1. LAY PASTORAL MINISTRY-3 A Webinar Series with Rev. Peg Morgan & Rev. Lois E Van Leer

2. Introductions Rev. Lois E Van Leer Woodinville UU Church Woodinville, WA Rev. Peg Morgan Westside UU Congregation Seattle, WA

4. Loose Ends

5. This a ministry of pastoral presence NOT Pastoral Counseling

6. Serves: short term need of high intensity or people who have a longer term need of low intensity

7. Explain your role to care receiver

8. Ethics and Boundaries

9. Ethics in pastoral care is all about what is best for the care receiver.

10. Speaking of ethics raises our consciousness about issues, values and commitments Essential to recognize the common worth and dignity of all Ethics violations damage the whole congregation A care receiver is vulnerable Dual Relationships

11. Secrecy, Privacy, Confidentiality

12. Secrecy is the practice of hiding information

13. Privacy is the right "to be let alone…”

14. Privacy “Each person has a sphere of existence and activity that properly belongs to that individual alone, where they should be free of constraint, coercion, and even uninvited observation.”

15. Confidentiality means that information shared within a relationship will not be shared outside that relationship.

16. Confidentiality refers to information that is spoken by us or about us including electronic or written communications.

17. The information belongs to the care recipient.

18. Confidentiality is about upholding the wellbeing of the people in the community.

19. We do not keep secrets

20. We respect person’s privacy

21. We do not keep secrets We respect person’s privacy We keep confidentiality

22. Exceptions to Confidentiality

23. Confidentiality does not apply when disclosure is necessary to prevent serious, foreseeable, and imminent harm to a client or other identifiable person.

24.  Court order  Written permission from care receiver  Consultation for lay pastoral associate with team  Abuse Reporting  Potential physical harm to care receiver or another

25. Suicide

26.  Threatening to hurt of kill himself or herself  Looking for ways to kill himself or herself: seeking access to pills, weapons, or other means  Talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide  Hopelessness Warning Signs

27.  Rage, anger, seeking revenge  Feeling trapped, like there’s no way out  Increasing alcohol or drug use  Withdrawing from friends, family or society  Deep depression  A recently experienced loss

28.  Anxiety, agitation, unable to sleep or sleeping all the time  No reason for living, no sense of purpose in life.  Making final arrangements and giving away special possessions  Sudden loss of interest in something that was once quite important

29. What to do if you suspect someone is suicidal:  Ask directly about suicidal thoughts.  Don’t avoid using the word “suicide.”  Ask the question without expressing a negative judgment.

30. Determining Seriousness of Intent  Does the person have the means to die by suicide?  Has preparation been made?  Is the method highly lethal?  Is the plan a near term plan?  Is intervention possible?  Has the person made a suicide attempt in the past?

31. Additionally…

32. When to Speak…

33. Is it true?

34. Is it kind?

35. Is it true? Is it kind? Is it the right time?

36. Is it true? Is it kind? Is it the right time? Is it important?

37. Record Keeping

38.  Minimal  Locked  Available to care receiver

39. Sexual Ethics

40. Gifts

41. Preventing Ethics Violations

42.  Clear job description  Adequate available supervision  Screening procedures  Formal ritual  Referral list of resources

43. Black Holes

44.  Needs are far beyond what a congregation can meet  Take up an inordinate amount of time and energy  Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries  Refer, Refer, Refer  Hold the line

45. Self -Care

46.  Boundaries: personal and programmatic  Frame time prior to and after time with someone  Have another LPA or minister to debrief with  Strong spiritual practice  Know when to say “no”  Know thyself and thy triggers

47. Legal Issues: Washington

48. Children’s Protective Service Law : RCW 26.44.030 Court Orders : 5.60.060 Nursing Home Protection of Dependent Adults : RCW 74.34.030 and 70.124.030

49. What would you do if…