1. How to be Sexcessful: A Dialogue About Consent Developed at University of San Francisco

2. What is Sexual Consent? Getting and Giving Consent Recognizing and Responding to Sexual Assault What we’ll cover

3. Please participate Respect the presenter No texting No talking No facebook Respect your peers Listen intently Applaud their courage Keep their stories private Ground Rules

4. Please take a few minutes to write quick answers (1-2 sentences each) to the questions on the handout. Things to Think About

5. What is Consent?

6. How would you define consent? Provide an example to illustrate a case of clear consent? What is Consent Sexual consent is a freely given agreement to engage in sexual activity.

7. Unconscious Frightened Intimidated Substantially impaired because of a psychological health condition Impaired because of voluntary intoxication Impaired because of the deceptive administering of any drug, intoxicant or controlled substance Absence of ‘yes’ not the absence of ‘no’ Barriers to Consent

8. Getting and Giving Consent

9. If you can’t talk about sex, you shouldn’t be having any.

10. Think about your own wishes and limitations (before not after you get involved). Think about appropriate and sensitive sexual advances. Interpret sexual advance responses. (Consider Verbal Cues v. Non-verbal Cues.) Respond accordingly and with respect--everyone deserves this. Sexcessful Communication

11. What are some ways you could ask for consent? Asking for Consent

12. No sets limits No defines who we are No is integrity No is a clear choice No is finding YOUR voice Setting Limits Sets You Free

13. What are some phrases you could use to tell someone “no”? Saying No

14. No sexual partners in the past 12 months. 30% One sexual partner 45% Everyone is (NOT) Having Sex

15. Identifying and Responding to Sexual Assault

16. How common are rape and sexual assault? 1 in 5 women will experience attempted or completed sexual assault while in college. Reflection Question

17. Sexual assault is any sexual contact without consent. What is Sexual Assault

18. Go to a safe place Know it is not your fault Seek medical attention Get a forensic exam Preserve evidence Do not: bathe, change your clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair, clean the crime scene. For survivors

19. Everyone reacts differently It’s okay to feel a variety of emotions. Don’t question or worry about how you handled the situation You do not need to hide the assault Remember it’s not your fault For survivors

20. Activity