1. ABC’s of Effective Parenting Eva Cyrusova

2. General Objective: Increase the awareness of parenting strategies
Enhance parents’ negotiation skills

3. BECOMING A COMPETENT ADULT
Introduction
The goal of parenting?
Kids
are able to look after themselves
enjoy life
make those around them happy
are caring and kind
stand up for what they believe in
learn self-control
and finally….
BECOMING A COMPETENT ADULT

4. What is one thing that your parents have done to guide you toward the goal of becoming a competent adult?

5. Parenting Styles
Authoritative parents are warm but firm and consistent.
Set developmentally appropriate limits
Set reasonable standards, moderate on discipline
High in communication and emotional support
Encourages independency and individuality
Allow choices, give alternatives
Use reasoning, negotiation and compromise
Their children are independent, socially responsible
and less influenced by negative peer pressure.

6. Authoritarian - Strict
Authoritarian parents show less affection.
Value obedience, respect
Rules are non-negotiable, do not allow reasonable choices
Discourage independency and individuality
Exercise physical punishment
Their children are greatly influenced by peer pressure, are passive or rebelling against parents’ values. They have lower
self-esteem.

7. Permissive Permissive parents are warm but undemanding.
They are passive in their parenting.
Very low on discipline, structure and expectation. Sets no guidelines.
They do not like to say no or disappoint their children.
They believe that demonstrate their love is to give in to their children’s wishes.
Their children may have difficulty with self-control, demonstrate egocentric tendencies, manipulative behaviour.
These children are the unhappiest of all (anxiety,
depression). Likely to engage in antisocial behaviour.
As they have not been taught how to control or discipline
themselves, they are less likely to develop self-respect.

8. Permissive - Uninvolved
Uninvolved parents are not warm, do not place any demands.
They minimize their interaction time.
Generally do not want to be bothered by their children.
Their children show similar patterns as children raised in permissive homes
(impulsive behaviour, issues with self-regulation).

9. Questions:
Describe the time when you witnessed a parenting technique you felt was very effective (or describe your own).
Can you think of a time when you encountered an example of ineffective parenting?

10. No.1 No one can be a perfect parent
Parenting Strategies D
No.1 No one can be a perfect parent
Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?

11. No.3 Communicate, explain, discuss…
No.2 Back each other up
No.3 Communicate, explain, discuss…

12. No.4 Make and negotiate rules and limits
No.5 Let them learn natural and logical consequences

13. No. 7 Praise, praise, praise (and sometimes ignore)
No.6 Be consistent
No. 7 Praise, praise, praise (and sometimes ignore)

14. What do you praise your child most for ?
Things you praise your child for tell them a lot about what you believe is important in live.

15. Problem, Conflict, Disagreement…?
Use No-Lose Method!

16. Case study

17. Problem to Solution in 5 Steps
Identify the conflict (and people’s feelings)
Generate possible solutions (What will that do for me?)
Decide on the best solution (which provides the best balance for everyone)
Implement the decision
Evaluate how it worked

18. Questions?
Thank You!