1. CH. 8-Working with Families on Guidance Issues
CD 11
Fall 2013
Prof. Gallegos

2. Discipline
Everyone has different ideas about basic human nature and their ideas influence their approached to dealing with what they deem unacceptable behavior in children.
Discipline has a double meaning
Discipline might mean punishment
Discipline might mean guiding and managing behavior not through punishment but by attached to a more experienced partner.
This partner is someone who is wiser, knows more and has lived longer than the child
Eventually children internalize the master of the older partner and take charge of themselves.
Development of self-discipline is the GOAL of discipline

3. Self-Discipline
Self-discipline or “inner controls” all differ in their importance to different cultures.
How adults help or hinder self-discipline
Extended parenting
Authority figures
Type of Guidance
Learning to focus and pay attention
Learning about feelings

4. Problems with using Punishment to Teach
Children who are punished for trying things out and making mistakes in the process can inhibited in their development of autonomy and initiative.
The wanting to explore and experiment is reduced because of fear
When punishments hurt the teachable moment is lost.
Children are most open to learning when they have made a mistake. But if you are healing from a painful infliction the learning of that mistake is then hindered

5. Guidelines for Guiding Young Children
Learn about developmental stages
Check communication to see whether it is clear.
Trust children
Trust yourself
Build good relationships

6. Discipline as Preventing Unacceptable Behavior
Start with prevention: you know your child
Set up an appropriate environment
Let the environment provide the limits
Model appropriate behavior
Redirect energy
Provide physical control when needed.
Teach appropriate expression of Feelings
Meet Needs

7. Guidance as Responding to Unacceptable Behavior
Give Feedback
Allow children to experience the consequences of their actions
Use Time-Out appropriately
Reward Desired Behavior
Ignore misbehavior that is designed to attract attention
Teach prosocial behavior
Meet needs