1. Brain States: Learning to Read Children’s Behaviors
A Conscious Discipline® Presentation
Presented by: Belinda Lorch, CDCI
BrainBridge Connections®
with Conscious Discipline®

3. Sound familiar? “Mom, she’s touching me!” “I HATE math!”
“Why do I have to unload the dishwasher?”
“He took my doll!”
“I never get to do anything fun!”
“Aaaaaaaaaaaaa! Moooooooom!”
“You’re the worst mom in the world!! I hate you!”

4. Q.T.I.P. METHOD
QUIT
TAKING IT
PERSONALLY

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Survival State

9. S.T.A.R.
Stop
Take a deep breath
And
Relax
You’re safe.
Breathe with me.
You can handle this.

10. Emotional State COMPLAINING JUDGMENT BLAMING “He is touching me”
“Moooomm, when are we going to get there”
JUDGMENT
“She always get to sit in the front”
BLAMING
“He is touching me”
Namecalling, Whining and Tattling
Developmental Age 15 months-4 years old

13. Emotional State

15. Executive State (Problem Solving)

16. These skills are only accessible when the child is responding from their executive state
Child does not start assignments (dilly dallies) and is not finished
Child is constantly off task; in that time disrupts others
Child hits, pushes, grabs in his interaction with others
Child is verbally abusive to others & disrespectful to teacher
Attention- sustain in spite of distractibility
Time Management
Organization
Planning/Prioritization
Working Memory- hold info in memory while doing tasks
Impulse Control- think before you act
Flexibility- revise plans
Empathy- see from another’s point of view
Metacognition- observe self
Goal Achievement- follow through
Task Initiation

17. When you feel stressed you lose access to Pre-Frontal Lobe Skills
Children who have A.D.D. = 20% less of these skills to begin with.

18. Frontal Lobe Development
Just before age 2 – development begins
4 ½ - 8 – Big growth spurt
11-12 – Another growth spurt
Teen (13 – 16) – Offline
18 – 19 – Frontal Lobe comes back online
25 – Fully Matured!!

19. Life comes at us through our Limbic System