two men who have not seen each other for a long time meet on the street Two women who have not seen each other for a long time meet on the street Three women sitting around the table in a bar talking Three men sitting around the table in a bar talking A male student telling his roommate about his girlfriend breaking up with him A female student telling her roommate about her boyfriend breaking up with her Role Play 6-8

9. Smell Face Time Artifacts Touch Body Eyes Paralanguage Silence Space Channels of Nonverbal Communication 6-9

10.  Emblems are gestures that directly translate into words – thumbs up – good job  Illustrators enhance the verbal message they accompany – ie gesture to left  Affect displays communicate emotional meaning- happy – often unconscious  Regulators are behaviours that monitor, control, coordinate, or maintain the speaking of others  Adaptors are gestures that satisfy a personal need- rub nose, pick lint, shred cup 6-10 Five Types of Body Messages

11. Tall – short Weight Hair Attractiveness Race Body Appearance 6-11

12. Intensifying - exaggerate De-intensifying - underplay Neutralizing - hide Masking - substitute 6-12 Facial Management Techniques See Table 7.2 on page 146

13. 7 6-13

14. Mirror of the soul Cultural Wide or narrow Eyes 6-14

15.  Seek feedback  Inform the other person that the channel of communication is open  Signal the nature of a relationship  Lessen psychologically the physical distance between you and another person 6-15 Eye Contact

16. Help others maintain privacy Signal lack of interest Block off unpleasant stimuli Heighten other senses Lying 6-16 Eye Avoidance

17. Proxemics: Your use of space to communicate Intimate, personal, social, public Territoriality: The territory you occupy or own and the way you protect this territory 6-17 Space Messages

18. Intimate distance – touching – 46 cm Personal distance – 46 cm – 1.2m Social distance – 1.2m – 3.7m Public distance – 3.6 – more than 7.6m 6-18 Spatial Distance Messages See Table 7.3 on page 148

19. Status Culture Subject matter Gender Age 6-19 Influences on Spatial Distances

20. Location of homes/offices Invasion of privacy – work Marking territory Territoriality Messages 6-20

21. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgSp8znMWZI 6-21 Video

22. Colour Clothing and body adornment  Dress  Hair  Jewellery  Body piercings  Tattoos Space decoration 6-22 Artifactual Messages

23. Haptics – the study of touch Positive emotion Playfulness Control Ritual Task-relatedness Touch Avoidance Communication apprehension 6-23 Touch (Tactile) Messages

24.  Stress – which words  Pitch  Rate  Volume  Rhythm  Vocalizations – crying, yawning  Judgements 6-24 Paralanguage – how you say something

25. Punctuation is powerful 6-25 Punctuate the following: males in the class : A woman without her man, is nothing. Are you ready for this...........? females in the class : A woman: without her, man is nothing. A woman without her man is nothing

26. Allows time to think Can hurt others Might indicate anxiety - shy May prevent communication Can encourage communications May indicate nothing to say 6-26 Silence

27. Psychological time Past Present Future 6-27 Time Messages

28. Psychological time Cultural time Biorhythms Time Messages 6-28

29. Attraction Taste Memory Identification – ie toothpaste, cleaners, significant others… 6-29 Messages from Smell

30. Facial expressions Colours Space Time – see Table 7.4 page 157 6-30 Nonverbal Cultural Differences

31. Complete 7.1 and 7.2 page 162: you can use emoticons ie: Complete 7.3 #3 and #4 page163 Email me your results Skill Building Exercises 6-31