1. In Different Religious Traditions
Weddings
In Different Religious Traditions

2. Protestant Christian

3. Marriage is not a sacrament in Protestant churches; it is a religious ritual.
Protestant ceremonies vary according to the denomination – the information following is rather general and does not apply to every church everywhere, but it is rather common to most.
Although it is preferred that the ceremony take place in a church, many Protestant denominations allow weddings to take place elsewhere. There generally will be some restrictions, since this is a religious ceremony.

4. The ceremony usually lasts about a half an hour (unless Communion is being offered.)
Ceremony includes procession, blessing of rings, prayers, vows.
May include Scripture readings and a sermon.
There is usually at least one vocal piece of music which may or may not include congregational singing.
Many Protestant ceremonies include the lighting of the Unity Candle.

5. Greek Orthodox

6. An Orthodox wedding is a sacrament and must take place in the church.
The ceremony lasts about an hour

7. The Ceremony:
Ceremony of betrothal – blessing and exchange of rings at the door of the church
Crowning w/ floral crowns (stefania) attached to one another w/ a ribbon to symbolize the glory of God and the unity of the couple

8. Scripture readings (always The Wedding at Cana from John’s Gospel)
The bride and groom drink from a common cup to remind them of the wedding at Cana
The Dance of Isaiah = the couple walks three times around an altar on which are placed the Gospels and a cross – symbolizing the beginning of their marriage and that Christ is at the center of the marriage

9. The Dance of Isaiah

10. In an Orthodox wedding, the Maid/Matron of Honor is called the Koumbara and the Best Man is the Koumbaro – they have a more active role in the ceremony than the Maid of Honor and Best Man do in Protestant and Catholic weddings. They must both be Orthodox Christians.

11. Jewish Weddings

12. Jews consider marriage to be a holy institution – the Hebrew word for “wedding” is “kiddushin” = sanctification
Jewish ceremonies usually last about half an hour
There will be some differences in ceremonies that take place in the different branches of Judaism (Orthodox, Reform, etc.)

13. Men wear a kippah or some other head covering
Men wear a kippah or some other head covering. Whether or not women cover their heads varies, depending upon the branch of Judaism
The witnesses (Maid of Honor and Best Man) must be Jewish and may not be related to the bride and groom.

14. The ceremony takes place anywhere a chuppah (huppah) can be set up – it is a canopy symbolizing the heavens under which all life takes place. Often this will be out of doors

15. The Ceremony. . .
The veiling of the bride by the groom before the ceremony begins
Both the bride and groom are escorted to the chuppah by their parents
The bride walks around the bridegroom 7 times – symbolizes establishing a new home
The betrothal – the groom gives the bride a plain gold ring and says, “Behold, you are betrothed to me with this ring, according to the Law of Moses.” The couple is married at this point.

16. The reading of the ketubah – the marriage contract
The reading of the ketubah – the marriage contract. This states the obligations the groom has towards the bride. This is signed by the witnesses and given to the bride

17. The Rabbi pronounces seven blessings over a cup of wine – the cup is then shared by the bride and groom
A glass is placed on the floor and the groom shatters it with his foot – symbolizing that even at times of great joy, Jews remember the sadness in their history

19. Muslim

20. Marriage is not a religious ritual but a legal contract between the man and woman – therefore it may or may not take place in a mosque
Muslim weddings differ substantially depending upon the nation(s) of origin of the couple

21. The groom is expected to give a substantial gift to his wife on or before the wedding called a mahr – it may be money, property or even the promise to pay for her education. This “gift” is hers to do with as she wishes. The wedding is not valid until this has been given and accepted.

22. The Wedding Ceremony (al-Nikah):
Begins with a sermon by any Muslim male (but will usually be the imam) which invites the couple to live faithful to Muslim beliefs and teachings
Profession of Faith by all there (“There is no god but God ”
Readings from the Qur’an and the Hadith
Concluding prayer

23. Note that there are no vows or exchange of rings
Note that there are no vows or exchange of rings. However, many American and European Muslims incorporate these into their ceremonies.
It is common in many Middle Eastern countries for the bride to not be present at her wedding! (Although she will have witnesses – usually male relatives there – to represent her interests.)

