1. CONSENT

2. CONSENT IS…. Showing enthusiasm for, & desire to participate in the sexual activity free from manipulation or coercion clearly understood by everyone participating Always required Communication is sexy. Consent is mandatory.

3. CONSENT SOUNDS LIKE…. Yes! I’d like to………. I love you/this/it It feels good when you……… Would you please…… I want to keep doing this I’m enjoying this

4. CONSENT LOOKS LIKE Pulling someone closer Nodding yes Making direct eye contact Laughing or smiling Actively touching someone Initiating sexual activity

5. ASKING FOR CONSENT IS SEXY……….. May I…………? I’d like to…….would you like to? If not, what would you like to do? How do you feel about doing…….? Is there anything you need to feel comfortable or safe when we...? I'm really interested in doing …….with you. Do you want to do that? I'd like to have sex tonight, would you? What do you want to do or try tonight?

6. CONSENT DOES NOT SOUND LIKE….. Silence I’m not ready Can we just…… I’m not sure I don’t like this This doesn’t feel right/good

7. CONSENT DOES NOT LOOK LIKE….. Turning away Looking down/avoiding eye contact Pushing someone away Lying still, not participating Avoiding touch/not touching you

8. CONSENT IS AN ONGOING CONVERSATION I’m not feeling……..tonight. Can we do…..instead? I know we……before, but tonight I’d like to…….instead Are there things you don’t want to do: what are they? Mine are……… I like…..more than….. For more information, visit safe.unc.edu!