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2. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. 1.I calm down before telling someone that what he or she said or did upset me. 2.I respect others even if they are different from me. 3.I don’t pick on or tease others. 4.I don’t carry weapons. 5.I don’t solve arguments with fights. 6.I am assertive and communicate directly and respectfully, not aggressively. How frequently do you engage in the following behaviors? SCORING: 1 = never 2 = occasionally 3 = most of the time 4 = all of the time

3. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. What’s Your Score??? TOTAL >19 ptsYou are doing an excellent job of avoiding conflict and violence. 10-18 ptsYou are doing very well overall but have areas in which you could improve your interactions with other people. <9 ptsYou should be making some major changes in the ways in which you interact with other people.

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5. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Violence Around Us Violence: any physical force that is used to: harm people damage property We’re surrounded by violence on TV, in movies, in the newspaper, in video games, in our schools, and in our homes. Seeing and experiencing violence can make you insensitive to others who are in trouble. It can also make you more violent toward others. Chapter 5

6. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Factors That Lead to Conflicts: 1.Feeling Threatened by Others 2.Unmanaged Anger Fatigue, poor living conditions and irritability can make one more prone to act out with anger. 3.Lack of Respect for Others HATE CRIMES: Violent acts against people just because they are of a different race, religion, or culture. TOLERANCE: the ability to overlook differences and see people for who they are. Chapter 5

7. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Factors That Lead to Conflicts: 4.Bullying: Scaring or controlling another person using threats or physical force. If you are being bullied or see someone else being bullied: Be tolerant of others. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Be assertive, not aggressive. Try to avoid the bullies. Respect yourself. Chapter 5

8. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Factors That Lead to Conflicts: 5.Gangs People may join gangs to feel safe or powerful, to get respect, or to feel like they belong. Many gangs are violent and destructive to the community. There are many constructive alternatives to joining a gang. Chapter 5

9. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Avoiding Dangerous Situations If you find yourself in a dangerous situation: Chapter 5 Recognize the signs Calm things down Leave the situation

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11. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Resolving Conflict Without Violence 1.Conflict resolution: Focus on and solve the REAL problem Don’t complicate things with unrelated issues Focus on WHAT is right, not WHO is right 2.Negotiate a peaceful solution 3.Mediation: a trained outsider helps with a negotiation. each person tells his or her side of the conflict, then they discuss solutions together. Chapter 5 KEEP EMOTION OUT OF IT!!!

12. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Resolving Conflict Without Violence 4.Use Good Communication Skills, including: Chapter 5 Be respectful, yet assertive. Use the Making GREAT Decisions model. Don’t raise your voice or call names. Allow the other person time to speak. Don’t make assumptions. Focus on the real issue. Be open to change. Use “I” messages, not “you” messages.

13. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 1 Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention Tips for Arguments: 1.Once they become emotional they are difficult to resolve (argue with your mind, not your heart) 2.Step away from an argument and come back to it later after you’ve cooled off (see step #1) 3.Unresolved disputes / arguments should be debriefed later (what was the cause? How can we prevent this in the future?) Chapter 5

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15. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Bellringer 1.Think about a time that you witnessed verbal abuse, either in real life or in the media. 2.Think about how the abuser was acting and how the victim reacted. 3.Think about how did you feel as you witnessed the abusive behavior? Chapter 5

16. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse What Is Abuse? Abuse: physical or emotional harm to someone The most common forms of abuse come from people one should be able to trust. Abusers are often people who were once abused themselves Learning to recognize inconsiderate and disrespectful behavior will help you avoid abusive people. Chapter 5

17. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Types of Abuse 1.Child Abuse As many as 3 million cases of child abuse are reported every year in the U.S. physical emotional sexual neglect 2.Neglect: when a caretaker fails to provide basic needs. Chapter 5

18. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Types of Abuse 3.Domestic violence: the use of force to control and maintain power over a spouse or partner. ‘Dating Bill of Rights’ video (Love is Respect.org) Abusive relationships often go through three stages: Chapter 5 1.Tension-building phase 2.Violent episode phase 3.Honeymoon phase

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20. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Types of Abuse 4.Elder Abuse in nursing homes or in their own homes can be physical, emotional, or neglect 5.Hazing: harassing newcomers to a group in an abusive and humiliating way may occur in gangs, sports teams, fraternities, or sororities Chapter 5

21. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Tips to Avoid Abuse Create a supportive network of friends and family. Avoid disrespectful people. Be assertive when dealing with potential abusers. Show disapproval if a person does not treat you in an acceptable way. Chapter 5

22. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 2 Recognizing and Preventing Abuse Tips For Getting Help After Abuse Go somewhere safe. Tell someone. Consider counseling. Chapter 5

23. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Preventing Violence and Abuse Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Chapter 5

24. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Sexual Abuse Sexual abuse: ANY sexual act without consent Incest: sexual activity between family members who are not husband and wife When a child is sexually abused by someone he or she knows and trusts, the child may not recognize he or she is being abused. The child may also be too ashamed to tell someone about the abuse. Chapter 5

25. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Sexual Harassment Sexual harassment: any unwanted remark, behavior, or touch that has sexual content. most dangerous when the harasser holds a position of power. If you are being sexually harassed: Chapter 5 1.Tell the harasser to stop 2.Report the harassment

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27. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Sexual Assault and Rape Sexual assault: any sexual activity in which force or the threat of force is used. Date rape: sexual intercourse that is forced on the victim by someone the victim knows. Most people who rape do so to gain power and control, not because they want sex. Alcohol and drugs can make you more vulnerable to sexual assault and rape. Chapter 5

28. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Sexual Assault and Rape Victims of rape and sexual assault may suffer the following effects: Chapter 5 Physical injuries Emotional trauma Pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases Guilt and shame Trouble sleeping and eating Post-traumatic stress disorder

29. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Protecting Yourself from Sexual Abuse and Violence At Home Keep doors and windows locked. Don’t open the door to strangers. Know your neighbors and how to contact others for help. On the Street Don’t go out alone, especially at night. Walk purposefully. Call for help if you feel threatened. By People You Know Use the skills you have learned for recognizing and preventing abuse. Chapter 5

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31. Copyright © by Holt, Rinehart and Winston. All rights reserved. Section 3 Sexual Abuse and Violence Help After a Sexual Assault If you have been raped or assaulted: Chapter 5 Make sure you are away from further harm. Call for help. Don’t change anything about yourself or your environment. DO NOT TAKE A SHOWER (EVIDENCE). Ask someone to take you to the hospital. Seek therapy or counseling.

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