1. DEVELOPMENT OF THE SELF IN SOCIETY
TERM 1

2. WHAT DOES THE DEPARTMENT EXPECT?
• Plan and achieve life goals: apply various life skills as evidence of an ability
- Types of goals: short-term, medium and long-term; steps in planning and goal-setting, problem-solving skills,
perseverance and persistence
- Important life goals and prioritising: family, marriage, parenting, career choices and relationships
- Relationship between personal values, choices and goal-setting
• Relationships and their influence on own well-being: different types with different people/groups and their changing nature
- Relationships that contribute or are detrimental to well-being: rights and responsibilities in relationships, social and
cultural views that influence and/or affect relationships, qualities sought in different relationships and individuality in
relationships
- Impact of the media on values and beliefs about relationships

3. TYPE OF GOALS
REMEMBER A GOAL IS NOT A WISH OR DESIRE BUT SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY AND THE DRIVE TO ACHIEVE.
GOALS ARE USEFUL BECAUSE:
THEY GIVE YOU DIRECTION
THEY HELP YOU TO TAKE CHARGE OF THE FUTURE
THEY ARE PERSONAL, UNIQUE AND SPECIAL
SKILLS THAT CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE GOALS:
PROBLEM-SOLVING, DECISION MAKING, SELF MANAGEMENT
TIME MANAGEMENT, REFLECTION, EVALUATION

4. THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF GOALS
THERE ARE THREE DIFFERENT TYPES OF GOALS:
SHORT TERM GOALS – THEY ARE ACHIEVED IN LESS THAN A YEAR, EG. WEEKS OR MONTHS
MEDIUM TERM GOALS – THEY ARE ACHIEVED BETWEEN ONE AND THREE YEARS
LONG TERM GOALS – LIFE GOALS THAT YOU AIM TO ACHIEVE IN MORE THAN THREE YEARS
REMEMBER: SHORT TERM AND MEDIUM TERM GOALS ARE USUALLY MADE TO ACHIEVE A LONG TERM GOAL IN FUTURE

5. STEPS IN PLANNING AND GOAL SETTING
THE FIRST STEP IN PLANNING YOUR GOALS IS WRITING THEM DOWN ON PAPER.
MAKE SURE YOUR GOAL IS SMART- SPESIFIC, MEASURABLE, ACHIEVABLE, REALISTIC, TIMELY OR TIME MANAGEMENT.
SET UP A ACTION PLAN TO SET UP YOUR GOAL
DO IT! CARRY OUT YOUR ACTION PLAN
EVALUATE IF YOU HAVE ACHIEVED YOUR GOAL

6. PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS, PERSEVERENCE AND PERSISTENCE
GOALS ARE NOT EASY TO ACHIEVE, YOU MAY FACE MANY OBSTACLES AND CHALLENGES- PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS NB!!
LOOK AT THE FOLLOWING STEPS FOR PROBLEM SOLVING:
MAKE A TABLE – PROBLEMS AND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS
EXPLAIN/ DEFINE THE PROBLEM
GATHER INFORMATION ABOUT THE PROBLEM
LIST AS MANY SOLUTIONS AS POSSIBLE
FORMULATE THE CONSEQUENCES OF EACH SOLUTION
CHOOSE THE BEST SOLUTION FOR YOUR SITUATION

7. PERSEVERANCE AND PERSISTENCE
PERSEVERANCE- THE DETERMINATION TO KEEP TRYING TO DO SOMETHING DIFFICULT
PERSISTENCE – THE DETERMINATION TO CONTINUE TO DO SOMETHING
YOUR KEY MOTTO SHOULD BE: NEVER GIVE UP
ALWAYS – APPLY YOU PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS
- PERSEVERE, PERSIST AND BE DETERMINED OR STRONG MINDED AS YOU KEEP ON TRYING

8. IMPORTANT LIFE GOALS AND PRIORITISING
MOST PEOPLE WANT: TO LIVE HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, MEANINGFUL LIVES
LIFE GOALS ARE RELATED TO: CAREER CHOICES, FAMILY, MARRIAGE AND PARENTING
HOW TO PRIORITISE YOUR LIFE GOALS
DECIDE WHICH GOALS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT FOR NOW – WHERE YOU ARE CURRENTLY
NUMBER YOUR GOALS IN THE ORDER OF IMPORTANCE

9. THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PERSONAL VALUES, CHOICES AND GOAL – SETTING
VALUES – THE PRINCIPLES OR RULES THAT YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE BY – THEY INFLUENCE THE WAY YOUY BEHAVE AND THINK.
VALUES HELP YOU TO SET YOUR GOAL
HOW ARE VALUES FORMED?
LIFE EXPERIENCE, THE ENVIRONMENT THAT YOU ARE IN, YOUR SCHOOL, YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY , YOUR INTERESTS

