1. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus …Even when dealing with Stress.

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4. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Your Stress Level NoStress ExtremelyHighStress

5. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Why are we so stressed out? Life is out of hand

6. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Unrealistic Expectations

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8. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Unrealistic Expectations

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10. 2X the Burdens of Our Mothers

11. www.marsvenuscoaching.com The Never-Ending To-Do List

12. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Lack of Appropriate Male Support

13. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Pressure to be Successful

14. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Difficult Economy

15. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Changing Roles of Women

16. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Work Life Balance

17. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Causes…

18. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Causes Elevated Stress Hormones

19. www.marsvenuscoaching.com What is Cortisol?

20. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Weakens Immune System

21. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Shuts-off Digestion

22. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Our Greatest Challenge 1.Men and women cope with stress differently 2.Our differences are intensified by stress

23. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Mars & Venus To Collide

24. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Complaints from Venus I have to juggle so many things, and he doesn’t seem to care or even want to help. Complaints from Mars When I offer to help, she always finds something wrong in my suggestions. Why bother? Why Mars and Venus Collide We both go to work. When we get home, why doesn’t he pitch in and help more? She always finds something new to complain about.

25. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Complaints from Venus He sits in front of the TV while I do everything. I am not his personal maid. Complaints from Mars She wants everything done right now. Why can’t she just relax? Why Mars and Venus Collide We never have time for romance anymore. He is either working, watching TV, gone, or sleeping. When I am in the mood, she is either too tired or overwhelmed with too many other things.

26. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Physiological Differences Gender differences in the brain's serotonin system

27. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Response differences In men, stress increased blood flow to the left orbitofrontal cortex suggested activation of the "fight or flight" response. In women, stress activated the limbic system, which is associated with emotional responses.

28. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Single-Focus versus Multi-Task The part of the brain that produces cross- talk between the hemispheres is… 25% smaller in Men.

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30. Single-Focus versus Multi-Task Man’s brain is highly specialized, using a specific part of a single-hemisphere to accomplish a task.

31. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Men get annoyed when a woman interrupts him

32. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Women get more stressed out when a man tries to narrow down her focus.

33. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Our relationships can be a source of: stress or comfort

34. www.marsvenuscoaching.com The Rub The Different Ways The Genders Cope With Stress Can Actually Increase Stress In The Opposite Sex.

35. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Radically Different Coping Mechanisms to Stress Men…

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37. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Women… Radically Different Responses to Stress

38. www.marsvenuscoaching.com What Helps Reduce Stress?

39. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Testosterone Peaks in the morning Depleted throughout the day Needs time to recover

40. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Stimulate Testosterone Success or the anticipation of success in the relationship Forgetting the problem even momentarily Engaging in less challenging activity Watching TV Reading Taking a nap Going into his cave

41. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Leaving a man alone is sometimes the best way to support him.

42. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Oxytocin – The love and nurturing hormone Reduces blood pressure, cortisol levels and fear Creates a feeling of attachment Increases maternal behavior and sexual interest

43. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Oxytocin Decreases when feeling… Alone Ignored Unsupported Unimportant Rushed Overwhelmed

44. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Oxytocin Testosterone generating activities at work reduce woman’s Oxytocin levels… Comes home without abundance of Oxytocin. Returning home after work causes most women’s stress to INCREASE.

45. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Man’s workday ends Woman’s 2 nd workday often begins

46. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Overwhelming

47. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Oxytocin Increases with trust and anticipation of needs being met…including a simple hug, conversation and show of support. Increases when helping, caring, sharing or befriending without expectations. Increases when nurturing self

48. www.marsvenuscoaching.com A woman’s greatest challenge caring for herself as much as she is caring for others.

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50. www.marsvenuscoaching.com A man’s greatest challenge Finding ways to feel needed and successful at work, in hobbies and with significant other.

51. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Men Need To Feel Needed and Women Need To Feel They Are Not Alone.

52. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Normal Stuff Manage your time Exercise regularly Get adequate sleep Eat a healthy diet Be assertive Live in the now

53. www.marsvenuscoaching.com  How you invest your time is one of the keys to reducing stress  Are you as productive during your day as you could be? Your Most Valuable Asset

54. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Your Productivity Level ExtremelyLowProductivity ExtremelyHighProductivity

55. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Empty your brain throughout the day…create a “Remember List” Create your To Do List at end of day Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize Do what makes you most UNCOMFORTABLE Share with accountability partner ALL THIS IS MEANINGLESS… How to Manage Your Time

56. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Set Aside Specific Time Projects Tasks Phone Emails Downtime Personal

57. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Filling-up the Oxytocin Tank By Her (90%) Do something nice for yourself and others Plan special occasion Ask for help Schedule a walk & talk Grow/make something Create a “Have Done” list Reach out to friends Hire a coach By Him (10%) Hug her 4x a day Leave her a note Take her on a date Give her a flower Notice her Listen to her Compliment her Give her a spa day Help her without being asked

58. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Mars Venus Reach out to people …talk Allow the to-do list to end… at least for the day Recognize the differences You NEED to connect, be heard He NEEDS to escape or feel needed

59. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Mars Venus Take time for yourself to recuperate from day Look for and celebrate “little” wins Find things you CAN fix Recognize the differences She NEEDs to connect, be heard You NEED to escape or feel needed

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61. 90 Day Plan % of Class Had Written Goals and Plans 3% Had Goals (but were not in writing) 13% Had No Specific Goals84%

62. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Set SMART Goals S = Specific M = Measureable A = Achievable R = Results-oriented T = Time-bound

63. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Set SMART Goal for Stress Example: Reduce my stress level by 3 points on my 1-10 scale within 90 days

64. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Your Own 2011 Plan Take your goal to reduce stress and create... Strategies: How are you going to achieve your goal? Tactics: What specifically are you going to do to deliver on that strategy? And how are you going to that? And by when?

65. www.marsvenuscoaching.com WRITTEN Success PLANS Goals Strategies Tactics KPIs Results

66. www.marsvenuscoaching.com   CHANGE the way you do things now.  See things more CLEARLY  FOCUS on what matters most.  Develop a plan of ACTION  Holds you ACCOUNTABLE. A Coach Helps…

67. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Next Steps - Meet With Us FREE call to discuss your situation Obtain INPUT from coaches around the world Get you FOCUSED on solutions Create a PLAN to reduce your stress and create the life you’ve always wanted

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71. www.marsvenuscoaching.com Schedule time and day now. Schedule time and day now. "There are risks and costs to a plan of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction." -John F. Kennedy