1.   WHAT TO DO WITH THE THINGS KIDS DO: UNDERSTANDING THEIR STRESS AND YOURS

2. PRESENTER: DR.KATHRYN LAPOINTE, PHD, LPC
Dr. LaPointe is the Clinical Director of Kinghaven Counseling Group, Inc.  She received her doctorate degree in Psychology and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Texas. She has over thirty years of experience in the Human Services field working with dependency and family issues, delinquency, addictions and trauma related counseling.  She also has conducted Community Education and professional seminars.  In her position as Clinical Director at Kinghaven Counseling Group, she leads a team of 40 Counselors and Psychologists providing comprehensive assessment and treatment to children, teens and adults. 

3. ORDER OF PRESENTATION Goal of Behaviors Behavior Identification
Understanding Why
Strategies
Signs of Distress, More Complex Stress
Childhood Disorders
Hidden Disorders
Mood Disorders: Bipolar-Depressed
ADHD: Bipolar Manic
Anxiety Disorders: PTSD
Obsessive Compulsive Disorders
Making Effective Referrals

4. GOAL OF BEHAVIORS
Attention
Power
Revenge
Helplessness

5. Behavior IDENTIFICATION
All behavior is goal directed
The Goal is the Reason
The Reason is the WHY!
Intentions are determined by the results achieved

6. The best way to help our children: Understanding why

7. Childs Misguided Behavioral Goal
You feel…
Child may feel…
Attention
Annoyed, Irritated
Unattended
Power
proving who is boss or winning the fight
Powerless
Revenge
hurt, disappointed, shocked
wronged, hurt, treated unfairly
Helpless
helpless or like you don’t know what to do
Hopeless, incapable, unmotivated

8. The best way to help our children:
STRATEGIES
The best way to help our children:
Understanding why

9. Attention Power Revenge Helpless
Childs Misguided Behavioral Goal
You feel
Child may feel
Strategy
Attention
Annoyed, Irritated
Unattended
Eye contact, Instruction, Participation, Coaching
Catch them in the act of being good. And do it often!!!!
Power
proving who is boss or winning the fight
Powerless, small, unimportant
Offer Limited, acceptable choices, firm rules, an escape route
There is only one winner and the other the loser. Develop the skill at creating win-win situations.
Revenge
hurt, disappointed, shocked
wronged, hurt, treated unfairly
reflective listening.
and acknowledge the hurt, even if it is perceived hurt
Do not retaliate or threaten. Get some help from another adult
Helpless
helpless or like you don’t know what to do
Hopeless, incapable, unmotivated
Encourage, Teach, Acknowledge, Partner in the activity.
Acknowledge the effort or attention paid toward the desired activity without completing the project by yourself.

10. SIGNS OF DISTRESS, MORE COMPLEX STRESS
Hyper vigilance
Aggressive behaviors
Escalating behaviors
Poor social interactions
Chronic impulsivity
Defiance
Stealing, lying
Repetitive behaviors
excessive concerns
Absence of childhood happiness

11. 15 MINUTE BREAK
After The Break:
CHILDHOOD DISORDERS

12. WINNIE THE POOH HIDDEN DISORDER
Undoubtedly the world’s most loved and revered bear.
Love for honey (hunny) is endless

13. MOOD DISORDERS BIPOLAR- DEPRESSED
EEYORE
Eeyore is a donkey length.
His appearance is highlighted by a small light pink bow on his tail.
Intelligent animal but tends to keep to himself.
Extremely gloomy donkey and has a very bad habit of losing his tail!
Mostly he tends to depend on his friends
Often says “Thanks for noticin’ me” and “Oh, well”.

14. TIGGER ADHD BIPOLAR-MANIC Very Bouncy Animal and resembles a tiger.
Aways in an electrifying & exuberant mood and loves to bounce, bounce and bounce.
Easily recognizable by the black & orange stripes, a springy tail, and a long chin, beady eyes
He takes a lot of pleasure in being able to “unbounce” some of the other animals in the 100 Acre Wood.

15. ANXIETY DISORDERS PTSD
PIGLET
Very brave animal as supposed to his diminutive size and frame of a timid pink pig.
Quite fond of bright colors and especially balloons, and he even likes blowing dandelions.
First thing that Piglet utters when he gets up in the morning is “I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?”.
Piglet is a BOY!

16. OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDERS
RABBIT
Pushy and takes and takes himself rather seriously.
Quite certain about the important things in his life.
likes organizing a plan and to leading group events, even if nothing gets done.
Unhappy if anyone disturbs or interrupts him while he is engaged in any kind of activity,
He doesn’t like being bounced either.
Makes it a point to avoid Pooh during lunch time.

17. MAKING EFFECTIVE REFERRALS
Home, school, or office based therapy services for children, teens, adults, couples,
and families.
~Medicaid accepted~
Building the Bridge of Hope for Youth and Their Families
Counseling Group
Kinghaven
9100 Southwest Freeway, Suite 100
Houston, TX
Phone:
Web:
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18. MAKING EFFECTIVE REFERRALS
Promote the belief in counseling and behavioral services
Establish a relationship/feel confident in your referral
Information Posters
Opportunities Tip sheets
Know the Local providers of counseling services
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