1. Strategies for Success Chapter 10

2. Human Relationships FRIENDSHIP – Who wants more friends?

3. What qualities do you look for in – A friend? – Husband/wife? – Business partner?

4. Different levels of relationships Best Friend Great friends Good friends Acquaintances Strangers

5. F = FIRST TO BE FRIENDLY The fastest way to make friends is to be one.

6. F = FIRST TO BE FRIENDLY Advantages to Being Friendly First: –↑ friends –↑ sales –↑ job productivity –↑ promotions –↑ more money –↑ more effective teacher –↑ better grades

7. R=Respect “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men” – ~Thomas Carlyle

8. R = RESPECT Treat everyone you meet as if they are important.

9. How do you know you’re in love? When they know the worst thing about you and they love you anyway.

10. R = RESPECT “It is the mark of a superior person to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.” ~ Ann Landers

11. R = RESPECT Respect VALUES

12. “Men respect standards - get some!” – ~ Steve Harvey – Act like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What men really think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment

13. R=RESPECT Six degrees of separation

14. R=RESPECT There are 3 sides to every story – Yours – Theirs – The truth

15. R = RESPECT The Golden Rule!

16. R = RESPECT “For I say to every man, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think” – Paul of Tarsus

17. R = RESPECT Have no friends not equal to yourself. ~ Confucius

18. I = Interested in Others Dale Carnegie: How to Win Friends and Influence People Act interested in people and you can sell them anything.

19. I = Interested in Others What is the most common word used in the world? –I–I

20. I = Interested in Others When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion.

21. I = Interested in Others Be genuinely interested in people. If you try you can like everybody and everybody will like you…

22. I = Interested in Others Flattery is counterfeit, and like counterfeit money it will eventually get you into trouble if you try to pass it.

23. I = Interested in Others Listen Commit yourself to learn how to listen

24. Ten Commandments of Listening 1.Empty your mind. 2.Understand the context. 3.Don't get distracted. 4.Use follow trails 5.Use body language. 6.Ask questions. 7.Take notes. 8.Confirm your understanding. 9.Let the person finish before you speak. 10.Don't judge too quickly.

25. I = Interested in Others Keep skid chains on your tongue. Always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more than what you say. ~ Ann Landers

26. I = Interested in Others Be there!

27. E = Effort 5 love languages

28. E = Effort Friendship is a verb. It takes effort. Make your friends Number One, preferring them above yourself. – The Fine Art of Friendship – ~ Ted Engstrom

29. E = Effort It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.

30. N = NAME The sweetest music to anyone’s ears is the sound of his or her own name.

31. N = NAME Let your virtues – if you have any speak for themselves – Good Earth – Pearl Buck

32. N = NAME Your name is save in my house!

33. People who gossip to you - will gossip about you.

34. N = NAME “I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody.” ~Benjamin Franklin

35. N = NAME Nodoby’s Prefect

36. D = Deliver Praise To help people reach their full potential, catch them doing something right! Catch more flies with honey than vinegar

37. D = Deliver Praise If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.

38. D = Deliver Praise John Gottman Ratio – 5 Praise : 1 Criticism – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xw9SE315GtA

39. D = Deliver Praise “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes characters and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

40. D = Deliver Praise Be generous with legitimate praise and encouragement”

41. D = Deliver Praise People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

42. S = Smile It takes 112 muscles to frown and 13 to smile!

43. S = SMILE If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours.

44. H = Honest Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost. ~ Ann Landers

45. I = Invite

46. P = Positive Your attitude determines your altitude!

47. The fastest way to make a friend is to be one.