5. Something we cannot forget Forgiveness is painful The pain of life The pain of death

7. God’s Calvary Our own Calvary Leads to life Leads to death 1 Peter 2:24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed. Psalm 32:3-5 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD" — and you forgave the guilt of my sin. Proverbs 3:7-8 Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

8. The Process Stages Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance I do not admit that I am dying In Dying Blaming others Setting up conditions Blaming self Looking forward

9. I do not admit that I am hurt Forgiveness Blaming others for our hurt Setting up conditions to forgive Blaming self for allowing others to hurt us Looking forward to growing from our hurt