1. Teaching Children Good Manners, Grace, and Courtesy
Cathleen Haskins

2. Table  and  Food  Manners

3. Language for Respect and Kindness

4. Social  Manners

5. Teaching Methods Direct Teach Role Play Real Life Situations Puppetry
Modeling
Songs and Poems
Picture Books

6. Table  and  Food  Manners
Language
Skills

7. Table and Food Manners Saying yes please, or no thank you
Teacher to assistant, “Would
you like to have a cracker?”
Assistant, “Yes please.”
Pause and repeat, this time
assistant replies, “No thank you.”
Offer each child a cracker.
They reply with yes please, or no thank you.

8. Table  and  Food  Manners
Wait for everyone to be served before you begin eating.

9. Table and Food Manners May I have... Make sure your mouth isn’t full
Raise your hand
Say, “May I have (another apple slice), please.”
Don’t forget, “Thank you.”

10. Table and Food Manners Using a napkin At the table:
Give each child a napkin
Invite children to place
napkin on lap.
Demonstrate how to use
by dabbing the corner of
the mouth.
Return napkin to lap.
When finished, place napkin next to plate.
Cloth vs. Paper Napkins
Using a napkin

11. Or This

12. Table  and  Food  Manners
Mirrors for self checking

13. Table  and  Food  Manners
Chewing with your mouth closed Not talking while chewing food
At snack assistant asks
the teacher, who has food
in her mouth, a question.
Teacher points out she
is eating and waits until
she is done to reply.
Explain to children.

14. Table and Food Manners Feeling full
Place utensils and napkin on plate or table.
“That was delicious, but now I’m full.”
“I am satisfied, thank you.”

15. Table and Food Manners Burping etiquette Circle Time/Role Play
Take a sip of water.
Force yourself to burp,
covering your mouth.
Say, excuse me.”
(About giggling…)

16. Table  and  Food  Manners
Removing food crumbs from the table

17. Crumbing Activity

18. Elbows off the table
Fingers off the food
Ask for something to be passed
For reaching is so rude.

19. New School Table Manners

20. Award-Winning
Elizabeth Verdik
Toddler Board Book

21. Carrie Finn
3-5 years

22. Karen Lefranc
5-8 years

23. Mike Nawrocki
2-6 years

24. Stan & Jan Berenstain
3 years and up

25. Aliki
3 years and up

26. Norman Bridwell
3 years and up

28. Language for Respect and Kindness
Teaching children
to affirm one
another
Give children an opportunity to affirm each
other. Make time for affirmation sharing.
“I like the way you do that.” “You’re a good friend.” “ You are so helpful (kind, generous, peaceful).”

29. Language for Respect and Kindness
When someone may
need help:
“Are you Okay?
Can I help you?”
About repetition.

30. Language for Respect and Kindness
When someone is having
trouble or is sad:
“What’s wrong?”
“Is there anything I
can do to help?”
Teach the word compassion.

31. Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child wants to
join an activity:
“May I join, please?”

32. Language for Respect and Kindness
When the answer is no:
“Not right now,
thank you.”
“Maybe another
time.”
“I’d rather be alone,
thanks.”

33. Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for a turn
“May I have a turn, please.”
Waiting for a response

34. Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child needs assistance: “Can you please help me?”

35. Language for Respect and Kindness
When you didn’t hear something: “Excuse me?” “Pardon me?”

36. Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child has returned after being
gone
“I missed you.”
“Everybody missed you.”
“I’m glad you’re back.”
“It’s better when you’re here.”

37. Language for Respect and Kindness
Encouraging gentleness:
With a young child, stroke their
arm and say softly, “Gentle,
gentle please.”
Demonstrating with a
small animal works well
to teach this lesson.
Tone of voice.

38. Language for Respect and Kindness
Speaking softly
Silence Game
Use a Radio or CD Player

39. Language for Respect and Kindness
Lending (or sharing) something:
“Would you like to borrow (my book, this toy)?
“Yes, that would be nice.”
After receiving the item,
“Thank you.”

40. Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for something back
“Are you finished with my book?”
“May I have my book back,
please.”

41. Language for Respect and Kindness
Showing Regret or Remorse:
Look the person in
the eye.
Speak slowly
“I’m really very sorry.”
“What can I do to make it up to you?”

42. Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for the teacher (adult’s) attention
when he is busy:
Is the teacher with someone?
Is the teacher working on something?
Stand nearby, but not too close.
Wait until the teacher gives eye contact.
Teaching about eye contact

43. Language for Respect and Kindness
“I’m sorry to interrupt, but …”

44. Language for Respect and Kindness
When another child is busy:
Is the child with someone?
Is the child working on something?
Stand nearby, but not too close.
Wait until the child turns and gives eye contact
to speak.
“Excuse me…”

45. Social Manners Blowing your nose: Pull tip of tissue to get a
tissue from the box.
Fold tissue in half.
Cover nose and blow.
Fold tissue and dab nose.
Throw tissue in bin.
“Today I’m going to show you how to blow your nose.”

48. Social Manners Sneezing and coughing: Look away and down.
Move away from food.
Cover mouth with tissue and cough.
Dispose of tissue.
Or, sneeze into elbow.
“Today I’m going to show you
how to sneeze.”

49. Social Manners
Dealing with gas: Simply say, “Excuse me.” Or, move away if you can.

52. Social Manners
Polite yawn: Cover your
mouth.
Use a quiet
voice.

53. Social Manners
Putting others first/
after you:
“After you.”

54. Social Manners Ask or answer a question in circle time: Stay seated.
Make no sound.
Keep your hand below
You head.

55. Social Manners Lining up: “As quiet as a deer in the woods.”
“Be like a butterfly.”

56. Closing a door quietly:
Social Manners
Closing a door quietly:
The teacher stands at the door, and whispers the children's names. When the child hears his name being called, he will rise up and go to the door and open the door as silently as he is able.

57. Closing a drawer carefully:
Social Manners
Closing a drawer carefully:
You will need a small chest of drawers.
Invite children to listen and watch closely.
Place both hands on knobs and gently pull open.
Put both hands, fingers flat, against the open
drawer.
Push gently and slide the drawer back in.