1. TRAUMA: Family Time Alan Flashman MD Jerusalem Jerusalem2012alanflashman.wordpress.com

2. STEPHEN KERN The Culture of Time and Space 1880-1918 Washington – San Francisco >200 Different Times

3. MURRAY BOWEN: DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM “I” - POSITION “I” - POSITION

4. “I” - POSITION Authentic & Full Expression Authentic & Full Expression Beginning of the Encounter Beginning of the Encounter Rather than: Rather than: Erasing “I” – giving in Erasing “I” – giving in Erasing “You” – forcing Erasing “You” – forcing Taking a risk Taking a risk

5. DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM “I” - POSITION “I” - POSITION TRIANGLES TRIANGLES

6. HIGH DIFFERENTIATION: TRIADS = 3 Dyads

7. LOW DIFFERENTIATION: TRIANGLES

8. DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM “I” - POSITION “I” - POSITION TRIANGLES TRIANGLES CO-CREATION CO-CREATION

9. Yonatan Darmon Safed, Israel

11. DIFFERENTIATION HIGH LOW

13. REALM OF THE HAND REGULATION Doing – mother’s Doing – mother’s Result – baby’s Result – baby’s E.g. security E.g. security

15. REALM OF THE EYE Intersubjective Differences Differences Curiosity Curiosity Co-creation Co-creation Presence (Being) Presence (Being)

16. REGULATION INTER- SUBJECTIV E

17. REGULATION INTER- SUBJECTIV E DIFFERENTIATIO N

18. REGULATION

19. DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM “I” - POSITION “I” - POSITION TRIANGLES TRIANGLES CO-CREATION CO-CREATION

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21. 6 PTSDTake care of Brother 40 Emotional Withdrawal 35 60 Dependence on Mother Super- Grandma Sublimations (Blos) VOICE (Brown & Gilligan) 2004 TRAUMA

22. 1813 PTSDTake care of Brother 47 Emotional Withdrawal 42 67 Dependence on Mother Super- Grandma Sublimations (Blos) VOICE (Brown & Gilligan) OBJECTIVE PASSAGE SONS AND FATHERS (Blos) Leaving Home (Haley) 2011

23. 2116 PTSDPregnant 50 Emotional Withdrawal 45 70 Dependence of Mother CVA Sublimations (Blos) VOICE (Brown & Gilligan) PRAGMATIC PASSAGE SONS AND FATHERS (Blos) Leaving Home (Haley) 2014 Leaving Home (Haley) New Mother (Stern)

24. 2723 PTSD 56 Emotional Withdrawal 51 76 Dependence of Mother CVA SUBJECTIVE PASSAGE 6 2020 Sublimations (Blos) VOICE (Brown & Gilligan) SONS AND FATHERS (Blos) Leaving Home (Haley) Leaving Home (Haley) New Mother (Stern) NEW MEANINGS (Bowen, Flashman) NEW MEANINGS (Bowen, Flashman)

25. REGULATION INTER- SUBJECTIV E

26. REFERENCES Susan Baur, Confiding (1995 ) http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/family-time/ ; Intimate Hour(1997). http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/family-time/ Peter Blos, Son and Father, 1985. On Adolescence, 1962 Murray Bowen, Family Theory in Clinical Practice, 1978. Lyn Mikel Brown & Carol Gilligan, Meeting at the Crossroads, 1992. La Dame a la Licorne, Musee de Cluny, Paris. http://www.boutiquesdemusees.fr/en/shop/products/details/427-the-lady-and-the- unicorn-tapestry.html http://www.boutiquesdemusees.fr/en/shop/products/details/427-the-lady-and-the- unicorn-tapestry.html http://www.boutiquesdemusees.fr/en/shop/products/details/427-the-lady-and-the- unicorn-tapestry.html Alan Flashman, “Almost Buber” http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/almost-buber/ ; http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/almost-buber/ http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/almost-buber/ “Children and Trauma” http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/trauma-and-children/ ; “Children and Trauma” http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/trauma-and-children/ ; http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/trauma-and-children/ http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/trauma-and-children/ “Key to the Carousel” http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/keys-to-the-carousel/. “Key to the Carousel” http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/keys-to-the-carousel/. http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/keys-to-the-carousel/ http://alanflashman.wordpress.com/keys-to-the-carousel/ Jay Haley, Leaving Home, 1996. Robert Kegan, The Evolving Self, 1981. Stephen Kern, The Culture of Time and Space, 1880-1918 (1983). M. Laufer & M. Egle Laufer, Adolescence and Developmental Breakdown, 1984 Thomas Odgen, Matrix of the Mind (1993), The Primitive Edge of Experience (1992). Sir William Quiller Orchardson, Master Baby, 1880 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sir_William_Quiller_Orchardson_(1832-1910)_- _Master_Baby.jpg http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sir_William_Quiller_Orchardson_(1832-1910)_- _Master_Baby.jpg http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sir_William_Quiller_Orchardson_(1832-1910)_- _Master_Baby.jpg Daniel Stern, The Interpersonal World of the Infant, 1985. The Present Moment, 2004. Frances Tustin, Autistic States in Children, 1981; Autistic Barriers in Neurotic Patients, 1986.