9. The ending of a relationship

10. The ending of a relationship

11. Duck’s of relationship dissolution Model (1988)

12. Duck developed a

13. Duck developed a

14. Duck developed a

15. Duck developed a -phase model to describe the termination of close or intimate relationships

16. Intra-psychic phase: One of the partners/friends becomes more and more dissatisfied with the relationship. They do not tell their partner yet. If the dissatisfaction is great enough there is progression to the next phase…

17. Here the other person becomes involved. If the dissatisfaction is not acceptably resolved, there is progression to the next phase… Dyadic phase:

18. This is where the break-up is ‘aired’ and made public, e.g. to family and friends. It is also where the social implications (such as care of children) are negotiated. Social phase: If the relationship is not saved here (perhaps by the intervention of family) it goes to the final stage…

19. Here the ex-partners begin the organization of their post-relationship lives. Partners who develop their own versions of where the blame for breakdown actually lies frequently employ the self-serving attributional bias. Grave-dressing phase: They begin publicizing their own accounts of the breakdown and what (if any) is the nature of the new relationship with the ex-partner.

20. Lee’s (1984) Model of relationship dissolution

21. Lee suggested a

22. Lee suggested a

23. Lee suggested a

24. Lee suggested a

25. Lee suggested a -stage model to describe how relationships end

26. He surveyed 112 break-ups of premarital romantic relationships, which provided EVIDENCE of distinct stages

27. Partners discover that they are dissatisfied with the relationship.

28. Dissatisfaction is then exposed.

29. Exposure of dissatisfaction may lead to negotiation with the other partner concerning the nature of the dissatisfaction.

30. Attempts are made to resolve the problem.

31. If attempts to resolve the problem fail, the relationship is terminated.

32. Partners discover that they are dissatisfied with the relationship. Dissatisfaction is then exposed. Exposure of dissatisfaction may lead to negotiation with the other partner concerning the nature of the dissatisfaction. Attempts are made to resolve the problem. If attempts to resolve the problem fail, the relationship is terminated.

33. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramatic exhausting negative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

34. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

35. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

36. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

37. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

38. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

39. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

40. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

41. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

42. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

43. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.

44. Lee found people experienced exposure and negotiation as the most intensedramaticexhaustingnegative aspects of the whole experience. In some cases people missed out these stages and simply went direct from dissatisfaction to termination (i.e., walked out) People who did this reported feeling less intimate with their partner even when the relationship was satisfactory. People who had a very long and drawn-out journey from D to T reported more attraction for their former partner and experienced the greatest loneliness after breaking up.