1. Relationship Bank Account Habit 4 Think Win-Win

2. Your Personal Challenge Task 1: On the mini post-it note, write the biggest challenge you are facing right now in your teen life. Place it on the giant post-it note on the back wall. Task 2: Do you ever feel overworked? Brainstorm a list of all the things a teen has to do and challenges they face on a daily or weekly basis.

3. Relationship Accounts You have an account for everyone you meet They never close – Can meet up with someone years later and pickup where you left off You continually need to make deposits into the most important accounts otherwise by doing nothing, the account can go in the negative

4. Journal Entry: Relationships Think of a relationship you have with someone (parents, family member, friend, teacher boy/girlfriend) that you want to make better or wish you could have made better. What happened between you and this person, and what do you think you can do to make the relationship better? 5-7 well developed well developed sentences.

5. RBA Deposits and Withdrawals Keep Promises Do small acts of kindness Be loyal Listen Say I’m sorry Set clear expectations Break promises Keep to yourself Gossip and break confidences Don’t listen Be arrogant Set false expectations

6. Keeping Promises By keeping promises you build trust with your friends, your parents, your teachers When you build trust, your life goes so much more smoothly

7. Doing Small Acts of Kindness We already know that this is a deposit in our personal bank account This is also a deposit in our relationship bank account with that person Don’t wait until people are dead to give them flowers

8. Be Loyal Loyal people keep secrets Loyal people avoid gossip Loyal people stick up for others

9. Listen This is the beginning of Habit 5 Friends/family sometimes just need you to listen so they can vent. They are not looking for answers to their problems or for you to do anything other than lsiten

10. Say I’m Sorry Don’t let your pride or lack of courage stand in the way of saying “I’m sorry” to people you may have offended because it is never as scary as it seems and it will make you feel so good afterward

11. Set Clear Expectations Be honest up front and then no one is assuming anything that you didn’t mean.

12. Habit 4 Think Win-Win Attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that says I can win and so can you. No one is superior and no one is inferior Win – Win is not – Win-Lose – Lose-Win – Lose-Lose

13. Win-Lose Totem Pole-getting to the top Win-Lose is competitive Examples of Win-Lose – Using other people for your own gain – Trying to get ahead at the expense of another – Spreading rumors – Always insisting you get your own way – Becoming jealous/envious when something good happens to someone else Journal Entry: Think of a time you had win-lose, or think of a time you seen someone else have a win-lose mentality (does not include sports). Explain. (3-5) sentences

14. Lose- Win These people avoid confrontation so they take the blame to keep the peace It’s the doormat syndrome Giving into peer pressure Set low expectations and compromise your standards Journal Entry: Think of a time you or someone else had a lose-win mentality, or create a scenario of this mentality. (3-5 sentences)

15. Lose-Lose The downward spiral Revenge is lose-lose I don’t care what happens to me as long as _________ doesn’t do well Think of a time you or someone else had a lose-win mentality, or create a scenario of this mentality. (3-5 sentences)

16. Win-Win The All You Can Eat Buffet There is plenty of success to go around Examples of win-win – Your best friend got accepted at the college you wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend – You want to go out to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie for home

17. Win the Private Victory First If you are extremely insecure it is hard to think win-win because you are threatened by others successes. These people get jealous easily Personal security is the foundation for thinking win-win

18. Avoid Tumor Twins Competing and Comparing can keep you from thinking win-win Competing can be healthy when you compete against yourself or when it challenges you to reach and stretch and become your best Competing is bad when there is a win at any cost attitude or a fear of failure

19. Comparing Comparing yourself can become an addiction You feel superior one moment and then inferior the next moment Good comparing is comparing yourself against your potential

20. Win-Win It is contagious Sometimes though not everyone thinks win- win or you won’t be able to find a win-win solution. Then you need to decide not to play or to walk away Increase how much you think win-win because it will make you feel great!