1. EXCELLENT … VIRTUOUS … VALOROUS RARE … UNCOMMON … EXCEPTIONAL TRUSTWORTHY … LOYAL …PURE DEPENDABLE … DEVOTED … DIGNIFIED INDUSTRIOUS … BENEVOLENT … FRUGILE FIT … KIND … WISE … HONORABLE READY … WORTHY … GOD-FEARING BEAUTIFUL IN GOD’S EYES The Excellent Wife of Proverbs 31

2. The Proverbs 31 Wife Advice from a mother to her son – To a young king, on how to rule – Lemuel = “consecrated to the Lord” – Possibly Bathsheba to Solomon Not a man’s standards, but a woman’s – For men: qualities to look for in a mate – For husbands: what to expect of your wife – For women: how to be a godly wife – For wives: what God and husbands expect of you

3. The Challenge: Rarity An excellent wife is hard to find, but worth the wait! Hebrew word chayil means valor Her worth is greater than jewels, rubies, pearls, coral…

4. Behavior & Qualities of the Excellent Wife Trustworthy with money (v 11) Does good, not evil, to him (v12) – Supports him, does not undermine him Willing to work, not lazy (v13) Frugile & diverse spender (v 14) Knows the value of good meals (v 15) Wise investor (v 16) Physically fit (v 17) Always on duty (v18) – Doesn’t have time for gossip

5. Behavior & Qualities of the Excellent Wife Willing to do manual labor (19) Charitable to the needy (20) Knows how to dress the family (21) Cares about her appearance (22) Brings honor to her husband (23) Respected in business matters (24) Dignified, confident (25) Wise & gentle (26) Puts family first (27)

6. Results of Her Behavior Children & husband praise her (v 28) – Better than other noble daughters (v 29) Praised because she fears God (v 30) – She is beautiful in God’s sight! She deserves the fruit of her labors (v 31)

7. When we examine this ancient biblical ideal of womanhood, we do not find the stereotyped housewife occupied with dirty dishes and laundry, her daily life dictated by the demands of her husband and her children. Nor do we find a hardened, overly ambitious career woman who leaves her family to fend for itself. What we find is a strong, dignified, multitalented, caring woman who is an individual in her own right. This woman has money to invest, servants to look after and real estate to manage. She is her husband’s partner, and she is completely trusted with the responsibility for their lands, property and goods. She has the business skills to buy and sell in the market, along with the heartfelt sensitivity and compassion to care for and fulfill the needs of people who are less fortunate. Cheerfully and energetically she tackles the challenges each day brings. Her husband and children love and respect her for her kind, generous and caring nature. But with all her responsibilities, first and foremost, she looks to God. Her primary concern is God’s will in her life. She is a woman after God’s own heart.

8. New Testament Instructions for Wives Abstain from immorality (1 Cor. 7:2) Fulfill duties to husband (1 Cor. 7:3) Submit body to husband (1 Cor. 7:4) Exercise authority over husband’s body (1 Cor. 7:4) Not leave her husband (1 Cor. 7:10, 13) Be an example to husband & children (1 Cor. 7:14; 1 Pet. 3:1) Respect chain of authority (1 Cor. 11:3; Eph. 5:23) Subject herself in church (1 Cor. 14:34-35; 1 Tim. 2:11-12) Be subject to husband (Eph. 5:22; Col. 3:18) Respect her husband (Eph. 5:33) Dress modestly (1 Tim. 2:9) Perform good works (1 Tim. 2:10)

9. New Testament Instructions for Wives “faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint” (1 Tim. 2:15) “dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things” (1 Tim. 3:11) “ reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored” (Titus 2:3-5) 1 Pet. 3:1-6 The excellent wife will also do everything she can to support and enable her husband who desires to be an elder, deacon, or evangelist, or teacher!

10. A Lofty Standard…Some Examples Sarah (1 Pet. 3:1-6) – submitted Jael (Judges 5:24) – brave Ruth (Ruth 3:11) – reputation Esther (Esther 2:17) – pure Hannah (Judges 1) – God-fearing Mary (Luke 1:48) – humble Tabitha (Acts 9:36) – charitable Lydia (Acts 16:14) – worshiped God

11. Final thoughts… Beside every godly man should be a godly woman Men: be selective in choosing a mate – Don’t settle for the first pretty face! – Consider her past and present, and your future with her Women: be excellent so you will be selected – Uphold God’s standard in the man you choose too For the married: both must be excellent to maintain godliness in the marriage – if there is a secret to a happy marriage, this is it! – Easier to be an excellent spouse when you have an excellent spouse – Failure of one to be excellent doesn’t justify failure of the other

12. EXCELLENT … VIRTUOUS … VALOROUS RARE … UNCOMMON … EXCEPTIONAL TRUSTWORTHY … LOYAL …PURE DEPENDABLE … DEVOTED … DIGNIFIED INDUSTRIOUS … BENEVOLENT … FRUGILE FIT … KIND … WISE … HONORABLE READY … WORTHY … GOD-FEARING BEAUTIFUL IN GOD’S EYES The Excellent Wife of Proverbs 31