1. Choose POSI+IVE Living
ASK

2. Life’s Little Question
“Are some people just born positive thinkers
. . . or is it their CHOICE?”

3. How to Stay
POSI +
IVE
in a
TOUGH
Work Environment

4. Negative Work Environment
The Environment
Other People’s
Behavior
Changing Environment
Ouch!
YOU
Negative Work Environment
Past Experiences
Negative World View
Determinism Theory
Beware the Bullets!

5. Negative Work Environment
- Dog eat dog everyone fighting to get ahead
- No one appreciates your contributions
- Too much work not enough help
- Deadlines are unrealistic
- Longer hours additional work
- Budget Constraints
- Competition is eating us alive
- Poor management / direction
- Job insecurity

6. “The only person who always likes change is a wet baby”
Changing Environment
“The only person who always
likes change is a wet baby”
CHANGE . . .
Challenges our paradigms
Alters the way we think
Makes life more difficult for a while
Causes Stress
Is an ongoing fact of life

7. Past Experiences
Ouch!
Ouch!
Ouch!
Ouch!
Ouch!
Ouch!
Ouch!

8. Determinism Theory
GENETIC: My Grandparents did it to me. (Inherited traits)
PSYCHIC: My Parents did it to me. (Upbringing)
ENVIRONMENTAL: My Spouse, my Boss, the Company, the Economy, etc.. is doing this to me. (Surroundings)

9. The Problem With Dodging Bullets
You’re going to get hit!

10. Wear Bulletproof Armor
Choice #2
Wear Bulletproof Armor

11. Bulletproof Armor Comes from
SELF CHANGE

12. Putting on the Armor
Change
3 Things!

13. How to Change Your Attitude
Changes happen personally
from the
INSIDE OUT!
ATTITUDE

14. This is going to be a wonderful day!
Manage Your Self-Talk
If you think you Can, or you think you Can’t…
YOU’RE RIGHT! Henry Ford
This is going to be a wonderful day!
This is going to be a crappy day!
THINKING 36

15. How to Change Your Thinking
Changes come
from observing
logically in
every situation
THINKING

16. Observe Your Thinking I refuse to let this hook me!
What can I do to defuse this?
This is all very interesting
Tomorrow it will look very different.
I’d like to beat the …
I do not like to be him
THINKING

17. Empathy builds trust ! The trust stair case 5. You can trust me !
4. I am on your side !
3. I want to help you reach your goals !
2. I understand your aims & goals !
1. I listen to understand !
The trust stair case

18. We usually listen at the first 4 levels !
Listening !
5. Empathetic
4. Attentive
3. Selective
2. Pretending
1. Ignoring
We usually listen at the first 4 levels !

19. Understanding is about Listening ! Pass judgment ! Evaluation !
The barriers …
Pass judgment ! Evaluation !
…a tendency to approve/disapprove !

20. Understanding is about Listening ! …your frame of reference !
The barriers …
Perceptions !
…your frame of reference !

21. The verbal content LISTENING ON THE WIDE BAND Sender Receiver
The narrow band
The wide band
Posture, facial expression
Hesitations, silences
Emphasis, inflexions
Tone and pitch of voice
Things left unsaid
Emotional undercurrents
Sender

22. How to Change Your Behavior
Changes take true assessment, determination & discipline
BEHAVIOR

23. Choose Your Behavior REACTIVE Stimulus Response RESPONSIBLE My Choice
My Response
Stimulus
BEHAVIOR

24. Choose the Right Luggage
Dodge Bullets
Be Bulletproof

25. Choose POSI+IVE Living
Salony Priya
Counselling psychologist & HR Trainer ,