1. Managing Stress 8E Principles and Strategies for Health and Well-Being Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. Unless otherwise noted, all images were supplied by Brian Luke Seaward. Credit: © Inspiration Unlimited. Used with permission.

2. Chapter 6 The Stress Emotions Courtesy of Sabrina Neu

3. “However long the night, the dawn will break.” —African Proverb Photo © Lerato Maduna/Reuters/Landov

4. The Anatomy of Anger

5. Rage Hostility Impatience Envy Fear Jealousy Prejudice Guilt Indignation Frustration

6. The expression of anger has become a real problem nationwide

7. The expression of anger has become a real problem nationwide All anger is the result of unmet expectations

8. The expression of anger has become a real problem nationwide All anger is the result of unmet expectations Road rage, sports rage, air rage, phone rage, gas pump rage, have become too common nationwide

9. The expression of anger has become a real problem nationwide All anger is the result of unmet expectations Road rage, sports rage, air rage, phone rage, gas pump rage, have become too common nationwide Unresolved anger issues have a direct connection to many chronic health conditions

10. Emotional Literacy

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12. Gender Differences

13. Physiological Responses

14. The Myth of Catharsis

15. A Healthy Catharsis 1. The expression of anger must be cast in the direction of the provocation

16. A Healthy Catharsis 2. The expression of anger must restore a sense of self-control

17. A Healthy Catharsis 3. The expression of anger must change the behavior of the provoker or provide insight to create personal resolution

18. A Healthy Catharsis 4. Anger must be expressed in understandable language

19. A Healthy Catharsis 5. The expression of anger must not provoke retaliation

20. Mismanaged Anger Styles

21. Mismanaged Anger Styles 1. The Somatizer

22. Mismanaged Anger Styles 1. The Somatizer 2. The Self-Punisher

23. Mismanaged Anger Styles 1. The Somatizer 2. The Self-Punisher 3. The Exploder

24. Mismanaged Anger Styles 1. The Somatizer 2. The Self-Punisher 3. The Exploder 4. The Underhander

25. The Somatizer

26. The Self-Punisher

27. The Exploder © juliengrondin/ShutterStock, Inc.

28. The Underhander

29. All unresolved anger issues become control issues. The control is an illusion, because by staying angry, you give your power away.

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31. Creative Anger Strategies

32. 1. Know your anger style

33. 2. Learn to monitor your anger

34. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger

35. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger

36. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings

37. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead

38. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system

39. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system 8. Develop realistic expectations...

40. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system 8. Develop realistic expectations... 9. Learn problem-solving techniques

41. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system 8. Develop realistic expectations... 9. Learn problem-solving techniques 10. Stay in shape

42. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system 8. Develop realistic expectations... 9. Learn problem-solving techniques 10. Stay in shape 11. Turn complaints into requests

43. 1. Know your anger style 2. Learn to monitor your anger 3. Learn to de-escalate your anger 4. Learn to out-think your anger 5. Get comfortable with ALL of your feelings 6. Plan ahead 7. Develop a strong support system 8. Develop realistic expectations... 9. Learn problem-solving techniques 10. Stay in shape 11. Turn complaints into requests 12. Practice the art of forgiveness

44. The Anatomy of Fear

45. Fear is the flight in “fight-or-flight”

46. The Anatomy of Fear Fear is the flight in “fight-or-flight” Rational vs. Irrational Fears

47. The Anatomy of Fear Fear is the flight in “fight-or-flight” Rational vs. Irrational Fears Warranted vs. Unwarranted Fears

48. The Anatomy of Fear Anxiety Worry Doubt Paranoia Embarrassment

49. Basic Human Fears

50. 1. Fear of Failure

51. Basic Human Fears 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of Rejection

52. Basic Human Fears 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of Rejection 3. Fear of the Unknown

53. Basic Human Fears 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of Rejection 3. Fear of the Unknown 4. Fear of Death

54. Basic Human Fears 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of Rejection 3. Fear of the Unknown 4. Fear of Death 5. Fear of Isolation

55. Basic Human Fears 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of Rejection 3. Fear of the Unknown 4. Fear of Death 5. Fear of Isolation 6. Fear of Loss of Self-Dominance

56. Strategies to Overcome Fear

57. Strategies to Overcome Fear Systematic Desensitization

58. “Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would much prefer to see you living under better conditions.” —Hafiz

59. Depression: A By-product of Anger or Fear?

60. Symptoms of Depression 1. Persistent sadness 2. A loss of interest or pleasure in activities 3. Lethargic moods with decreased productivity 4. Loss of appetite or overeating habits 5. Difficulty concentrating remembering or making decisions 6. Pervading hopelessness in personal and professional lives 7. Alcohol and/or drug use to cope with problems 8. Thoughts of death or suicide

61. Positive Psychology Photo Courtesy of Dr. Martin Seligman

62. Joy, Eustress, and the Art of Happiness

63. Joy is the antithesis of stress

64. Is joy the anticipation of an event or simply enjoying/living in the present moment?

65. Research on Joy and Happiness

66. Until one’s basic needs are met, happiness is elusive (Graham, 2010)

67. Research on Joy and Happiness Until one’s basic needs are met, happiness is elusive (Graham, 2010) There is a strong correlation between happiness and trust (Robinson, 2008)

68. Research on Joy and Happiness Until one’s basic needs are met, happiness is elusive (Graham, 2010) There is a strong correlation between happiness and trust (Robinson, 2008) Serotonin is known as the happiness hormone (Sommers, 1997)

69. Research on Joy and Happiness Until one’s basic needs are met, happiness is elusive (Graham, 2010) There is a strong correlation between happiness and trust (Robinson, 2008) Serotonin is known as the happiness hormone (Sommers, 1997) Freedom contributes to happiness... to a point, but too much freedom can lead to stress

70. Research on Joy and Happiness Money doesn’t buy happiness, but poverty promotes stress (Deaton, 2008)

71. Research on Joy and Happiness Money doesn’t buy happiness, but poverty promotes stress (Deaton, 2008) There is a strong correlation between happiness and the ability to exercise creativity

72. Research on Joy and Happiness Money doesn’t buy happiness, but poverty promotes stress (Deaton, 2008) There is a strong correlation between happiness and the ability to exercise creativity Fulfilling relationships (quality friendships) are the cornerstone to lifelong happiness

73. Research on Joy and Happiness Money doesn’t buy happiness, but poverty promotes stress (Deaton, 2008) There is a strong correlation between happiness and the ability to exercise creativity Fulfilling relationships (quality friendships) are the cornerstone to lifelong happiness Geography does not indicate happiness (some of the happiest people live in cold climates)

74. Happiness is, first and foremost, a perception, an attitude created by the mind

75. “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” —Abraham Lincoln