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Educating for Success – Inspiring learning and building citizenship
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2. Emotional Intelligence is…
Being the best that you can be when times are at their worst!
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4. Ladder of Inference
We live in a world of self-generating beliefs that are largely untested. We adopt those beliefs because they are based on conclusions, which are inferred from what we observe, plus our past experiences. Our ability to achieve the results we truly desire is eroded by our feeling that:
Our beliefs are true.
The truth is obvious.
Our beliefs are based on real data.
The data we select are the real data.”
Schools that Learn, Senge et al

5. Ladder of Inference

6. Moving up the Ladder of Inference is quick and automatic so…
We have to slow down
and ask the questions that will allow us to
test our assumptions for accuracy

7. Otherwise we end up in a reflexive loop…
Where the beliefs that we adopt actually determine what data we select for consideration. We end up paying attention to the data that support our beliefs and ignore those that contradict them.

8. Slow down the conversations by asking…
What are the observable data?
Does everyone agree on what the data are?
Why is this data important to me
What assumptions am I making based upon what I value?
How did we get from that data to these abstract assumptions?

10. The Golden Circle
“People don’t buy what you do. People buy why you do it.”
Simon Sinet
What
How
Why

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THE WHY?
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Did I give it my all ?
If it didn't work out – did I learn and change my game?
Did I quit?
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INTENTION VS IMPACT
Emotions
IMPACT
Intention Behaviour
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20. You judge yourself from your intentions, others judge you from your impact.

21. Emotions Drive Behaviour
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How brain works…
Cognitive System – Neo Cortex
IQ resides here
Site of working memory
Complex thought. 4 variables =
Possibilities ____
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23. How The Brain Works... human survival “Fight or Flight”
Limbic System – Amygdala
Site of emotional learning – builds circuits
Responds 100X faster than
cognitive system
Answers one critical question of
human survival “Fight or Flight”

24. Emotional Hijack
1. Body Responds Increase in heart rate Shift in breathing Narrowing of focus Body goes on “High Alert” 2. Decrease in Working Memory 4 variables to 1 The “1” is the one we default to for protection Unaddressed – effect lasts for 18 Minutes!
Hijack

25. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
EMOTIONAL NEED DRIVES BEHAVIOUR… EMOTIONS COME BEFORE THOUGHT WE FEEL BEFORE WE ACT
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26. Degrees of Hijack
Trigger
equals a loss of ____ %

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EMOTIONAL NEEDS
Safe:
Physical, Emotional
Environment
Accepted:
Included
Liked
Needed
Paid attention to
Respected:
Understood
Treated Fairly
Dignity
Valued:
Appreciated
Feeling Heard
Worthy
Recognized
Praised
Power:
Control
Choice
A Voice (has a say)
Able to Act
Context\A Reason
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28. People don’t do things to you, they do them for themselves!

29. What do you think about when…
It’s 10 a.m. Your boss/partner calls and leaves you a gruff voice message saying, “We have to talk. See me at 3pm
Your 16 year old daughter is out with a 19 year old boy. It’s now 1 hour past the time she should be home and she’s still not home…
We call this… AWFULLIZING!!!
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“IF YOU DON’T LIKE SOMETHING
CHANGE IT; IF YOU CAN’T CHANGE IT,
CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT
IT.”
Mary Englbriet
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32. “ My friends , love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear
“ My friends , love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be Loving, Hopeful and Optimistic and we’ll change the world.”
Jack Layton