1. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 1 There are some people who say that bullying is not really a problem in our society. They will tell you that there have always been bullies who try to hurt other people by doing unfair things to them or saying unfair things about them. But a lot of people are starting to realize that the bullies in our world today are much more powerful and much more dangerous than the bullies of the past. Why is it that some people are not concerned about the dangers of bullying and other people are very concerned?

2. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 2 The targets of bullies are quite often people who are somewhat shy and vulnerable. In the past people who were stronger than the vulnerable person the bully was targeting would often stand up for the person who was being bullied and would try to stop the damage that the bully was trying to do to the vulnerable person. In today’s world there are a lot of people who are strong enough to stand up to bullies but who are vulnerable in other ways.

3. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 3 There is a lot of competition in our world today and the types of people who in the past might have protected a vulnerable person who was being bullied might think twice, for example, if the vulnerable person was someone who they were competing with in a work situation or a school situation. This person who in the past might have protected the vulnerable person might think that they are also vulnerable because they feel that there is no longer enough opportunity in the world for everybody to get what they need.

4. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 4 The bullies in the world have always had some people who gave them support when they bullied vulnerable people. But now that there are people who are starting to think that there are too many people in the world competing for a limited amount of resources, bullies might be getting support from more people than they did in the past. And if it is true that vulnerable people are receiving less support when they are bullied than they did in the past, those people will need to start gaining more insight into what is happening when they are bullied by other people.

5. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 5 Gaining insight into what is happening when a person is bullied can be difficult because one bully might bully other people for one reason and another bully might bully other people for another reason. Before discussing the reasons why bullies feel the need to bully other people, it might be useful to discuss the difference between the types of spiritual worlds that most people (including bullies) live in and the type of spiritual world that the bully’s vulnerable target lives in.

6. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 6 Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3 Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong. How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue?

7. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 7 Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3 The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life. We also began the same socialization process early in life. How can our opinions be so different? Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.

8. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 8 The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes. They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong. Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to. And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to. Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

9. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 9 Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality. And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him. Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality. We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different spiritual worlds. Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

10. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 10 Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3 There are a lot of vulnerable people in our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other people to be an important part of their reality. When a vulnerable guy (or a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about the spiritual worlds that they live in, the vulnerable guy will not really understand what those people are talking about.

11. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 11 The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might have originally gotten into the difficult position of not living in a real spiritual world because he was only given a limited role in his family. Number 4

12. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 12 If the family gives the vulnerable guy only a limited role in the spiritual entity that is made up of the family members (and takes away some of his spiritual energy), they might create a fantasy about the vulnerable guy that says that he was given an equal role in the family and that he is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people. Number 4

13. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 13 But the family might have trouble convincing other people that they actually gave the vulnerable guy an equal role in the family. The people outside of the family will sense that the vulnerable guy seems to treat everyone equally and that he does not seem to have the types of strong opinions that people usually have when they have a genuine role in a spiritual entity such as a family. Number 4

14. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 14 The people outside of the family might come to realize that the vulnerable guy has not even been given a limited role in his family. It might start to become obvious to family friends (such as Number 5 and Number 6 below) that the family has given them a role in the family that is equal to or greater than the role that the family has given to the vulnerable guy even though they are not actually in the family. Number 4 Number 6 Number 5

15. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 15 When the vulnerable guy’s family realizes what is happening they might decide that they need to take action to avoid being criticized by people outside of the family. One technique they might use to make it appear that the vulnerable guy has a larger role in the family would be to criticize him when they are talking to people outside of the family. The people who they talk to will think that the other family members would not be criticizing the vulnerable guy if they were indifferent to him. Number 4 Number 6 Number 5

16. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 16 Number 4 It will now be assumed that the vulnerable guy did at one time have an equal role in his family. The people observing the situation will think that the vulnerable guy did something wrong that made him fall from grace. It will be assumed that the vulnerable guy has the same cultural values as his family because he has been given the spiritual identity as being someone basically similar to the other family members but who just seems to have some bad traits.

17. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 17 The vulnerable guy is living in a false paradise that was based on the false premise that he was given an equal role in his family and that he has the same cultural values as his family. The vulnerable guy’s family set up this false paradise to show other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. The false premise that the vulnerable guy was given an equal role in the family but just had a bad streak will appear to be true because it will be very hard for him to avoid being misunderstood by other people. Number 4

18. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 18 As the vulnerable guy gets older and starts developing relationships outside of his family and his family’s community, he will probably not understand some of the spiritual things that occur when he gets involved with other people. There is a danger that some of the people who he meets might try to take advantage of his weaknesses. Number 4

19. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 19 Most of the people who the vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of emotions (which is the most important part of their soul). They also develop a practical set of emotions. An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a car salesperson merging the practical part of their soul with the soul of their customer for the purpose of getting the customer to sign the contract.

20. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 20 The salesperson forms a temporary spiritual bond with their customer so that they will be able to influence them when they need the customer to do something that they want them to do (such as when they need the customer to sign the contract). The salesperson knows how to use spiritual links to influence the customer’s thinking at that important point where the customer might be tempted to back out of the negotiation.

21. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 21 The vulnerable guy has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the salesperson. The salesperson has exchanges of spiritual energy with their customer, but it is only a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship. And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that tend to not become very strong.

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24. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 24 The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows. A lot of spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who we will call a “primary woman”) who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.

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28. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 28 Number 4 The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between himself and the secondary women. The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious and the vulnerable guy is receiving their spiritual energy.

29. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 29 Number 4 The secondary women might get upset with the vulnerable guy for sending them his subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious and then not developing a deeper relationship with them. They will think that the vulnerable guy is leading them on and they will want him to stop sending his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them through the Collective Subconscious.

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31. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 31 Number 4 The vulnerable guy might have also gotten into a pattern of interfacing with other men who don’t want to get close to him personally but who will relay the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings to other men who they know.

32. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 32 These men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious will wonder why they are sensing that the vulnerable guy is trying to start a friendship with them and is then backing off and not developing the relationship. Number 4

33. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 33 Number 4 They do not understand that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with them is dependent upon another man transmitting his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them. The men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings will eventually want to stop receiving these transmissions.

34. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 34 Number 4 When the woman and the man who transmit the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings (his emotions) to other people realize what is happening, they might take on the role of a bully and they might create a lie that says that the vulnerable guy purposely likes to hurt other people emotionally.

35. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 35 They might expand upon their lie and say that the vulnerable guy is not only guilty of leading other people on emotionally, but that he is also guilty of continuing to send his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious when he knows that they do not want to receive those emotions. Number 4

36. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 36 The woman or the man might purposely start an interaction with the vulnerable guy for the purpose of getting him in trouble. They know that by starting an interaction with him without really accepting him they will be relaying his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious. Number 4

37. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 37 The woman and the man also know that when the other people receive the vulnerable guy’s emotions through the Collective Subconscious they are going to reject those emotions, and they are going to send a lot of bad vibrations back to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious. Number 4

38. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 38 It would never occur to the vulnerable guy that he might be blamed for leading other people on emotionally. But the man bully and the woman bully created a lie saying that he was purposely sending unwanted emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious and then these bullies purposely relayed his emotions to those people. Number 4

39. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 39 The vulnerable guy needs to somehow communicate to other people that he did not intend to force his emotions on other people and that it was the bullies who purposely relayed his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious. As he tries to convince other people of his innocence the bullies will try to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty.

40. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 40 One of the arguments that the bullies might use to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty is that he sometimes seems to think that he is in a relationship with another person when he is not. The vulnerable guy knows that he sometimes gives other people this impression, but he does not know why this happens and he feels that he does not really believe that he is developing a relationship when this happens.

41. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 41 What is happening in these situations is that when a man bully or a woman bully take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that is unfair, some of bully’s emotions will be forced onto the vulnerable guy. After the vulnerable guy picks up these emotions he will, without his knowledge, pass those emotions off to other people. The other people who he passes these emotions off to will start to develop an emotional relationship with the bully because the vulnerable guy will be relaying the bully’s emotions to them through the Collective Subconscious.

42. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 42 The vulnerable guy knows that what is happening is a long way from being a relationship because he knows that he is not receiving strong emotions from the other person. But he does not understand why he cannot just relax with this person who he does not believe he has formed a relationship with. He cannot relax with this person because the bully has gotten him to force the bully’s emotions onto the other person and the bully will not allow the vulnerable guy to back off and relax.

43. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 43 During the time immediately before a man bully or a woman bully takes advantage of the vulnerable guy, it is very likely that the bully will start to act kind of odd. They will start saying stupid things that make the people around them start to avoid the bully and start to criticize them. The bully has at this point used up the spiritual energy that they had stolen from other people in the past and the bully is becoming weaker.

44. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 44 The man bully or the woman bully needs to make a conquest. They need to connect their shallow soul to the soul of another person, and they use the vulnerable guy to accomplish this. When the vulnerable guy starts an interaction with another person after being bullied, the soul of the man bully or the woman bully will attach itself to that other person. That is why it appears that the vulnerable guy is in a relationship. But the relationship is not between the vulnerable guy and the other person. It is between the bully and the other person.

45. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 45 The man bully or the woman bully will now start to feel emotionally satisfied and the people who had been laughing at them for their insecurity will now start to respect the bully once again. The vulnerable guy will notice that the new person who he started an interaction with might act friendly towards him for a short period of time thinking that he has started a relationship with them, but after a while they will turn cold towards him when they realize that he has done something that activated their emotions and then did not follow through and develop the relationship further.

46. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 46 Deep in the vulnerable guy’s mind he might believe that someday the man bully or the woman bully might want to become friends with him. He knows that his interactions with the bully have been positive for the bully. He has seen how the bully gets transformed from a somewhat shallow person into a person with a certain amount of confidence after the bully has an interaction with him and for this reason he might imagine that the bully might like him. But that is not really true.

47. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 47 The bully will eventually “use up” the spiritual energy that they received from the person who the vulnerable guy had relayed their emotions to. And in “using up” that spiritual energy they also “used up” the energy that the vulnerable guy had put into the bully’s relationship with that person. For this reason, in most situations there is no potential for additional spiritual energy exchanges between the man bully or woman bully and the vulnerable guy once the bully has used up that energy.

48. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 48 But if the bully and the vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation where they are forced to continue interacting with each other, the bully may end up bullying the vulnerable guy several times over a period of months or years. In this type of situation the energy exchanges between them might eventually become fairly strong, but it will be negative type of energy that is being exchanged that cannot develop into a positive relationship.

49. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 49 The bully in the previous example did damage to the vulnerable guy, but it was a different type of damage than the damage done earlier in his life by the people who tried to convince other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. But eventually the vulnerable guy will realize that the bully is also indifferent towards him.

50. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 50 Not only will the vulnerable guy see that the bully is indifferent towards him, but other people will also see that the bully is indifferent towards the vulnerable guy. At this point the bully might start to become afraid that other people will realize that he has only been using the vulnerable guy to relay the bully’s emotions to other people.

51. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 51 The bully might at this point start to criticize the vulnerable guy so that people don’t think that he is indifferent towards him. Now the vulnerable guy will be in a similar situation to what he experienced earlier in his life. The bully does not want other people to see that he is indifferent to the vulnerable guy.

52. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 52 When the bully starts criticizing the vulnerable guy the people who the bully is talking to will think that the bully would not be criticizing the vulnerable guy if he was indifferent to him. They will start to think that the vulnerable guy must have cultural values similar to those of the bully. They will think that he has fallen from grace but that he still has cultural values similar to those of the bully.

53. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 53 The vulnerable guy’s original false paradise was set up early in his life. The bully set up his second false paradise when he felt the need to convince other people that he was not really indifferent to the vulnerable guy. It is possible that the vulnerable guy might someday be forced to live in a third false paradise or even in a fourth false paradise.

54. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 54 Earlier it was mentioned that even though the vulnerable guy is not directly involved with the person who he is relaying the bully’s emotions to, he will not be able to relax with that person because the bully will not let him. The person who the vulnerable guy is relaying the bully’s emotions to does not realize that the vulnerable guy is connecting them to the bully through the Collective Subconscious.

55. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 55 They might mistakenly think that they are exchanging a small amount of spiritual energy with the vulnerable guy even though they are actually exchanging spiritual energy with the bully. They will think that the vulnerable guy is sending them spiritual messages saying that he is a loser who once had a genuine identity in a cultural group but then fell from grace.

56. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 56 They will not understand that it is actually the soul of the bully that is sending them these negative spiritual messages about the vulnerable guy. That is why the vulnerable guy is not able to relax with the person who he is relaying the bully’s emotions to. The other person does not understand why he is sending them negative spiritual messages about himself, and he does not know how to tell them that he is not doing this.

57. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 57 There is another type of bullying that can happen when a bully and a vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation. If the bully is in a position of power and if somebody in the group has a behavior problem, the bully might be reluctant to punish that person if the person who has a behavior problem is somebody who the bully likes. They might decide to punish the vulnerable guy instead.

58. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 58 When this sort of thing happens the people in the group know that the person with the behavior problem has done something wrong and they are waiting to see what the punishment will be. They know that this person must “pay for their sins”. If the bully at this point starts to lean unfairly on the vulnerable guy, the people in the group will realize that the bully is trying to transfer the punishment that was supposed to go to the person with the behavior problem to the vulnerable guy.

59. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 59 If the vulnerable guy doesn’t have the spiritual strength to stop this from happening the group might join together spiritually to transfer the blame from the person who has the behavior problem to the vulnerable guy. Not only is this psychologically damaging to the vulnerable guy, but once this happens the person with the behavior problem might start to purposely do things that are wrong and then enjoy watching while the vulnerable guy is forced to accept the shame and the blame.

60. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 60 The vulnerable guy may not have the spiritual strength to stop this sort of thing from happening, but he should make sure that he does not start to subconsciously think that he should be held responsible whenever somebody with a behavior problem gets away with something at his expense. The vulnerable guy should not have to take the blame for things that other people do.

61. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 61 But there is also something else happening when a bully uses a group situation to transfer shame and blame away from a person who they are trying to protect and transfers it to the vulnerable guy. The bully might notice that the people in the group enjoyed what was happening when they helped the bully to perform the spiritual transfer of shame and blame from the guilty person to the vulnerable guy.

62. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 62 The bully might come to realize that not only did the group members participate in a transfer of spiritual shame and blame, but that the bully had also given each of the group members a gift. The bully had given the group members some of the same power that the bully had. The bully had given them the power to force their emotions onto the vulnerable guy in the same way that the bully had. Once this happened the vulnerable guy would be forced to, without his knowledge, relay the emotions of the group members to other people who he met.

63. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 63 When the group members start forcing the vulnerable guy to relay their emotions to new people who he meets, he will once again have a problem with people thinking that he believes he is in relationships with people who he is not really involved with. There will be relationships but they will be between the group members and the new people he meets, not between him and the people who he meets.

64. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 64 And in a similar manner to what happens when he relays the bully’s emotions to other people, he will have trouble relaxing with the people who he is relaying the group members’ emotions to. These people might mistakenly think that they are exchanging a small amount of spiritual energy with the vulnerable guy when they are actually exchanging spiritual energy with the group members.

65. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 65 These new people who the vulnerable guy meets will think that he is sending them spiritual messages saying that he is a loser who once had a genuine identity in a cultural group but then fell from grace. They will not understand that it is actually the souls of the group members who are sending them those negative spiritual messages through the Collective Subconscious.

66. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 66 It will be hard for the vulnerable guy to relax with these new people who he meets because those people will not understand why he seems to be sending them negative spiritual messages about himself. He does not know how to convince them that he is not doing this and that he is actually just serving as a relay point between them and the group members.

67. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 67 When a bully takes advantage of people such as the vulnerable guy they are not really stealing his paradise. The vulnerable guy was forced to live in a false paradise long before he met the bully. But even though the bully did not steal his paradise the bully made the vulnerable guy’s life more difficult than it was before.

68. The Philosophy of Exotischism When Bullies Steal Your Paradise 68 If the vulnerable guy could stop other people from bullying him, he might be able to overcome his problem with being misunderstood by other people. But being as it is unrealistic to expect that bullies are going to stop bullying, the next best option for him would be to learn to understand what is happening when he is bullied by other people Copyright 2013 Don Bergquist