1. Influences in Emotional Struggle Fundamental Life Questions Fundamental Life Needs Expectations Pastors Gathering 2013 Dennis Humphrey PhD LCPC 11/7/13

2. Life Questions We are asking these underneath every encounter and experience Who am I? (A question of identity) Why am I here? (A question of purpose/meaning) Where am I going? (A question of direction) Does anyone really love me? (A question of intimacy) Pastors Gathering 2013 Dennis Humphrey PhD LCPC 21/7/13

3. Fundamental Questions Marriage Fundamental, questions that the partners are trying to answer: Are you there for me? Do you have my back? Will you take care of me when I most need you?

4. Shame at Work in a Marriage The Demon Dialogs – Find the Bad Guy – Protest Polka – Freeze and Flee When you see these you know you have a couple of individuals who is hurting.

5. Dysfunctional Cycle

6. 1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. 2 And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. 3 The law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature. So God did what the law could not do. He sent his own Son in a body like the bodies we sinners have. And in that body God declared an end to sin’s control over us by giving his Son as a sacrifice for our sins. 4 He did this so that the just requirement of the law would be fully satisfied for us, who no longer follow our sinful nature but instead follow the Spirit. Romans 8: 1-4 The Days of Shame Over

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