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11. When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years. - Mark Twain "Mothers of teenagers know why animals eat their young“ "Raising teenagers is like nailing Jell-O to a tree" "A teenager is always too tired to hold a dishcloth, but never too tired to hold a phone."

12. The teen years are a period of intense growth, not only physically but emotionally, socially and intellectually. It's understandable that it is a time of confusion and upheaval for many families

13. The goal of parenting teens is to successfully launch them into adulthood

14. Typical Characteristics Of Teenagers* Emotional Physical Social Intellectual * Compiled by Bob Stahn. www.wellspringcounselingllc.com

15. Awkward Experimenting Energetic Hormone Driven Out of control Mobile / free Rarely likes own appearance Gawky (as is anything in its adolescence) In transition from child to adult Growing (out of clothes) Often hungry or eating Adult body but not maturity * Compiled by Bob Stahn. www.wellspringcounselingllc.com

16. Near sighted Invincible, risk taker Self conscious Doesn’t know self Defensive often Curious Moody, chaotic internally Awkward In transition from child to adult Confused/confusing New and wonderful experiences Sensitive about self Insensitive about others Volatile Know-it-all Disconnected with others Experimenting Enmeshed with peers Unstable Dependent Independent (second toddlerhood) Narrow minded Does not know self Inadequate Insecure

17. Peer oriented/pressure Self conscious In transition Unskilled/Awkward Manipulative Without a niche Liberated from “kid” status “Pairing up” interests Acceptance-focused behavior Individual identity Being seen/recognized (on stage) Mobility Freedom Experimental Insensitive about others Sensitive about self Clothes status Manipulative Alone/misfit Want distance from parents * Compiled by Bob Stahn. www.wellspringcounselingllc.com

18. Black and white thinking Abstract thinking Idealistic thinking Here-and-now thinking only (no future) Pseudo-stupidity (due to little experience) Experimentation with boundaries Experimentation with values Question “Who am I?” Question “Am I normal?” Question “Who and what should I believe” * Compiled by Bob Stahn. www.wellspringcounselingllc.com

19. The Influence of Society on Teens

20. The world revolves around you!

21. You Need Stuff!

22. You Must Be Constantly Entertained!

23. The Virtual World is a Great Place to Live!

24. You Must Stay Connected

25. Online Usage: 12 – 17 yo 95% regularly use the internet 69% have own their computer 37% have smart phones 24% use game console to get online (Pew Research 2012)

26. Social Media Sites 73% of teens have a social media profile Avg. teen has 201 FB friends 18% of teens create private email or social network profile

27. Cell Phones 78% of teens have a cell phone The avg. teen sends 60 texts/day 40% of teens plan to buy an iphone in the next 6 months

28. The typical teen logs more than seven hours a day and more than 50 hours a week in front of a TV, computer, or cell phone screen (Kaiser Family Foundation 2012)

29. Today’s teens are the most connected generation in history.

30. That connectedness will influence their development.

31. Make Your Voice Heard !

32. The goal of parenting teens is to successfully launch them into adulthood

33. Be a Tugboat

34. Tugboats are: tenacious powerful influential

35. The function of the tugboat is to guide ships

36. Assist ships leaving & entering the harbor Move ships to a desired direction Tow ships who cannot move under their own power

37. Top 5 Tug Boat Tips

38. Set clear boundaries and discuss consequences

39. Learn to let go

40. Expect the best

41. Listen more….

42. Be observant and involved

43. “If we treat people as who they can become, they will be inspired to rise to the level of our expectations.” ~ John Maxwell