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2. Is a popular term today that gets tossed around in normal conversation. “ Y OU have to love yourself more. “ “ W HY don't you love yourself ? “ “ I F you only loved yourself, this wouldn't have happened to you. “ “ Y OU can't love another person until you love yourself first. “ These are just a few of the self-love directives that we give or get to suggest a way to more living fulfillment.

3. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, how you cope with the problems in your life.

4. Is it something you can buy in a Beauty makeover or a new set of clothing?Beauty Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational? Or, can a new relationship make you love yourself more? The answer to all of these questions is No! Although they feel good and are gratifying, you can't grow in self-love through these types of activities. Since, self-love is not simply a state of feeling good.

5. Self Love grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.spiritual Self-love is dynamic it grows by actions that mature us.

6. we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, Have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, We are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.

7. When you treat yourself with kindness, it makes you feel good.feel good The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness. Each loving act, however big or small, is a brick in the foundation of self-love.

8. So what are the steps I need to take to start to truly love myself ??

9. Well the first thing that needs to be addressed is your SELF TALK

10. It is your internal dialogue, self-talk is simply the way you talk to yourself inside your head. How you explain things to yourself

11. Is your SELF TALK: positive self talk or negative? What we say to ourselves radically affects the quality of our lives and our ability to do things effectively. How useful is it to always tell yourself “impossible,” “more problems,” “never,” and “I can’t?”

12. Most people use too much low-energy self-talk. Blaming yourself, chastising yourself. “I’m not good enough,” “I’m too tired,” “I’m not able.” This low-energy talk is one of the major causes of poor performance. If you tell yourself something often enough, you will begin to believe it. It may not be true, but you will certainly believe it is.

13. High-energy words promote high-energy thoughts and unlike the low-energy words, you can practice using high-energy words until your thoughts and emotions adjust for the better.

14. I LIKE MYSELF Try this Exercise I LIKE MYSELF Try this Exercise Say to yourself 10 X in a row I like myself And do this at least 3 X a day And one of those 3 X in front of a mirror Say to yourself 10 X in a row I like myself And do this at least 3 X a day And one of those 3 X in front of a mirror

15. When negative people explain bad things They internalize them “It’s me again.” Consider them permanent “It’s always this way.” Generalize “Life sucks.”

16. When negative people explain good things They externalize them “That’s just lucky.” They consider them temporary “That went well TODAY.” And see them only in a specific context “At least THIS went right.”

17. Some of the things Negative people say to themselves » “I screwed up again.” » “This good weather won’t last.” » “It’s ALWAYS a mess when I meet someone new.” » “This party is great, not like mine.” » “This is fun for now.” » “Well, THAT went okay, I guess.”

18. When positive people explain bad things » They externalize them “The weather caused it.” » Consider them temporary “That was a rough couple hours.” » And see them as isolated “THAT part of the plan didn’t work, but…”

19. When positive people explain good things » They internalize them “Life is great!” » Consider them to be more or less permanent changes “Now I know how to do this.” » And generalize from them “Things are working out well.”

20. Some of the things Positive people say to themselves » “That just went bad due to the weather.” » “It was rough for an hour or two.” » “The car broke down, but the trip was fun.” » “I’ve done well with this.” » “This has become a great business to be in.” » “I like the way things are going.”

21. » Explain things to yourself differently, and you’ll see a difference in your attitude today. » Make positive self talk your normal mode of operation, and you’ll see a difference in your life. » Negative talk can lead to many different things including: guilt, anger, depression, pessimism, fear and even anxiety. » This is enough reason alone to change your negative thinking into positive thinkingpositive thinking » But another reason it is important is because you are a good person who deserves to have self confidence in yourself.

22. No matter what anyone tells you, you have to find ways to think and talk positively all the time, especially when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts or saying negative things.

23. Here are some easy and powerful ways to help you implement these new changes

24. Reverse Your negative thoughts When you find yourself thinking or talking negatively, you want to reword, reverse or rephrase the words from negative to positive right away. For example: If you find yourself doing the “what if” scenario, then turn it into “I am going to”

25. Associate Associate with positive thinkers By being around people that think positively, you will have a much easier time changing your way of thinking and talking about yourself. Positive people can be a big support if you just let them.

26. Get away from the negative environment reinforcement to help you recharge yourself so negative thoughts don’t creep in. When you find yourself in a negative environment, get away from it as fast as you can. Search for positive When you find yourself in a negative environment, get away from it as fast as you can. Search for positive

27. Do light activities You can distract the negative thoughts by doing a light activity such as taking a short walk and looking for positive in the world around you. You can also start a Gratitude Journal, where you take a pen and start writing everything that you are grateful for. Notice how you can change your state from negative to positive.

28. Positive affirmations You want to use creative positive affirmations every day, especially the times when you find negative thoughts or negative talk creeping in. Affirmations are easy to implement in your daily life. They are like planting seeds in your cells and in your heart. The more you say them, the bigger they will grow.

29. Ok lets try this again Try this Exercise Say to yourself 10 X in a row I like myself And do this at least 3 X a day And one of those 3 X in front of a mirror Say to yourself 10 X in a row I like myself And do this at least 3 X a day And one of those 3 X in front of a mirror

30. 2) Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from Something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacynutritionsleep and healthy social interactions. Here is a Seven-Step Become mindful Set boundaries Protect yourself Forgive yourself Live intentionally Act on what you need rather than what you want Practice good self- care

31. 01 Step Become mindful People who have more self- love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them. People who have more self- love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.

32. Set Boundaries You'll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are. 02 Step

33. 03 Step Protect Yourself Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies It describes so well the type of "friends" who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success.happiness My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them ! There isn't enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, "I genuinely love myself and life". You will love and respect yourself more. Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies It describes so well the type of "friends" who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success.happiness My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them ! There isn't enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, "I genuinely love myself and life". You will love and respect yourself more.

34. Forgive Yourself We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned. We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned. 04 Step

35. Live I ntentionally You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn't have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this. 05 Step

36. Act on what you need rather than what you want You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self- love. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self- love. 06 Step

37. Practice good self-care You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions. nutrition sleep You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions. nutrition sleep 07 Step

38. If you choose just one or two of these self-love actions to work on, you will begin to accept and love yourself more. Just imagine how much you'll appreciate you when you exercise these seven steps to self-love. It is true that you can only love a person as much as you love yourself. If you exercise all of the actions of self-love that I describe here, you will allow and encourage others to express themselves in the same way. The more self-love you have for yourself, the better prepared you are for Healthy relating. Even more, you will start to attract people and circumstances to you that support your well-being.

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