1. For Friday: Daily Prayers and Sabbath Judaism 101 site: jewfaq.org http://jewfaq.org/shabbat.htm http://jewfaq.org/liturgy.htm Next week: Calendar and Festivals. Week after: Finish Calendar, and Kashrut. http://jewfaq.org/shabbat.htm http://jewfaq.org/liturgy.htm

2. Marriages… Mitvah #63: Be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1,28) God is matchmaker Consent of bride required.

3. Consent is given in one of 3 ways Acceptance of money (Ring) Contract (Ketubah) Sexual intercourse (strongly discouraged by the sages).

4. KETUBAH www.ketubah-gallery.com/allartists1.htm www.ketubah-gallery.com/allartists1.htm Husband’s obligations to wife during marriage and divorce.

5. Date Not on Sabbath or important festivals Tuesdays are often picked: –Bible says twice that the 3 rd day was “good”.

6. No specific place required In Synagogue At home Outside Under the stars: Abraham promised offspring as numerous as the “stars of heaven”

7. Huppah

8. Anyone can officiate. Rabbis have license from govt. to perform weddings.

9. 2 part Ceremony Betrothal: KEDUSHIN accepting contract Wedding: NISUIN Ancient times, 1 year separated 2 parts Now both performed together.

10. Ceremony: Rabbi reviews Ketubah which will be read out loud.

11. “ Be sanctified to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel.”

12. Marriage: A RELIGIOUS union under the laws of the state.

13. Divorce. Men have the right to divorce their wives. –Infidelity, incompatibility. Women do not have the right to divorce.

14. “Get” A document of divorce given to the woman. Rabbis made strict rules about the GET to discourage divorce.

15. Get. Indicates woman is free to remarry. Without it, a woman cannot remarry. TRADITIONAL JUDAISM DOES NOT ACCEPT CIVIL DIVORCE! Soldier may give wife conditional get before a battle in case of capture.

16. Death “Naked I came from my mother's womb, And naked I shall return there. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away. Blessed be the name of the LORD.” Job 1:21

17. Death Cannot hasten death: no Euthanasia, assisted suicide: Withdrawing life support is allowed.

18. Funerals Usually within 24 hours. Delays allowed for family to arrive.

19. Mourning Respect the dead Comfort the grieving.

20. Holy Society. Helps family with funeral etc. Pays respect to the deceased. Great Charity work: the dead cannot repay them.

21. Shomrim “Keepers” of the body –Forbidden to keep commandments, eat or drink –A joy the dead cannot share..

22. Corpse never left alone: Eyes are closed Laid on floor.

23. Whole body must be buried. Autopsies restricted. No embalming. Organ donations are debated. No cremation.

24. Corpse washed Wrapped in simple shroud and Tallit Rich and Poor are equal in death.

25. Coffins Very simple if used at all Holes drilled in them so body can contact the earth.

26. Funerals Body is not displayed.

27. Tombstones Sometimes not be erected for a year after burial. Mourners place stones by grave

28. Tombstones Hebrew Names used Star of David Menorah

29. Mourning Different periods of mourning. Decreasing intensity.

30. 1- “ANINUIT: from death to funeral. “Positive” commandments annulled. mourner to care for deceased. Symbolic meal for the close family.

31. Advice: leave the family alone during mourning. "May the Lord comfort you with all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem."

32. 2. “Shiva” “SEVEN” days Immediate family Family sits on low stools or on floor. Luxury items put away.

33. Shiva Mourning suspended at important festivals. Sabbath in mourning.

34. Shloshim (Thirty) End of “7” period to thirtieth day since burial. Parties, music etc. forbidden.

35. Avelut (mourning for parents). For a year after the death of parents Parties, music etc. avoided, First 11 months, mourner recites KADDISH prayer every day.

36. Anniversary of parents death remembered After a year, formal mourning is forbidden. Prayers may still be made on festival days.