10. VALUES AND THE CONSTITUTION
THE VALUES THAT THE CONSTITUTION SUPPORT ARE GENERAL VALUES THAT EVERY SOUTH AFRICAN SHOULD UPHOLD
THERE ARE TEN VALUES THAT THE CONSTITUATION SUPPORTS:
DEMOCRACY, SOCIAL JUSTICE, EQUITY, EQUALITY, NON- RACISM, NON-SEXISM, UBUNTU, AN OPEN SOCIETY, ACCOUNTABILITY, THE RULE OF LAW, RESPECT AND RECONCILLIATION

11. RELATIONSHIPS AND THEIR INFLUENCE ON YOUR WELL-BEING
WELL-BEING AND RELATIONSHIPS
WELL-BEING – TO BE HAPPY, HEALTHY AND HAVE A GOOD QUALITY OF LIFE
GOOD RELATIONSHIPS – POSTITIVE WELL-BEING
BAD RELATIONSHIPS – BAD INFLUENCE ON YOUR WELL- BEING – LEADS TO POOR SELF ESTEEM
RELATIONSHIPS – YOUR LINKS, CONNECTIONS OR ASSOCIATIONS WITH OTHER PEOPLE
THEY INCLUDE: YOUR FRIENDSHIPS, FAMILY TIES, SCHOOL. RELATIONSHIPS CHANGE – THEY DON’T STAY THE SAME

12. RELATIONSHIP TYPES WITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE OR GROUPS AND THEIR CHANGING NATURE
RELATING TO OTHER PEOPLE AND CONNECTING WITH OTHERS – MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY AND CONTENT
YOU
RELATE TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE IN DIFFERENT WAYS – THINK ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP WITH A ELDER VS. A RELATIONSHIP WITH A FRIEND
TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE OR GROUPS
FAMILY – RELATED TO YOU IN SOME WAY – WHERE YOU GET THE MOST LOVE AND SUPPORT
FRIENDS – SOMENONE YOU KNOW WELL, LIKE, TRUST AND RESPECT, WHO SUPPORTS YOU. GOOD FRIENDS = GOOD EFFECT ON WELL-BEING
CASUAL – OR INFORMAL – NOT CLOSE BUT GET ALONG WELL
FORMAL – WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE USUALLY IN A SENIOR POSISTION EG. WITH TEACHER OR BOSS
ROMANTIC – CLOSE RELATIONSHIP BASED ON LOVE – YOU CAN BE YOURSELF P

13. CHANGING RELATIONSHIPS
EACH RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFERENT
AS YOU GROW OLDER RELATIONSHIPS MIGHT CHANGE
RELATIONSHIPS THAT CONTRIBUTE OR ARE HARMFUL TO WELL-BEING
IF THE RELATIONSHIP HAS MORE NEGATIVES THAN POSITIVES ASK YOURSELF:
HOW IS THIS RELATIONSHIP CONTRIBUTING TO MY WELL-BEING
HOW AM I PROMOTING THE WELL-BEING OF THE OTHER PERSON IN THIS RELATIONSHIP ?
YOUR ANSWER WILL HELP YOU DETERMINE WETHER YOU SHOULD STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP OR LEAVE

14. RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN RELATIONSHIPS
TABLE 3 ON PAGE 16
THERE ARE 8 RIGHTS, RESPONSIBILITIES AND APROPRIATE ACTIONS
BE SURE THAT YOU KNOW THIS FOR THE EXAM
SOCIAL AND CULTURAL VIEWS THAT INFLUENCE AND AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS
CULTURE CAN INFLUENCE RELATIONSHIPS EG. ARRANGED MARRIAGES
SOCIAL VIEWS ON GENDER ROLES INFLUENCE/AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS EG. THE MAN SHOULD BE IN CHARGE
SOCIAL GENERATION GAP IS EVIDENT WHEN IT COMES TO TECHNOLOGY – PARENT BANS CHILD FROM USING BBM THIS LEADS TO CONFLICT IN THE RELATIONSHIP

15. QUALITIES SOUGHT IN DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIPS
PEOPLE LOOK FOR DIFFERENT QUALITIES IN DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIPS
EG. ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP – SUPPORT, LOVE, HONESTY AND FAITHFULNESS
EG. FROM GRANDPARENTS – WISDOM, INTEREST IN YOUR LIFE AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING , THE OPPORTUNITY TO CARE FOR THEM
INDIVIDUALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS
TO STAY WHO YOU ARE, KEEP YOUR INDIVIDUALITY IS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
BECOMING TOO DEPENDANT ON THE OTHER PERSON IN THE RELATIONSHIP MAKES YOU LOSE YOUR IDENTITY

16. IMPACT OF THE MEDIA ON VALUES AND BELIEFS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
SEE TYPES OF MEDIA PG 18
MEDIA HAS A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE EFFECT
THE EFFECT OF THE MEDIA DEPENDS ON HOW YOU INTERPRET OR TAKE UP THE MESSAGES OR HOW IMPORTANT YOU THINK THEY ARE
SOUTH AFRICAN TEENAGERS SPEND MOST OF THEIR TIME INTERACTING WITH THE MEDIA

17. CONTENT SUMMARY
FOR THE EXAM PLEASE STUDY THE SUMMARY ON PAGE 21 ASWELL AS THE POWERPOINT