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FADAA and FCCMH Presents Relationship Detox: Helping Chemically Dependent Clients Develop Healthy Relationships In Recovery Presenter Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC
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In the Realm of the Hungry Ghost by Gabor Mate, M.D. Drugs don’t cause addiction any more than a deck of cards causes compulsive gambling There needs to be a pre-existing vulnerability For some people, the seeds of addiction is planted years before they use
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In the Realm of the Hungry Ghost by Gabor Mate, M.D. Drugs don’t cause addiction any more than a deck of cards causes compulsive gambling There needs to be a pre-existing vulnerability For some people, the seeds of addiction is planted years before they use
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Michael Jackson
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Iceberg Model Addiction Co-dependence Toxic Shame Abandonment/Trauma John Freil
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Guilt Shame Behavior Your being “I’ve done wrong” “There is something wrong with me” “I’ve done bad” “I am bad” “I made a mistake” “I am a mistake” Guilt vs. Shame “
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Shame The belief that I am unlovable and unworthly of belonging. Brene Brown, Ph. D.
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Iceberg Model Addiction Co-dependence Toxic Shame Abandonment/Trauma John Freil
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Co-dependence An over involvement with things outside of us and an underinvolvement with things inside of us. Left untreated codependence can lead to addiction. John Friel
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Marilyn Monroe
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Billie Holiday
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Iceberg Model Addiction Co-dependence Toxic Shame Abandonment/Trauma John Freil
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Texas Behavioral Health Institute Presents Relationship Detox: Helping Chemically Dependent Clients Develop Healthy Relationships In Recovery Presenter Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC
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Addictive Relationship Styles Lots of drama Smothering
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1 ∕ 2 + 1 ∕ 2 = 2 ∕ 4 = 1 ∕ 2
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Addictive Relationship Styles Continued Extreme jealousy Lots of arguments followed by sex Lots of break-ups followed by sex Abuse You abandon relatives and friends whenever you are in a relationship
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Addictive Relationship Styles Continued You experience withdrawal symptoms when alone You tend to leave one addictive relationship and enter another You tend to stay in these relationships despite adverse consequences
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Characteristics of Healthy Relationships Both partners are whole Each is growing and encouraging the other to grow Each has a separate life outside of the relationship Each is able to spend time alone Minimal jealousy No abuse Ability to argue in the present
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Adult Children of Alcoholics We tend to fear people in authority We tend to lie when it’s easier to tell the truth We are approval seekers We have a tendency toward perfection
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Adult Children of Alcoholics Continued We are extremely loyal, even when there is evidence that the loyalty is undeserved We either marry alcoholics, become one, or choose some other compulsive personality We tend to put the needs of others ahead of our own needs We are addicted to excitement We tend to fear abandonment
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The Therapeutic Relationship As A Model For Helping Clients Develop Healthy Relationships In Recovery
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The Engagement Phase Punctuality Joining—small talk Making sure the client has a voice The use of humor
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Counseling Phase Experiencing a new way of relating o Listening o Inviting solutions from the client Modeling healthy boundaries
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Types of Boundaries Loose – no one is aware of what’s going on with anyone else in the family Enmeshed – family members are too involved in each other’s lives Healthy, clear – the necessary distinction between the various subsystems are present; members are allowed the 5 freedoms
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The goal is to help clients differentiate
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Emotional cutoff – Creating distance in relationships by fleeing A.Homelessness B.Psychosis C.Prison D.Drug use E. F.Joining the military G.Joining a gang, cult or addictive relationship H.Suicide
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Helping clients recover from negative core beliefs
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Negative Core Beliefs – Stage Two Recovery “I will never get my needs met if I have to depend upon other people.” “What other people think of me is more important that what I feel.” “God is going to get me.” “I have to be perfect.”
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Negative Core Beliefs Continued “ I am ugly.” “There’s only one right way to do things –my way.” “You should never do anything for yourself; if you do, you’re selfish.” “I am unworthy of love.” (Some clients in Stage Two Recovery report that they are able to find their “soul”)
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Termination Phase A.Denial Bring up termination Expect and explain regression If the client disappears, reach out
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B.Anger Allow open expression of anger Try not to personalize the client’s anger
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C.Sadness Allow open expression of sadness Express feelings of your own
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D.Release Discuss client accomplishments Discuss work that is yet to be done Discuss your relationship Express confidence in the client
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