1. Talking About Sexual Harassment

2. Goals of the Program:  To define sexual harassment  To understand examples of sexual harassment  To learn strategies for handling sexual harassment  To explore the consequences of sexual harassment--for the harasser and for the victim  To define sexual harassment  To understand examples of sexual harassment  To learn strategies for handling sexual harassment  To explore the consequences of sexual harassment--for the harasser and for the victim

3. Serious Listening!

4. What is Sexual Harassment? Any unwanted actions, behaviors, or words of a sexual nature. Any unwanted actions, behaviors, or words of a sexual nature.

5. What are some examples of Sexual Harassment?  Unwanted hugs or kisses  Texts and emails of a sexual nature  Jokes of a sexual nature  Rumors of a sexual nature  Rating someone’s looks  Bra-snapping or pantsing  Gossiping about what someone has or hasn’t done with someone else  Unwanted hugs or kisses  Texts and emails of a sexual nature  Jokes of a sexual nature  Rumors of a sexual nature  Rating someone’s looks  Bra-snapping or pantsing  Gossiping about what someone has or hasn’t done with someone else

6.  School  Playground  Hallways  Bathroom  Cafeteria  Bus  School  Playground  Hallways  Bathroom  Cafeteria  Bus Does Sexual Harassment happen at our school? Where does it happen?

7. Video Talking about Sexual Harassment by Sunburst Media

8. Types of sexual harassment:  Visual  Verbal  Physical

9. Visual Sexual Harassment  Dirty pictures, calendars, cartoons, or other materials of a sexual nature  Graffiti  Letters, notes, or material of a sexual nature  Obscene gestures  Email or internet (IM ’ s) of a sexual nature  Dirty pictures, calendars, cartoons, or other materials of a sexual nature  Graffiti  Letters, notes, or material of a sexual nature  Obscene gestures  Email or internet (IM ’ s) of a sexual nature

10. Verbal Sexual Harassment  Threats or bribes for unwanted sexual activity  Sexual comments or questions  Sexually suggestive sounds such as sucking noises or whistles  Rating a person ( “ She ’ s a 10. ” )  Spreading rumors about a person ’ s sexuality  Name-calling  Jokes of a sexual nature  Telephone calls of a sexual nature

11. Physical Sexual Harassment  Touching, patting, pinching, squeezing, tickling, or brushing against a person  Unwanted neck or shoulder massages  Stalking a person  Blocking someone  Wedgies  Pantsing  Bra-snapping  Touching, patting, pinching, squeezing, tickling, or brushing against a person  Unwanted neck or shoulder massages  Stalking a person  Blocking someone  Wedgies  Pantsing  Bra-snapping

12. Is it flirting or sexual harassment?  Flirting is meant to compliment you and make you feel good  Examples: Saying hello, giving a compliment  Flirting is meant to compliment you and make you feel good  Examples: Saying hello, giving a compliment  Harassment makes you feel bad and uncomfortable  Example: Any behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable (verbal, physical or visual)

13. Who can sexually harass someone?  Boys harass girls  Girls harass boys  Boys harass boys  Girls harass girls  Coaches, teachers and other adults can also harass students

14. What are the effects of sexual harassment on its victims?  A person may feel angry, afraid, embarrassed, degraded, depressed, or intimidated.  A person may become physically ill, withdraw from social situations, or turn to drugs or alcohol.  A person may feel angry, afraid, embarrassed, degraded, depressed, or intimidated.  A person may become physically ill, withdraw from social situations, or turn to drugs or alcohol.  A person may have trouble having comfortable relationships with others.  Grades may decline.  A person may be unable to concentrate on class work.

15. What can happen to the sexual harasser? According to the Penn Manor School District ’ s Sexual Harassment Policy, the superintendent may do one of the following if a complaint of sexual harassment is found to be true:  Conduct an independent investigation  Resolve the matter informally  Report the entire matter to the Board of Education (BOE) and/or  Recommend to the BOE disciplinary action up to and including suspension, expulsion or discharge  Report the incident to the police. According to the Penn Manor School District ’ s Sexual Harassment Policy, the superintendent may do one of the following if a complaint of sexual harassment is found to be true:  Conduct an independent investigation  Resolve the matter informally  Report the entire matter to the Board of Education (BOE) and/or  Recommend to the BOE disciplinary action up to and including suspension, expulsion or discharge  Report the incident to the police.

16. What Can You Do About Sexual Harassment?  Make it clear to the harasser that you do not like his/her behavior and that you expect it to stop immediately. If you do this face to face, ask a friend to join you.  Consider sending a letter that tells the harasser to stop. Give details about the behavior that you find offensive, your reactions to them, and what you want to happen.  Keep a record of all harassing activities including names, dates, time, and the nature of the incidents.  Don ’ t ignore it! Talk with someone you trust about how to handle the situation. Make sure they listen, believe you, and do something about it.  Don ’ t stand by if you see harassment--tell the harasser to stop and support the victim.  Don ’ t feel guilty--you didn ’ t cause the harassment and it is OK to ask for help!  Make it clear to the harasser that you do not like his/her behavior and that you expect it to stop immediately. If you do this face to face, ask a friend to join you.  Consider sending a letter that tells the harasser to stop. Give details about the behavior that you find offensive, your reactions to them, and what you want to happen.  Keep a record of all harassing activities including names, dates, time, and the nature of the incidents.  Don ’ t ignore it! Talk with someone you trust about how to handle the situation. Make sure they listen, believe you, and do something about it.  Don ’ t stand by if you see harassment--tell the harasser to stop and support the victim.  Don ’ t feel guilty--you didn ’ t cause the harassment and it is OK to ask for help!

17. Do ’ s and Do Not ’ s Do not:  Make unwanted sexual demands  Touch a person who doesn ’ t want to be touched  Make sexual remarks or gestures  Laugh at others ’ sexually harassing words or behavior Do not:  Make unwanted sexual demands  Touch a person who doesn ’ t want to be touched  Make sexual remarks or gestures  Laugh at others ’ sexually harassing words or behavior Do:  Put yourself in the other person ’ s shoes: how would you feel?  Treat others the way you would like to be treated!

18. Some things to remember...  Sexual Harassment is similar to bullying.  The harasser ’ s goal is POWER and CONTROL.  Intent vs. Impact can really make a difference.  Use your instincts!  Don ’ t let Peer Presssure get in the way.  RESPONSIBLE REPORTING is important.  Sexual Harassment is similar to bullying.  The harasser ’ s goal is POWER and CONTROL.  Intent vs. Impact can really make a difference.  Use your instincts!  Don ’ t let Peer Presssure get in the way.  RESPONSIBLE REPORTING is important.

19. How much have you learned?  How is flirting different from sexual harassment?  What are the three types of sexual harassment?  What should you do if you are being sexually harassed?  What could happen if you are sexually harassing someone else?  How is flirting different from sexual harassment?  What are the three types of sexual harassment?  What should you do if you are being sexually harassed?  What could happen if you are sexually harassing someone else?

20. Any Questions? For more information or to report an incident of sexual harassment--please make an appointment with Mrs. Juba or an adult you can trust.