1. Presented by R n’ B Therapeutic Reflection and sponsored by Servant Hearts © All Rights Reserved 2011

2. Introduction Drumming Presentation Evaluation Anger Control Tools 1. Deal with Stress 2. Empathy 3. Respond Instead of React 4. Change Self-Talk 5. Learn Assertive Communication 6. Adjust Expectations 7. Forgive, but don't Forget 8. Retreat and Think Things Over

3. Group Drumming is not about inspiring successful drumming It’s about inspiring successful living. Group Drumming is not about exceptional performance It’s about exceptional support and personal expression. Group Drumming is not about teaching people to play It’s about giving people permission to play. Group Drumming is not about acquiring technique It’s about sharing for the sake of personal EMPOWERMENT.

4. Empowerment Drumming 7 Evidenced-based Elements 1. Stress-reduction 2. Exercise 3. Self-Expression 4. Camaraderie/Support 5. Nurturing 6. Spirituality 7. Music  Anger Management  8 Tools for Anger Control 1. Deal with Stress 2. Develop Empathy 3. Respond instead of React 4. Change Self-Talk 5. Learn Assertive Communication 6. Adjust Expectations 7. Forgive, but don’t Forget 8. Retreat and Think Things Over

5. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMINGANGER MANAGEMENT  Breathing Techniques  Physical Exercise  Self-Expression  Relaxation/Meditation  Signs of Stress Alert  Make life changes to Reduce Stress Triggers  Adjust your Mind-View  Apply Stress Guard

6.  Physically exhausted  Irritability / Inability to concentrate, relax and a sense of fear  Poor performance in school STRESS IS CREATED WHEN WE HAVE MORE DEMANDS THAN RESOURCES TO MEET THOSE DEMANDS

7. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMINGANGER MANAGEMENT  Breathing Techniques  Physical Exercise  Self-Expression  Relaxation/Meditation  Signs of Stress Alert  Make life changes to Reduce Stress Triggers  Adjust your Mind-View  Apply Stress Guard 1. Exercise 2. Diet 3. Sleep 4. Relaxation/Meditation

8.  Take time off  Manage your time  Set Limits  Choose your battles wisely  Use calming skills  Change a class subject if you can  Take control of what you can  Don’t commit yourself to things you can’t do or don’t want to do

9. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMINGANGER MANAGEMENT  Breathing Techniques  Physical Exercise  Self-Expression  Relaxation/Meditation  Signs of Stress Alert  Make life changes to Reduce Stress Triggers  Adjust your Mind-View  Apply Stress Guard

10.  What are your personal perceptions or beliefs  How have you always reacted in situations  What has been your emotional responses Changing your mind-set toward many things in your life will reduce the stress. Make self- statements to reduce stress.

11. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMINGANGER MANAGEMENT  Breathing Techniques  Physical Exercise  Self-Expression  Relaxation/Meditation  Signs of Stress Alert  Make life changes to Reduce Stress Triggers  Adjust your Mind-View  Apply Stress Guard

12.  Exercise  Diet  Sleep  Relaxation/Meditation

13. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Camaraderie  Support  Nurturing  Develop Empathy  Assertive Communication  Adjust Expectations

14.  Be a better listener  Communication both receiving and giving  Acceptance

15. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Camaraderie  Support  Nurturing  Develop Empathy  Assertive Communication  Adjust Expectations

16.  Send Clear Messages  Learn how to listen  Express Complaints by using the “I” statements  Acknowledge your part in conflicts  Give and Take Praise  Express feelings openly

17. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Camaraderie  Support  Nurturing  Develop Empathy  Assertive Communication  Adjust Expectations

18.  Decide what is “reasonable” and what is not  Take the word “should” out of your vocabulary  Remember that sometimes people or situations have more limitations than you give them credit for.  Remind yourself that the way you see things may not be how others see the same things or events  Find other ways to get your needs met

19. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Music ~ Creativity  Lead & Follow  Self-Expression  Camaraderie  Spirituality  Change Self-Talk  Forgive but don’t Forget  Retreat Think Things Over  Respond instead of React

20.  Look at the evidence  Consider alternative causes  Put events into perspective  Is your belief useful

21. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Music ~ Creativity  Lead & Follow  Self-Expression  Camaraderie  Spirituality  Change Self-Talk  Forgive but don’t Forget  Retreat Think Things Over  Respond instead of React

22.  Forgiving is good for your health  Forgiving is good for your peace of mind  Learn 7 steps to help in forgiveness through a writing process allowing for personal healing and expression.

23. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Music ~ Creativity  Lead & Follow  Self-Expression  Camaraderie  Spirituality  Change Self-Talk  Forgive but don’t Forget  Retreat Think Things Over  Respond instead of React

24.  Temporarily removing yourself from the situation allows your body to return to normal, provides a cooling-down time, and allows your brain to return to its normal state where you can reason and think better. Using this time out technique will also prevent you or your partner from saying unfair or hurtful things in the heat of battle.

25. EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT  Music ~ Creativity  Lead & Follow  Self-Expression  Camaraderie  Spirituality  Change Self-Talk  Forgive but don’t Forget  Retreat Think Things Over  Respond instead of React

26.  Look at your attitude  Regulate your emotions  Try alternative behaviors

27. Learning Positive Tools Creates Positive Responses To empower and inspire all individuals to be the leaders they can and will be by creating an experience to learn from. Tandy Bowman HRF, RMF, CAMP