1. B ULLYING

2. H OW DO YOU PICTURE BULLYING ? 1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWl0kSG4FP0&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWl0kSG4FP0&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ 2. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEiadfGehKU&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEiadfGehKU&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ

3. Bullying: To influence others through force or threat of force.  Nearly one-third (approximately 33%) of American teens are involved in bullying.  In a recent study, 13% of teens admit to bullying, 11% admit to being bullied and 6% have been bullied and also bully others.  Bullying is a form of intimidation that may be verbal, nonverbal or physical.

4. E XAMPLES OF VERBAL BULLYING :  Threaten someone  Force someone to do or not to do something  Tease maliciously  Dare a person to do or not to do something  Put someone down  Try to influence what others think about another person or group  Spreading rumors  Make fun of someone’s physical size, appearance or ability  Dictate what others will do or even wear

5. E XAMPLES OF N ONVERBAL B ULLYING :  Ignoring or excluding someone from a group or an activity  Using nonverbal put-downs (with body language)

6. E XAMPLES OF P HYSICAL B ULLYING :  Stealing or destroying property  Pushing/fighting or hurting someone  Surrounding a person with a group  Cornering a person in a hallway or classroom  Intentionally bumping into someone

7. P OSSIBLE FEELINGS OF PEOPLE WHO INTIMIDATE OR BULLY OTHERS :  Insecure and unsure about how to relate to others  Frustrated by failed relationships  Lonely and angry  Fearful that others will hurt them so they hurt others first  Desire or need to feel important  Desire or need to feel in control  Low self confidence

8. P OSSIBLE FEELINGS OF PEOPLE WHO ARE BEING INTIMIDATED OR BULLIED :  Fearful and scared  Angry and frustrated  Sad and lonely  Resentful of others who are not standing up for them  Revengeful  Embarrassed  Low self-esteem and confidence

9. T HERE ARE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO DEFLECT PEOPLE WHO BULLY :  Walk away if you can  Stay confident. If a person who bullies feels that they don't have any power over you, it takes the 'fun' out of it for them.  Stay positive. It can be hard to remember all your good points when someone is doing their best to be negative.  Hang around with friends or an adult at times when you're most in danger of being bullied.  Don't fight back. It can make the situation worse.  Tell someone you trust, a teacher or adult.

10. B ULLYING B YSTANDERS  Bullying situations usually involve more than the bully and the victim. They also involve bystanders—those who watch bullying happen or hear about it.  Depending on how bystanders respond, they can either contribute to the problem or the solution. Bystanders rarely play a completely neutral role, although they may think they do.

11. W HY DON ’ T MORE BYSTANDERS INTERVENE ?  They think, “It’s none of my business.”  They fear getting hurt or becoming another victim.  They feel powerless to stop the bully.  They don’t like the victim or believe the victim “deserves” it.  They don’t want to draw attention to themselves.  They fear retribution.  They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse.  They don’t know what to do.

12. H URTFUL B YSTANDERS  Some bystanders... instigate the bullying by prodding the bully to begin.  Other bystanders... encourage the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully.  And other bystanders... join in the bullying once it has begun.  Most bystanders... passively accept bullying by watching and doing nothing. Often without realizing it, these bystanders also contribute to the problem. Passive bystanders provide the audience a bully craves and the silent acceptance that allows bullies to continue their hurtful behavior.

13. H ELPFUL B YSTANDERS  Bystanders also have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying.  Some bystanders... directly intervene, by discouraging the bully, defending the victim, or redirecting the situation away from bullying.  Other bystanders... get help, by rallying support from peers to stand up against bullying or by reporting the bullying to adults.

14. C YBERBULLYING  Refers to any incident in which a person is tormented, embarrassed, harassed or threatened by another person through the use of technology ---- whether by internet, instant message, text message, digital photo, interactive gaming forum or other interactive technologies.  33% of young people have been cyberbullied  50% of students say cyberbullying is worse than real-life bullying  Girls are significantly more likely to be cyberbullied than boys  BOYS (1:37) http://www.netsmartz.org/RealLifeStories/CantTakeItBack  GIRLS (2:19) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6r-D-GGaM0

15. T AKING A STAND AGAINST CYBERBULLYING  Refuse to pass along messages you receive.  Refuse to view or contribute to cruel websites, polls or comments.  Tell an adult

16. C LIQUES AND F RIENDSHIP G ROUPS  A clique is a group of friends that leave other kids out on purpose.  One or two kids who have been deemed ‘popular’ usually run a clique.  A friendship group is not a clique but a group of peers that have developed a friendship out of shared interests, sports, activities, classes, neighborhoods or even family connections.  A friendship group does not leave others out on purpose.