1. Preventing Sexual Violence on Campuses Across Ohio Alex Leslie Men Can Stop Rape Cleveland Rape Crisis Center

2. Welcome What is Men Can Stop Rape? Positive approach Focus on Masculinity Sustained Work What is Primary Prevention?

3. Why is rape also a men’s issue? Men rape Men are raped Men know survivors Men are confined by rape, too Men Can Stop Rape

4. Dominant Stories of Masculinity A dominant story as it relates to manhood is a narrative representing the values and messages associated with a shared understanding of what it means to be a man as defined by traditional masculinity.

5. Examples of Dominant Stories from Maxim Magazine Cover Headlines Sex Express! How to spot the girl with the condom in her purse Two Billion Women… time to get busy! Three Extra Inches Please! Can surgery turn your toothpick into a baseball bat? Any Woman Anytime 8 pick-up tricks than never fail (we bar-tested ‘em) Mind Control Made Easy! 22 ways to make people do whatever you want Filthy Stinking Rich Cash so quick it’s like stealing! Mexican Gladiators Border town brawlers fight for cash and glory Take Down a Terrorist! The tools and skills you need to take control now!

6. Real Man & the Dominant Story Smart Rich No self control Has an army to back him, is an “Army of One” Brags Physically strong Takes care of his own Married Wise Straight/Homophobic White/Black Self-made Shows no emotions Surrounded by women Lots of sex Demands respect Takes up space Invulnerable Charitable Has power over others Proud to be an American

7. Definition of the Dominant Story of Traditional Masculinity A dominant story as it relates to manhood is a narrative representing the values and messages associated with a shared understanding of what it means to be a man as defined by traditional masculinity.

8. The “Strongest Man You Know” Exercise Who is the Strongest Man you personally know or knew? What are the attributes that made him a Strong Man? How did he show strength through his interactions with other people?

9. Appreciating the Positive Counterstories that Already Exist Strong men are… Considerate Caring Good fathers Good partners Able to Take care of us Good listeners Empathetic Able to Provide for us Able to Overcome hardship Generous Able to change Able to admit mistakes Able to stand up for what they believe

10. Using the Counterstory to Overcome Barriers and Challenge the Dominant Stories A counterstory is a narrative that resists the values and expectations of masculinity’s dominant stories and therefore represents a moral shift. --Adapted from Hilde Nelson’s Damaged Identities, Narrative Repair

11. The Masculinity Tightrope… Dominant Stories Tough Unemotional Always in charge Using force Does whatever it takes Counterstories Responsible Owns up to mistakes Sacrifices for others Good listeners Able to change

12. The Strength Approach Moving beyond just physical strength to include… …STRENGTH as speaking up for what’s right … STRENGTH as a commitment to others and community … STRENGTH as speaking from the heart

13. MCSR’s Approach: The Social-Ecological Model

14. Bystander Intervention

15. What do you think? ___% of college men “report some level of discomfort when men use terms like ‘bitch’ and ‘slut’ to refer to women.” What do you think the percentage is?

16. What do you think? 0% 25% 50% 75% 100% 81% *Berkowitz, 2003

17. Bystander Interventions You are at a party at a friend’s house and have had a few drinks. You see a guy you know about to go upstairs with a woman who is visibly drunk. How would you want the men you work with to respond in this situation? What would YOU tell them to do in that situation?

18. Bystander Interventions Challenge and confront Clarification and question Involve authorities Invoke position and responsibility Group intervention Discuss consequences Intervention Continuum

19. What can men do…? Listen (to women) and talk (to men) Be an ally Speak up and speak out Challenge victim blaming Educate yourself further Know your local resources

20. Thank you! www.mencanstoprape.org