24. Where local law allows, a Muslim man may have up to 4 wives – as long as each is treated equally and respectfully

25. Buddhist

26. There is no specific wedding ceremony for Buddhists, since Buddhism has traditionally seen marriage as a secular institution
Recently, a ceremony has been developed by a Buddhist institution in Hawaii that is growing in popularity.

27. Buddhist Wedding Procession Chanting of prayers from Buddhist texts
Exchange of vows
Exchange of rings

28. Admonition by priest to couple to follow the teachings of the Buddha and to respect the sanctity of all life
Offering of lights and incense
Reading of the five ways that a husband should minister to his wife are read from the Sigalovada Sutta by The Buddha
Chanting of The Three Refuges and/or The Five Precepts by the couple

29. Hindu

30. A wedding is a sacrament in Hinduism
Hindu weddings differ depending on where the family is from.

31. There are often several weeks worth of festivities prior to the actual wedding.
The wedding itself lasts at least two hours; it may last for two days!

32. A Hindu bride usually wears a red and gold sari and has her hands painted with henna (mehendi);
The groom wears white and has the tikka painted on his forehead

33. The wedding takes place in a Hindu temple The wedding ceremony itself:
asks the god of good luck, Ganesha, to bless the marriage
the bride is escorted to the wedding canopy by her uncle and sisters
the bride’s father places her hand into the hand of the groom; then he “washes his hands of her” in water from the Ganges (if possible)

34. the groom recites various hymns from the Vedas about love and marriage
the wedding fire is lit (sacred to the god Agni) and parched grain is offered by the bride

35. the bride and groom walk around the fire seven times while asking the gods to bless their marriage and taking vows to one another
the groom places a necklace (or sacred string) on the bride (they do this instead of exchanging rings) and he recites a blessing over her

36. the ceremony concludes with prayers for the couple
the bride and groom process out with their guests showering them with flower petals and rice
other rituals may be added, depending upon time constraints, the ethnic origin of bride and groom, specific gods/goddesses worshipped by the couple and the wealth of the families

37. What Do Different Religions Allow?
Inter-Faith Weddings

38. Catholic Church:
allowed in church and will be considered a sacrament with another Christian
allowed in church but will not be considered a sacrament with a non-Christian
any marriage outside of the Church, without receiving a Dispensation of Form, is considered non-sacramental and invalid

39. Protestant Christians:
generally allowed with all Christians
Some conservative groups do not allow weddings with non-Christians
Note: a few Evangelical and Pentecostal Christian Churches do not consider Catholics to be Christians!

40. Orthodox Christians:
to be a sacrament, a marriage must take place between two members of the Orthodox faith
inter-faith weddings are not allowed in church and are not accepted as valid (sacramental)

41. Jewish a Jewish wedding is, by definition, a contract between two Jews
Orthodox and Conservative rabbis will not officiate at an inter-faith wedding
some Reform rabbis will officiate, but will not usually concelebrate with clergy of another religion
an inter-faith wedding will not include the signing of the ketubah

42. Islam
traditionally, a Muslim man may marry a Christian or Jewish woman
a Muslim woman may not marry outside the faith
this is changing among Muslims in the U.S. and Europe, where inter-marriage with Christians and Jews is sometimes accepted

43. Hinduism: accepts that all paths to God are valid
allows marriages between Hindus and members of differing faiths with no restrictions

44. Buddhism: does not see weddings as a religious ceremony
any marriage that is legal is considered valid

45. In Conclusion
Over 50% of Americans will marry someone whose religious tradition is different from their own
If religion is important to you, it is essential that you understand the rules of both religions before planning your wedding ceremony

46. If you want a religious ceremony, especially one that incorporates elements from both your faiths, the Unitarian and the Baha’i faiths are open to designing a unique, but meaningful, ceremony
However, such a ceremony will not be considered sacramental by the Catholic Church